When your fantasies come alive with sex chats
Sex chat or sexting has caught up miraculously. It can induce whole other levels of pleasure and connect you mentally with your partner. Physical distance has got nothing on you then. Sure, for the first time, sex chat, like actual sex might not go so well. But unlike actual sex, sex chats do not bar you from letting your imagination and fantasies come alive. Keep at it, and see your partner run wild by the power of your words.
Do a little dance. Sex chat for the first time can be nerve-racking
(anything for the first time can leave you nervous). Loosen yourself up with a glass of wine. Take a shower. Drink a tall glass of water. Put on some mellow music. Anything that helps you be comfortable will do.
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You don’t want anyone walking in when you have your sexiest voice on and telling naughty stuff to your man. The crucial part of sex chat, whether you do it on call or on messages, is to have an uninterrupted flow. Someone barging in while you are getting hot and heavy on the phone is a mood killer. You lose track of the conversation and it can often be hard to get going again. Lock the door or find a place where you can talk without feeling the need to keep an eye out for people walking in.
Slowly detonate your sex bomb
Start slow. If your man asks “So what are you up to,” think something sexy. You might be sitting there in your favourite night dress but as far as he is concerned you are wearing your black fishnets. Be the Provocateur. Answer with something like “Trying out my fishnets.” The bomb is in place. His imagination is running wild already. He knows you are oozing sex appeal.
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Compliments go a long way
Don’t be shy with words of encouragement. You like when he lowers his voice and grunts? Let him know, “I like it when you do that.” If you are enjoying it, he enjoys it too.
Don’t be shy with your words
You are good with words. Don’t always be on the receiving end. If you are using messages for sex chat, let your wit out. The crasser it gets, the better effect it has on both of you. It might be a little weird at first, but dirty talking on the phone has a sort of deadly sexiness to it. Settle into the dirty lingo gradually. Since sex chats let your imagination run wild, don’t hold back. Let your darkest, steamiest fantasies lose.
Keep your cool
You have your freak on and he has his freakiest self out. You are proceeding to places where porn fantasies are coming to life. And he says something wild that freaks you out. Remember he does not want to try everything he says over the phone. When chats like this make you want to go, “You want to do what?” try something like, “Oh you would love that, wouldn’t you?” Try to be comfortable with the fact that it’s just virtual sexting. However, if things get a little too uncomfortable for you (I have heard about rape fantasies), let your man know that it’s not cool.
Take the lead
Ask him to describe what would he do. Lead him with your words. Add fantasies of your own in his conversation. The Princess Leia fantasy of his is fantastic; turn it steamier by introducing two more women in it. All men like a threesome and there is no such thing as too many women. Tell your man what you are imagining. Something like you going down on the women while pleasuring him as well. But lead him to keep the focus on you mainly.
Sex chat is harmless fun. Leaves you wanting more and when you two actually get down to it, you both know what you are into.Published in