5 kinds of fights you pick with your partner when you’re falling out of love

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Fights that are an indication that you’re falling out of love

Many people know the signals when they are falling in love. Falling out of love is, however, a painful and confusing experience. When there is hardly anything common between the two of you and you feel no lust anymore, it is time to ponder whether you want to make an attempt to stay in love or it is time for you to move on.

Some of the indications and the fights that you pick with your significant other (SO) when the love is no longer an ingredient in your relationship are listed below.

1. Fighting about the finances

If you have now started keeping a track of expenses you made on him/her and are deliberately bringing the topic of how you have done financially everything, clearly love has gone missing in the equation. When you’re falling out of love, you start looking at your SO as another person and consider every penny spent on them as a transactional affair. If you are a woman who has taken care of the home, done his laundry, cooked for him and now you feel you need to be paid for your services, evidently you’ve already fallen out of the relationship.

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2. Fighting about the past sexcapades

In many cases, if you want a reason to fight and to end it because you’ve had enough, you may start asking them about their sex encounters with their past partners and about how good they were in comparison to you. You may start picking on this fight to counter argue by saying, “Oh, so I am not as good as he/she was!” If you are too focused on your spouse’s past and are no longer thinking of your future with them, it could be a signal that you have started falling out of love.

3. Discussing controversial topics

Couples do not like to discuss a few things which are strictly a part of their “own” individual space. If you start to bring up those topics, evidently you’re asking for a fight. For example, if you are asking him about what his/her folks think of your partnership or how he/she has a problem in bed. Such things are best to be not discussed, but when you are looking at opportunities to pick a fight, such controversial topics come to your assistance.

4. Digging out the past arguments

If in the past, you have had some major argument about something and now after several months you are still clinging on to it, it can be said without a shadow of a doubt that you have nothing left to look forward to in your relationship with your spouse. Speaking about how he/she said something nasty to you in the heat of the moment and now trying to take a revenge for something that happened in the ‘ancient’ past, is a signal that you are contemplating a fight just to find a reason to end it.

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5. Fight about the future

If your significant other is talking about the future with you and you are ignoring it or telling them to think only about the present, then this fight is endless. Moreover, if you are picking a fight with them about something in the future that is yet to happen, for example talking about your kids, pets, your in-laws or anything that is really just a picture in the air, then you are trying to make an excuse to quit from the relationship.

Falling out of love is a tough thing, especially when it is one-sided. Some organic changes in you such as picking up on petty or unreal things to make the relationship complicated is a trait in people who are wanting to leave without any blame from the relationship. It is best to let your partner know of your feelings rather than hurting them. A simple and straightforward conversation with your partner will make things easier for both of you and you’ll be able to cut out the drama before your exit.

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1 comment

Lynda April 10, 2019 - 7:58 am

These reasons are really common. That’s why it’s important that you keep the spark in your relationship by doing things that help you and your partner have a goal in your relationship.

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