My own pregnancy has taught me that there is a long way to go with people learning how to treat a pregnant woman. We know everything you do or say comes from a place of concern and while we appreciate that, there are also some boundaries regarding what you should do or say. A pregnant woman is nature’s miracle and you really do not want to get on her bad side!
Many times people treat a pregnant lady like she is handicapped and offer to help all the time and every time. As for the spouses, there is too much confusion regarding the dos and don’ts, and the thin line between caring and being overbearing often gets blurred.
Stop worrying so much and making things worse! Here are some handy tips being provided by yours truly who’s been there and done that, and by that, I mean been knocked up. I’ll tell you how you really need to be treating a pregnant woman right.
Pregnancy Care Tips
There are a lot of ways to annoy a pregnant woman, and trust us, with those hormones running amok, you do not want to mess with her. Let me tell you how to treat a pregnant woman to avoid her wrath and a silly faux pas.
First and most important: never congratulate a woman on being pregnant simply because she looks so, it may just be a case of a woman’s weight gain or genetics. It is absolutely criminal to congratulate someone who you think is pregnant when she’s actually not. There ought to be a law against kind evil actions.
Then, there is a thin line between being considerate toward a pregnant person and being over-affectionate. Actually, the line, though thin, is vivid; do not touch her stomach unless you are her spouse. Yes, even though you may be an extremely close family member, she still may prefer you across the diameter of her belly.
The care and treatment of a woman during pregnancy also include not grazing your hand over her unnecessarily. Kindly try and explain this to your children too. Though God knows I have tried hard with mine and failed on occasion. I find him checking not only my friend’s belly but also his grandfather’s where he firmly believes a baby has been hiding for way too long!
Caring For Your Pregnant Wife
If you are the spouse and the would-be father (can be mutually exclusive), if you are the cause of the impregnation, then caring for your pregnant wife becomes a huge responsibility on your shoulders. Remember the following and you might just sail through:
- Be the snack carrier: The spouse is the official snack carrier. Bear in mind if your partner craves sugar or salt and carry a snack pack with you everywhere. If she has asked for food, it means she wanted it 10 minutes ago and it has to be your job to provide, else face serious consequences. How to treat a pregnant woman is about listening out for her belly rumbling because she will not wait
- Be Considerate: Please be considerate. Offer her a seat when you can and open the door for her. Treat her special, for she really is. Carry some bags for her, for she has enough to carry on her own anyway. Help out and make life easier for her, but do not make her feel handicapped. In this case, there is a good chance that you are damned if you do and damned if you don’t
- Love her even when she is irrational: You need to make her feel loved always, no matter how irrational she is being. You must not highlight any forgotten errands. Remember, she forgot, because you, the spouse, you the sperm provider, you the father-to-be failed to remind her. She is carrying your child and so she has the trump card. The care and treatment of a woman during pregnancy is all about letting her have the upper hand without fighting it
- Learn to manage sexual desires: Yeah, you’re not getting any. Say goodbye to any and all sexual fantasies
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Care And Treatment Of A Woman During Pregnancy
Wondering how to treat a woman during pregnancy? Some points and factors are relevant to anyone and everyone interacting with a pregnant woman. You may probably pop in a comment about how she does not look 6 months (or whatever) pregnant.
You mention that she looks too thin or that she looks far along. Either way, ‘zip it’. She does not need your opinion about how she looks. Don’t even think about giving her post-pregnancy weight tips already.
She probably worries about how she looks every single day as she rummages through her wardrobe choosing what to wear. Being pregnant is a huge bodily transformation that a woman is already navigating. Do not try to be an expert. Unless you are the woman’s doctor, stay away from the topic of weight.
The other don’t is that you simply must not tell horrific stories of the doomsday that is the day of labor. This lady does not need to know of someone whose labor lasted 48 hours or of someone who had a C-sec after screaming in pain for 24 hours or any other gory story on those lines.
Kindly refrain from giving the woman your version of paranoia. She does not need it, she has her own set of worries and your stories could simply lead to nightmares if you don’t know how to treat a pregnant woman.
In essence, no complaining around a pregnant woman ever is the basic mantra. Whether caring for your pregnant wife or dealing with a pregnant acquaintance, know your boundaries. She’s carrying enough weight on her mind and a few other places and therefore her belly is bigger than yours… I mean her problems are always bigger than yours.