Q: My name is Ruchika. I am 30 years old. I have been divorced twice. The first time, my husband was impotent and in my second marriage, he was gay. I am really disturbed and depressed. I am worried a lot about my future. I always ask myself, why me? I have lost confidence. I need a partner but don’t know how to proceed. I feel no one will believe me if I say that I faced such issues in the past. I always wanted a normal married life with a passionate sex life, but unfortunately I did not get it. Recently I’ve been attracted towards my cousin who is 5 years younger than me. I have feelings for him. We chat but of late even that has reduced. I feel very lonely. I don’t know where and how to direct my sexual outpouring. Sometimes I wonder if it is ok for a girl to be so vocal about her sexual feelings. Please help me. I have lost my way.
A: Two things: first, you need to believe and really believe in the fibre of your emotional existence that what happened in your last two marriages was NOT your fault. And second,