Women and masturbation
The idea that women can find pleasure in their own bodies is frowned upon by societies all over the world. We can blame social conditioning, the patriarchal system and the unfortunate fact that women are seen as property just as material wealth, cattle, and assets are.
Any pleasure that may have been discovered by chance is kept under wraps, for fear of censure, by men and the general society. So women have learnt to keep their heads down and deny themselves of any happiness. The lesson here is ‘ignorance is bliss’, you won’t miss anything you don’t know about.
The girl child is taught not to sit with her legs apart and to keep herself adequately covered, so they may not attract attention. There was also a fear that if the girl child discovers her sexuality then the yearning for it will lead her astray. That man will notice and it will lead to sexual abuse. Of course, our men cannot let go of any instance of sexual experience – or so the rape culture of Haryana pontifies. The possibility of such sexual activity is made even more difficult in joint families.
Masturbation has become a significant possibility in today’s time and age
Now that families are becoming nuclear and the woman has the time and space to explore her own body, masturbation has become a significant possibility. When a girl child has the freedom to be on her own, fantasy world, the discovery of pleasure in her own body becomes easier. There is evidence of very small babies enjoying their bodies, without any touching, and of 3-year-old girls using their fingers to pleasure themselves.
Of course, there was my nephew all of 4 who declared that sometimes his penis gets very hard, to a large family gathering, resulting in a guffaw of laughter in the group. As they grow, parents and other elders restrict this free expression and introduce shame and guilt in such a simple natural pleasure.
So many women know nothing of masturbation even after marriage and wonder why they are so unhappy because sex is just a set of actions that seem to make her husband happy and leaves her high and dry.
In early centuries women who were in this state were deemed insane and treated accordingly. This is this the era of information and knowledge and yet women seem to look for all pleasure from their man, not realising that it’s all in their own hands! Here are some reasons why all women, whether married or not, must masturbate.
1. The best way to ensure the HQ
The Happiness Quotient is ensured by masturbation, in both men and women. Sex is a sure shot way to get an orgasm for a man. Not so for a woman. She has to know her body, find out what turns her on and what ensures an orgasm. Masturbation is the right way for a woman to discover her happiness, with or without her man.
2. Keeps your body healthy
I always encourage women to have sex or at least to. It is as good as a good workout but for your sexual organs. An orgasm ensures blood to flow into the vagina, the uterus and the fallopian tubes. If you study the construction of this delicate reproductive apparatus – the uterus is very precariously poised on a stem connected to even more fragile fallopian tubes and the ovaries. These organs need a good flow of blood and nervous energy all of which is ensured by an orgasm. So I say, get a busy woman and brush off the cobwebs!