The feeling of falling in love is unparalleled. It’s as if a switch turns on and suddenly makes everything beautiful. But there is one feeling that is even better than falling in love — having those feelings reciprocated. But the situation becomes extremely precarious if you think that your partner does not feel the same way. Especially if it’s a man because, more often than not, it’s a little tricky to get a read on what men are feeling. Hence, it is important to be on the lookout for hidden signs a man is falling in love with you.
The age-old teaching of ‘men don’t cry’ that is instilled in them from birth prevents them from talking about their emotions. Even so, according to this research in 2022, men are more likely to confess their feelings of love before the other person. Clearly, there are many ways guys hint they like you. With our help, you will be able to spot the signs that a man likes you romantically or gauge if the guy you love is also falling in love with you.
23 Hidden Signs A Man Is Falling In Love With You
Even though this study shows that men are just as emotional as women, they are still conditioned to appear tough and strong in front of others. They think, and rightfully so, that feeling ‘feminine’ emotions makes them vulnerable to hurt or mockery. But there are times when they let their guard down and let others in. And usually, it is someone they’re falling in love with.
There may be several signs he’s falling for you, but hiding it. This is why we have with us a list of 23 hidden signs a man is falling in love with you. If you’re trying to gauge whether the guy you want wants you back, here’s how you can check if he has love on his mind.
1. You are his priority
This makes it to the top of the list of hidden signs a man is falling in love with you. Priorities are nothing but a list of things/people sorted according to the hierarchy of perceived importance. And if you suddenly find yourself on top of that list, then it could be because he’s falling for you. He’s starting to catch those pesky little things called ‘feelings’.
He makes sure to check in with you in the morning and then again at night before you both go to sleep
If you have a problem, he will have a solution ready before you even finish telling him the problem
He takes your opinion before making important decisions and actually listens to your input
If you’re wondering how to tell if someone loves you but is hiding it, this is your answer.
2. He wants your advice about his life
This is one of the major ways guys hint they like you, so don’t miss out on this one. It is also one of the cutest things men do when they’re falling for someone. He will start asking you for your thoughts and advice about his life and the things that are important to him. This is because he values your opinions.
This is an important sign because usually, men prefer to have autonomy in their decision-making. So if the special man in your life suddenly starts involving you in his decision-making process, that means you’ve become an indispensable part of his life.
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3. He starts to remember little things about you
Ah, the universal sign of love — remembering little things about your loved one. It is also one of the most important signs he’s falling for you but hiding it. So, if your man has started to notice the little inconspicuous details about you, details even you never noticed, it is time you realize he likes you.
- He notices that you tend to frown when you’re stressed
- He knows your favorite song from when you were in high school
- He knows that ice cream is your comfort food
- He notices what sets you off and avoids doing that
- He notices your fashion style and gets the perfect gifts for you
Remember, true love is not always about huge gestures like rushing to the airport to propose to your partner, it is more about the little things. So, if the man in your life starts to remember such details about you, it should be time for you to dance around in happiness. After all, you only remember this stuff about the people you love, right?
4. He starts being protective of you
If he starts trying to protect you from even the smallest of things, it’s a sign he’s falling for you. Accordion to a study, men tend to protect their loved ones from everything since they’re naturally protective. And if this protection has extended to you as well, this is the sign you’re looking for. You now occupy a place on that list of loved ones.
It doesn’t matter if he’s doing it to make you feel more comfortable in the environment you’re in or if he’s trying to shield you from oncoming traffic, both situations have one thing in common – he is developing feelings for you. One of the clearest signs a man is falling in love is his tendency of protecting his partner.
5. He compliments you
According to a study from the University of Kansas — The Verbal and Nonverbal Correlates of the Five Flirting Styles – every person has a different tactic for communicating attraction and a different flirting style. There is a fine line between complimenting and flirting, but that doesn’t mean you should mistake one for the other. If your man is complimenting you, don’t jump to the wrong conclusions and misunderstand it as flirting.
That said, you do need to figure out if your man is leaving a genuine sign that he secretly likes you, or if it is aimless flirting. Compliments that are directed toward things about you that very few people notice usually portray genuine interest. Such compliments can surely be taken as hidden signs a man is falling in love with you.
6. He drops everything just to meet you
When you’re in love, you find ways to be with your loved one no matter what. If your man spends all his free time with you, he surely has a soft spot for you. But if he starts to prioritize meeting you over everything else, to the point of dropping everything just to meet you, it’s a sign he’s falling for you but hiding it. He might even subconsciously pencil you in amidst a busy schedule because he “just wanted to see you”.
Also, notice how he reacts when you’re in distress. Nothing is more important than when the person you’re in love with needs you. So, if he starts to push everything aside to offer you support, he has fallen for you.
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7. He wants to know your future plans and supports your dreams
If in the middle of a stupid conversation, he stops and asks you about your future plans, it’s because he thinks you guys are meant to be together and he’s planning to have you in his life permanently. He is planning his future around you and is trying to see if you’re on the same page as him.
Not just that, he will also care about your goals and help you feel more confident about achieving them. He will start investing in them too. So, if he’s starting to take a newfound interest in your ambitions, it’s time to sit and talk about your future together.
8. He tries his best to make you happy
Liv, a reader from Ohio, recalls how they realized their partner is in love with them, “No matter his mood or how he was feeling, his first priority would be to ensure I’m feeling better. It didn’t matter if I’m sad, mad, stressed, or depressed, he would free up some time to help me when I’m struggling.”
