Crushes! Do you have any idea how this word even originated? Well, I don’t. But I assume it has something to do with a feeling of your heart being squeezed to a point where you cannot breathe. And yet, you feel quite elated. The intensity of this feeling and the way a person reacts to a crush would depend on age, character, location and other factors but let me not ramble on about that. Let’s get down to specifics. We’re talking about women and what she does when she has a crush on a man.
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10 Things She Starts Doing When She Has A Crush On Someone
Men, if you are curious to know more, do read on. Such intellectual insights will help you understand the depth and complexities of our shining personalities. You can then decide if you want to stick around and be entertained, or turn around and run for your life.
For the sake of convenience, we will call the object of her desire, ‘the crush’ and the girl who has a crush on him, ‘Alysha’.
So here we go…
1. Sprucing up
This is probably the first step she will take to get noticed. It demands a long-overdue visit to the salon where she will undergo the torturous process of getting her face scrubbed, bleached, steamed, kneaded and peeled to bring about a certain glow.
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She will also attempt to tame the mane to further accentuate her looks. The purse strings will open quite a bit, to accommodate this feeling of euphoria.
2. Getting visibility
There’s no point in sitting at home and brooding about a crush. So even if she’s an introvert, she’ll make an effort to step out of her comfort space and be seen, especially in places where she knows the crush hangs out. What if he hangs out at cricket matches? Well, at this point, she will struggle with thoughts of all the money she recently splurged at the salon vs being fried in the sun.
After much deliberation, she will make the supreme sacrifice and make it to the cricket match, hoping he will notice and begin to like what he sees, blotchy skin and all.
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3. Opening to new hobbies
These hobbies are not the kind that would necessarily give her pleasure but the ones that will create an impression that she’s sporty, adventurous, knowledgeable and an all-rounder.
She will devour sports news, start making wine, up her cooking skills, hit the gym and maybe even attempt some rock-climbing and bungee-jumping. Should such topics be discussed in a group where the crush is present, she’s counting on someone saying, ‘Oh, Alysha does that’ or ‘You must meet Alysha if you want to go canoeing.’
This strategy is called repetitive advertising for optimal remembrance, to generate interest.
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4. Wearing a winning smile
A smile is the best make-up a woman can wear. So she will be wearing one at all times – especially when she’s applying make-up, reading a book, talking to your friends or simply staring into space. Why does she do it? Oh, it’s just to get her friends curious to know what she’s smiling about. It doesn’t mean she’s going to tell them what her thoughts are. But good to get them curious to know what’s up.
5. Developing magnanimity
I don’t know if this is scientifically proven but when a woman has a crush, her tolerance levels will spike to unrealistic levels. She is ready to forgive everyone and everything around her.
Confrontations with the rickshaw driver for overcharging, that annoying elbow in the bus that keeps poking into her, the storekeeper who never has changed for Rs 2000, the bike rider who overtakes her from the left, her neighbour’s dirty garbage bin that she has to see every morning, the dhobi who is never regular – this list could go on and on but if he’s in her thoughts, all is forgiven.
Important note: The hairdresser who gave her a bad haircut, the tailor who messed up her new dress and the beautician who threaded her eyebrows all wrong will not be forgiven.
6. Befriending his friends
Perhaps I should put this action as number 3 in the list. Unless she knows his friends and they, in turn, know her, how are they expected to talk about her? She will sugar up to his friends to get more information about the crush.
She will do everything humanly possible to be liked by them, impress them with her witty charm and ever-helpful nature. If she succeeds, her name may make the rounds whenever the crush meets up with his peeps.
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7. Gravitating towards romantic music
She will surf the net, looking for the ‘latest romantic songs’, ‘love songs 2019’, ‘romantic songs female version’. Language is not a barrier, be it Hollywood, Bollywood, Kollywood and even Latino.
What if she loves the music but can’t figure out the language? Well, she will Google, ‘lyrics of xxxxxx English translation’ to help her. She will then spend hours, especially at night devouring the net to find the perfect song that she can listen to while dreaming of the crush. If she is already in touch with the crush, she will send him the song hoping he takes the hint and responds favourably.
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8. Learning the art of taking selfies
She’ll continuously change her DP on WhatsApp, Facebook and Instagram. They are all candid shots taken by her, placing her mobile at an angle that makes it look like she was unaware of it. To achieve this is a tedious task. She has to put on makeup and then smudge it a bit so she doesn’t look made up. She will comb her hair in such a way that it looks untidy and windblown. The tilt of the head to one side, that smile where only one-half of her lips will curve, are other aspects to be considered.
The idea is to come across as this smoking hot diva, who isn’t aware of her looks.
If questioned on why she changes her DP regularly, she will either look shocked and say, ‘Did I? Really…?” or get defensive and say, ‘I changed it only because Kavya said I looked boring yaar…..’
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9. Updating Social Media
What better way to let the crush know what’s on her mind or where she loves to hang out than through status updates. She will score the net to find witty, abstract one-liners to be used on her Instagram bio or WhatsApp and Snapchat status. Some examples are, ‘Looking for that someone in my life’ ‘Chandu – my favourite hangout Mon-Fri’ or ‘Mein yahan, tu Kahan….?. Well, you get the drift, don’t you?
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10. WhatsApp spamming
If you are wondering what that means, let me explain since I just invented it. She will send the crush a pic with a quote/message every morning and again in the evening. It’s a prod to remember her every morning and night. The poor girl is so infatuated that she doesn’t realise he may not appreciate a daily dose of her philosophy or even wit.
But such is love or infatuation or crush or whatever you want to call it. Bittersweet and short-lived yet the greatest period of a girl’s life.
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