Being single has its own benefits
Being single means you can find fulfillment without depending on others and it’s a great state to be in.
But it’s easier said than done. However, your single-hood most definitely shouldn’t define your happiness. So what if you haven’t found the right one yet? You are still surrounded by a lot of amazing people who care about you. Being in a relationship isn’t a cure for all your life worries (in fact it’s the opposite in many cases), but when you are not in a relationship its normal to feel blue from time to time. The world around you looks like a big blob of couples that drop on your single life when your heart aches to have someone beside you to cuddle with. We get the feeling and we also understand why it’s easier to get drowned in the loneliness of your single life.
But being single doesn’t mean you have to feel lonely. Even the most perfect couples feel lonely from time to time, because it’s human! Moreover, you don’t need to be in a relationship to have fun and socialise with like-minded people. You can do all of that on your own. We understand that loneliness is inevitable and dealing with it gets difficult when you are single. Which is why we are going to take you for a walk around this single life and offer you a change of perspective.
Focus on yourself to become the person you would want to date
It doesn’t matter if you are in your 30s or 40s, you will find someone despite what the ‘odds’ say if you are ready to believe in it. It’s tempting to succumb to a depressive state of ‘I’m never going to find someone’ but nobody knows what tomorrow may bring. If anything is constant in the universe, it’s change. So, to change your relationship status on Facebook you first have to start believing that the change will come sooner or later.
To be ready to acknowledge that change when it comes knocking on your door you must focus on becoming a better version of you. Instead of looking for someone who can complete you (meaning, you are not whole to begin with) use your single-hood to work on yourself well enough so that someone will feel lucky for being your date!
It’s because self-improvement is more important for every single human being that being in a relationship. So now that you finally have some me time, put it to good use instead of sulking with boredom and loneliness. Connect with yourself. Let go off the past. Learn to accept and move on. Reflect on your thoughts and discard the unnecessary ones. Use this time to build a new ‘You’.
Meet new people, be open to new experiences and socialise
Not having a romantic relationship right now shouldn’t stop you from enjoying life. Plan a night out with your friends or throw an in-house slumber party. Go visit that museum you have always wanted to. If none of your friends have the time, go solo. It’s not sad; it just means you are enough for yourself. Surround yourself with the kind of company that doesn’t make you feel bad about yourself and spends some quality time.
While you are at it, get active on Tinder. Don’t look at it as a desperate move to find a mate. It just means you want to stay abreast of what’s going on in the dating zone. Plus it gives you a quick ego boost! When you like somebody over there don’t be afraid to initiate a conversation and see where it goes. It doesn’t have to end up as a romantic adventure, but socialising with new people is always a fun thing to do and a great way to feel less lonely.
Investing your time and energy in a relationship to ensure it works out the way you want is a gamble. Sometimes it clicks, sometimes it leaves you feeling shattered. But in no case your special someone could safeguard you forever from feeling lonely. It’s a part of your existence and only you, nobody but you, can help yourself to find a way to get past the loneliness.