Dating a sensitive man could feel like having too much responsibility, but it will also be the deepest soul-connection that you will ever experience. A sensitive man has an air of calmness and exhibits a sense of self-assurance and confidence. He knows how to value and respect the feelings of others, because he understands his own.
While it can be great to have a caring and sensitive man by your side, you need to know that there are certain tips that can make help you have the best experience with a sensitive man. But before we go there, let us know what makes sensitive men so desirable.
What makes sensitive men so desirable?
While many women feel attracted to those macho men who are outgoing with a charismatic personality, it is the sensitive men to whom you can pour your heart out without any inhibitions. Someone who could listen to you endlessly, someone who makes you feel so comfortable that you feel like opening up to them – that is your sensitive man.
Reminds you of your high-school or college friends?
Well, yes, the kind of men who would listen to your stories and be patient with you on your worst days. The guys who seemed to care less about winning and losing, and more about peace and compromise to end an argument. That is the kind of men you should be dating, right?
Sensitive men have this innate quality of going over little things like body language, tone of voice, mood swings and the like. They seem to guess how their partner is just by looking at them. It is more like a biological trait that shapes up in early childhood. Some characteristics of a sensitive man that make him attractive and desirable are –
- He remembers things you said before; he is a careful listener and you will be pleased when he can make references to earlier conversations
- He seems to have very little or no ego issues at all
- He is more interested in what you do, what you are like when you are alone. He is interested in you and will give you signs
- Sensitive men are also more appealing, in the sense that they seem to have high morals and principles
- He will often show his love and appreciation to you, through subtle gestures and words. Occasionally, a thoughtful gift may come your way
Sounds nice, eh?
Sensitive men are wired to process the subtlest signs and act accordingly, and that makes them perfect for women who are looking for a kind, compassionate and understanding partner. But dating a sensitive man comes with its own set of challenges, since sometimes he may appear disconnected and restless all at once. And that’s why these tips will help you make the most of your time with a man who is this delicate mix of good and bad things.
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6 practical tips that come in handy when dating a sensitive man
A man who is tuned to his sensitive side can be a tough bet, because he may not be an effective communicator. He may be something else to the world, but if you are the one for him, he will be the most caring man on earth. He will share his heart with you, and sometimes it can get a bit overwhelming. And this is why you need to know these practical tips when dating a sensitive man.
1. Give him your time and attention
Men who are sensitive crave attention and time. Listen to what he has to say, and when we say ‘listen’, it is not about planning to respond the moment your turn comes – but about listening to everything he says, and everything he does not. Give him the attention he deserves; after all, he notices every single thing about you.
Sensitive men put in a lot of thought when they talk, each word has been carefully selected to convey the message. And they deserve to be listened to, with all the attention. Don’t rush him to finish, because he will be slow. Just be there for him, understand what he is trying to convey and instil in him the trust that you care.
2. Do not be impatient with him
Sensitive men are not the best men to make quick decisions.
That means even the simplest of things like what to eat or which movie to watch can set off a whole thought process into action. They will analyse and think, and think and think. Life is too much fast paced and they may seem like taking forever for everything.
You need to understand that your caring man is going to consider many possibilities, analyse and over analyse the outcomes, and overthink the consequences. Even
when making the simplest decisions – like whether to eat pasta or pizza.
Be patient with him, do not rush him and don’t pressurise him and give him extra stress. He is already under loads!
3. Give him his space and time
Giving space has been stressed on a lot of late, because relationships now are much complex than ever before. It is nice to be together and be there for each other, but then there are times when we need some time and space to ourselves.
All of us need time and space to breathe and process our thoughts; do our own thing and take stock of our own challenges and aspirations in life. No matter how much you want to be there for each other, there are times when we all need to solve our problems ourselves.
Sensitive people need their time and space – much more than us.
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4. Acknowledge his needs and communicate yours clearly
Just as important it is to acknowledge his needs, it is equally important to clearly communicate yours. Just as you are taking baby steps to make sure you have the best time loving him, give him the same opportunity and make the relationship a beautiful connection of minds.
No one, not even this thoughtful man, is a mind reader. While a sensitive man seems to read between the signs, do not assume him he will know what you feel without telling him. Be vocal with your thoughts and expectations, and do not just sit there and wait for him to ask. Do the talking yourself.
And you have to express yourself clearly to have a healthy and fruitful relationship. Start with something like ‘I need….’ to garner his attention. And wait for him to reciprocate – being sensitive does not mean he has to have it all and you have to walk on eggshells all the time!
5. Do not trigger his soft spots
All of us have some ‘soft spots’. Sensitive men too have lots of emotional vulnerabilities which may have stemmed from their growing years. These are the things that can generate powerfully, and often unexpected responses from your otherwise thoughtful man.
To stay away from giving rise to these intense feelings, learn about his soft spots and avoid them at all costs. Show him you love and care for him, and understand him better so as not to trigger anything that sets him off.
Sensitive men are emotionally quite vulnerable, and these weaknesses, when magnified, can make them feel inadequate and shameful.
6. Express your love unconditionally
The male ego is quite a fragile thing – men have been proved to be just as insecure as women. Just like women, they worry about everything – from their looks to their cars and the size of their manhood. And just like us women, they need to be admired, validated and appreciated, more often than we think.
That was about men in general. For your sensitive man, it holds a lot of importance to be expressive about your feelings for him. Put your feelings into action – an appreciative text, a love you note, holding his hands in public, rewarding him during intimate moments and so on.
Sensitive men do not have a macho image to maintain, and they can be very affectionate. They will feel loved when you walk hand-in-hand in public, and will most likely demonstrate their affection with some sweet nothings too!
A sensitive man in love will go beyond the ordinary to make you happy and feel loved. All you need to do is meet him halfway to have a beautiful, magical relationship.
However, relationships are always two-way streets. While it is nice of you to accommodate his needs and moods, your man too needs to reciprocate. Someone who is too much into himself may not make the best partner for you. Sometimes, two people are just not meant to be together, and in such a case, it is best to call it quits.