So as soon as you hit the mid twenties, you will begin to be bugged by a super annoying relative or the know-it-all neighbouring uncle/aunt with that one question “Beta shaadi kab kar rahi ho?” If you are by chance in a live-in relationship and they come to know this, then they’ll tell you “Haan toh shadi karlo, uske bad jo marzi karna. After all sanskar naam ka bhi toh koi cheez hoti hai.” Couples in live-in relationships are used to tackling all kinds of situations and coming out with flying colours.
Today the number of couples opting for live-in relationships in India are increasing. What better way to know your partner before actually marrying them than to live with them under the same roof for some time. It’s like the “Level Up” in a video game. One may realise that two people are strikingly different to what we thought they were once you start living in. They might then decide that a lifetime agreement won’t work out hence saving themselves a lot of mental agony and legal hassles that come with a divorce.
10 Things Couples In Live-In Relationships Will Relate To
Like every couple in love ends up doing these cheesy things and every married couple experience similar things in the first year of their marriage, couples opting for live-in relationships also end up doing certain things that anyone in similar circumstances will be able to identify with. Live-in relationships and marriage are very similar and starkly different in many ways.
What does one do in a live-in relationship? A whole lot of things. From sharing the rent to cooking together to being with each other on the bad days, a live-in relationship comes with a lot of love and understanding that is not merely there because you have signed on a stamped paper. There are certain aspects in a live-in relationship that anyone who is in such a relationship will be able to identify with. So Bonobology is presenting to you 10 things couples in live-in relationships will relate to.
1. Dependency on each other
The couple, who are two independent individuals, starts loving to be dependent on each other. Typically when you have asked the girlfriend to move in with you in the most romantic way then your live-in romance begins. It starts with sharing the wardrobe, the bed, the bathroom, the couch, the kitchen and then you start depending on each other. You had been paying your own rent so far but now you know the boyfriend would hand the cheque to the landlord and after a hard day at work he would be looking forward to the amazing coffee you make, to perk him up. You would depend on each other for the groceries, for emotional support and at times for financial support as well.
2. You may pick up each other’s habits
And more importantly, you can grow your own habit after being inspired from your partner. So it can really happen that suppose you do not like a certain Bollywood cheesy song, but your partner loves it. So when he is absent and you are busy doing something like making tea and suddenly you start humming that particular song, which you hate. This might sound impossible but it happens.
So you would start devouring the action films, order in pizza regularly because he loves it and he would cry with you after watching the romantic flicks. There you go you have picked up each others habits.
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3. You learn the meaning of “space”
As both of the partners are, two different, modern individuals, who has love and respect to for each other, the live-in relationship gets more spiced up. Because your partner generally gets to know when to give you enough space. If you need to decide something or may be you need some lone time, your partner will understand that and will not bug you for a certain time.
There are some people who need their own space when they are upset, when you start a live-in relationship this is probably the first thing you will learn about each other.
4. You don’t need to look sexy
Definitely not all the time because no one can wake up in all decked up like ‘bahus’ of the Hindi serials. And your partner sees you in that way, even loves to see you in that way. This is actually the first thing that couples ditch in a live-in relationship, the need to look good all the time. They accept the fact that you can’t look gorgeous right out of bed and they realise it’s better to cuddle when there are no issues about smudged lipsticks and runny eye liners.
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5. Farting or burping
Farting or burping in front of your partner can not be considered as a point of bad manners, but these will be more like an elimination of gas in a natural way, which might create a light mood in a deep discussion.
When couples start living in they quickly realise that they have to be themselves in front of their live-in partners and putting on a front 24X7 is not possible. So then it would become easier to be less concerned about that fart or the burp.
Periods are probably the one thing that men hate or get weird about the most. But in cases of a live-in relationship, the male partner gets acquainted with this natural thing and does not freak out any more. Also, after a better understanding, the men can even become more caring to their ladies on those particular days, especially when they are having their PMS.
7. In sickness and in health
Here, as both of the partners are independent individuals, they are more or less acquainted with every other domestic errand. So if any one of them falls sick, the other can take care of it.
Most often people who start a live-in relationship opt for it when they are living alone in a different city, away from their family.
So having someone to take care of you when you are unwell is also a great feeling. This is something that anyone in a live-in relationship will be able to identify with.
8. It is fun to live with your best bud
You can actually discuss very openly about many insignificant issues like who is going to die next in Game of Thrones or what will happen to the Marvel Cinematic Universe after the Infinity Wars? It can be said that live-in relationships are the best to understand the phrase “Netflix and Chill”, which is spreading everywhere through the popular culture.
A live-in relationship is even more fun because you are not tied down to your extended family. There aren’t relatives dropping in constantly or the in-laws are not having expectations from the bahu. It’s only two people in a relationship and there is no social pressure which most live-in couples really enjoy. They can do whatever they want with their time. That’s a rather liberating feeling we are sure live-in couples would say.
9. You can be yourself
No one will judge you, if you act stupid in front of your partner. Because after some time he is going to say something utter nonsense. Live-In relationships can reveal your natural character to each other. No more living under the facade, which we generally put on to maintain the social status.
10. With new friends come new reasons to party
Once you start dating, you get acquainted with your partner’s friends and best friend. But the thing is there is a thin red line between friends and acquaintances. So when you start living-in, you not only get the idea of your partner’s true nature, but also his friends’. Thus your partner’s best friend can be your new “muh bola bhai“. And with addition to it, you can call for house parties at your place every other weekend!
Many people say a live-in relationship is just like a marriage except for the legal stamp but that might not be always so. A live-in relationship comes with a sense of freedom that probably who are living in will be able to tell you.