Breakups and heart breaks suck. After a breakup, you want to know whether a guy regrets hurting you or has moved on. You want to look for signs he regrets hurting you, and that will give you a little peace. But at times, guys move on after a breakup without as much as twitching an eye. Well, that’s how the world is.
Sometimes, guys hurt you and leave you for their own stupid reasons but eventually start to regret hurting you. They feel guilty and feel like they owe it to you for hurting you. Their guilt starts eating them from inside and you’ll notice something off about him. He will start checking on you more often, bring up the past or say how sorry he is. Sometimes guys just stay silent and it’s hard to decode how they feel inside.
How do you know if your ex regrets breaking up with you?
So, how long does it take for a guy to regret breaking up? A day, week or month? That depends on how well the guy is able to hide his feelings. After the break up, he will show that the break up hasn’t affected him. He will party, post pictures and show how happy he is. After all the hangover of all those fake parties wears off, he will go MIA. He won’t text or call anyone much and he will go silent for some time. This is when the breakup will start hitting him and regret will kick in.
Breakups are not easy, even for the ones who dump their partners.
For whatever reasons a break up happens, everyone does wonder whether it was a right call or not.
9 Signs He Regrets Hurting You
He won’t let you know just yet that he feels guilty for hurting you. If he’s hurting, he might not even let you know that he regrets hurting you. Perhaps, he wants to get back together with you. Perhaps, he wants both of you to move on now but he regrets the regrets the breakup. These are the things about breakup that no one will tell you. You will have to follow the signs he regrets hurting you and here are 9 of them.
1. He will be quieter than usual
He won’t say what’s up with him but he will stay quiet. He will pretend to have fun and mingle with his friends but you can see the fake smiles. Guys love hiding their feelings but eventually when they get tired of faking it, it will eventually show on their face. When you ask him, he will make excuses and blame it on sleep or some sickness. When your heart asks you, if he regrets breaking up with me, also ask yourself, why would he not be his normal self then? It’s his guilt and regret that is killing his energy and faking it also is seeming like a burden for him.
2. He checks on you more than usual
Even after the breakup he will show his concern for you. In the beginning, he might not ask you directly but will ask your best friend for updates. You will feel confused as to why is he showing his concern after you both have broken up? Remember when you would ask yourself, “Does he regret breaking up with me? Is this a sign he regrets hurting me?“ You have your answers here. His guilt is making him realize his mistake and he regrets hurting you. He wants to check on you to see how you are coping with the wounds he has given you by hurting you.
3. He is too happy
He will show everyone how much he enjoys being single again. He will post on social media and share posts about the perks of his single life. When you see him, he will smile at you and talk as if nothing ever happened. He will behave as if he is the most optimistic person in the world. Never have his friends seen him this way. He will keep talking about how great everything is and how light he feels. It is as if he is working too hard to cover for the breakup. If someone asks him about the break up, he might talk about it for a few seconds and then change the topic to something happy and light.
It’s as if all of a sudden all his positive vibes have got charged. No one can be so perfect after the breakup. He’s covering for his regret and it’s obvious.
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4. He can’t stop showing up
Whether it’s a common friend’s party or any small get together, you’ll also find him. You both may have many common friends, but showing up in every function, doesn’t that seem odd? Has he always been this active when it comes to attending parties? It’s not only the parties, but you’ll even find him at your regular places. You go to your regular restaurant, supermarket or outside your workplace, you’ll find him there.
It may seem like a strange coincidence but truth be told, he knows your schedule and knows where to find you. May seem a bit stalker-like, but it’s his way of checking on you. Cute or Creepy? It’s for you to decide.
5. He will change for you
He knows you in and out and also knows ways to win your heart back. He won’t say upfront that he wants you back but his gestures will make it clear. When you both were in a relationship you might have told him to quit smoking or about how much you wanted him to quit wearing funny shoes. You both must have even had fights on these topics but he didn’t seem to change.
All of a sudden you will notice these differences. These gestures may be sweet but they won’t fix what was wrong with the relationship.
6. He will find ways to talk to you
The guy is now on his guilt trip and his instincts are leading him towards you. He feels that talking to you will make you feel better and his regret will lessen a bit. You will notice him being too active on text messages.
He will reply to your messages in seconds which is strange for a guy who has just broken up with you. He will call you or text you for little things and want your advice on it – be it what to order for food today or which series to binge watch. This is his way of saying that even after the breakup, you mean something to him.
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7. He tries to make you laugh
Does he regret dumping me? This is the question you ask yourself each day. He may have dumped you for some reasons but it doesn’t mean that he stopped caring about you. He cares for you and he regrets dumping you. He knows that you are very hurt because of the breakup and all he can think about is to bring you back to your normal self again. He will crack jokes, make you laugh, try to cheer you up with your favourite food. You will see him going out of his way to bring you back to your cheerful and happy self.
8. He apologizes
He feels sorry for hurting you. Eventually he will crack and reveal the truth behind all these gestures he is making. He will apologize for hurting you and breaking you from inside. Some men take time to apologize when they feel guilty for something but eventually when they break, you can see how sorry they feel for their mistakes.
He will tell you about his thoughts since the break up and ask for your forgiveness. He possibly regrets the breakup and wants another chance. Whether to forgive him or not is your call.
9. He will want to get back with you
An ex who regrets breaking up with you will feel sorry for his actions and some part of him will tell him that he needs to fix this. Sometimes his way of fixing will be by getting back to you. Feeling the regret for hurting you is one of the worse things he feels right now and one of the ways to ease the pain might be by getting back with you. His guilt and regret may be because he is still in love with you and can’t bear the fact that you won’t be in his life. He will tell you how wrong he was by breaking up with you and want to get back. What are you going to do?
It is normal for people who initiated the break up to feel regret. Feelings for one another just don’t vanish with the breakup. Some of it always remains. The person who initiates the break up feels like they owe it to fix things and thus try to make things right. He regrets breaking up with you because it means that he still cares for you. Many a times we mistake this care for love and think that our ex wants to get back with us. Always try to differentiate between your ex trying to right his wrongs from him wanting to get back with you. Don’t get your hopes high.
If he says that he wants to get back with you, ask yourself whether it is a good idea and whether the problems in your relationship can really be fixed. The call is yours.
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