Women and masturbation
The idea that women can find pleasure in the own bodies is frowned upon by societies all over the world. We can blame social conditioning, the patriarchal system and the unfortunate fact that women are seen as property just as material wealth, cattle, and assets are.
Any pleasure that may have been discovered by chance is kept under wraps, for fear of censure, by men and the general society. So women have learnt to keep their heads down and deny themselves of any happiness. The lesson here is ‘ignorance is bliss’, you won’t miss anything you don’t know about.
The girl child is taught not to sit with her legs apart and to keep herself adequately covered, so they may not attract attention. There was also a fear that if the girl child discovers her sexuality then the yearning for it will lead her astray. That men will notice and it will lead to sexual abuse. Of course, our men cannot let go of any instance of a sexual experience – or so the rape culture of Haryana pontifies. The possibility of such a sexual activity is made even more difficult in joint families.
Masturbation has become a significant possibility in today’s time and age
Now that families are becoming nuclear and the woman has the time and space to explore her own body, masturbation has become a significant possibility. When a girl child has the freedom to be on her own, fantasy world, the discovery of pleasure in her own body becomes easier. There is evidence of very small babies enjoying their bodies, without any touching, and of 3-year-old girls using their fingers to pleasure themselves.