When a man loves you, he will help you overcome your pain and do his best to improve your mood like this:
- He will goof around just to make you laugh
- He will send you long paragraphs with cute texts to get you in a good mood
- He will bring you your favorite snacks and chocolates to cheer you up
- He will hug you tightly and try to get you to smile
- He will listen to your problems and let you vent to him
Do you want to know why he does this? It’s because a man will stay restless as long as the person he loves is upset. So, the first thing he’ll do is to ensure he’s there to support you and he knows how to make a girl laugh.
9. You feel a deeper connection forming in your relationship
True love involves connection, that’s a no-brainer – a deep and wide connection that ensures you both understand each other intimately. This usually manifests in multiple facets of his life and will not always be very obvious. Men tend to integrate their partners into their lives if they see potential in a relationship.
For example, he might ask you to meet his friends or family, start bringing you to his favorite activities and ask you to stop by the office. This list is not exhaustive, nor is it limited to just these actions.
10. He picks up thoughtful gifts for you
According to a study, gift-giving is a means through which individuals communicate the value they assign to their loved ones. When someone loves and values you, they tend to show it by picking up thoughtful gifts for you. So, this happens to be one of the many things guys do when they secretly like you.
He also keeps himself up to date on these little things about you to ensure the gifts are truly thoughtful and something you will actually appreciate. When a man falls in love, he tries to spoil the person he is in love with to the best of his ability.
If you’re unsure of whether he is exhibiting this sign, just lay out all the gifts he’s given you and see if they’re meaningful or not. If they’re a result of something you mentioned to him in passing and he turned up at your doorstep with that thoughtful present in tow, then we don’t need to explain anymore, do we?
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11. He tries to enjoy the things you love
One very obvious way to show you care about someone is to try and take part in their hobbies and interests. So, if your man is trying to enjoy the things you are into, then this is one of the hidden signs a man is falling in love with you.
One of the many things guys do when they secretly like you is to enquire about your passions and hobbies. Participating in your favorite activities with you will make him happy as he gets to see you smiling and content. This means that if he has to sit through a 2-hour documentary on penguins and their varied habitats just because you want to watch it, he will happily do so.
12. You’re the one who receives the good news first
When something good happens, his first instinct is to call you. Even if it’s as small as him finding a dollar on the floor, you’re the first person he will want to tell about it. So if you find yourself suddenly bombarded with calls or texts so he can tell you what happened that day, it’s your sign to understand he likes you.
13. He can tell you’re upset without you saying it
He will always be able to tell whether you’re sad or happy just by your tone or your body language. And then, he will make an effort to ensure your bad mood doesn’t linger. One of the hidden signs he is possessed by love is that he is picking up on the subtle signs to gauge your emotions.
When Roxanne started falling for Steve, she would spend days agonizing over whether he liked her or not. But when he started being able to tell when she was upset without her having to say it, she knew he reciprocated her feelings. “When a man starts to fall for you, he becomes more connected to you. And so he will start showcasing this superpower of recognizing your mood without you having to utter a single word. You only pay this much attention to someone you’re in love with, right?” she says.
14. He loves to spend quality time with you
Craving your presence becomes the norm when a guy starts to fall in love with you. And if he expresses the need to spend some more quality time with you, it’s a huge sign he’s falling for you. In a world full of people governed by unrealistic expectations, his wanting to spend quality time with you is a spectacular sign of his feelings.
He will find ways to talk to you, he will find excuses to be with you, and he will plan activities you both can do together. All these are ways of spending quality time together with you and a sign that he is falling in love with you.
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15. He starts to look at the bright side
One of the greatest signs a man is falling in love with you is that he suddenly develops a brighter outlook on life. A study on the neurobiology of love indicates that the feeling of love deactivates regions of the brain associated with negative emotions, social judgment, and ‘mentalizing’.
Love happens to be one of the most powerful and optimistic forces on the planet. So even if he used to be a moody and grumpy man before this, he’ll suddenly turn into the happiest man on earth, a man who never sees the glass half empty. Because as the positive emotions start to take a hold of him, the negative ones would start to bid adieu.
16. He rarely uses his phone around you
This is one of the best ways to figure out if he is romantically interested in you or not. When someone is trying to avoid conversation with you, the first thing to come out will be the phone. But if someone cares deeply about you, about what you have to say, and about having a quality conversation with you, the phone will never leave their pocket.
So, if he only brings out the phone in case of emergencies, it’s a pretty sure sign that he is falling in love with you. His focus will be on you, never on his phone and he will be completely engrossed in talking to you.
17. He loves your quirks
Everybody has their quirks. If he doesn’t run as fast as he can after hearing that you drink ketchup straight out of the packet, he’s the one! If he finds it endearing and charming, that is even better.
Plenty of guys will find your first date nerves cute and funny. But if you reveal your weird quirks on the fifth date and he still finds you cute and funny, it’s because he’s starting to fall for you. And if his reaction is laughing his head off at all the weirdness, it’s a telling sign that he is starting to fall in love with you and understands you very well.
18. His future plans include you
When he starts to talk about his future goals with you and asks what you think about them, he’s trying to see where you stand. He’s checking to see if you’d place yourself right next to him in those plans or not.
- Does he tell you about where he pictures himself in the next five years?
- Has he started talking about what his career goals look like?
- Does he talk about raising his own family?
When men talk about their plans, they’re giving a sign that they’re ready to move forward and settle down with you. So if your boyfriend has started mapping out his future and talking to you about it, it is because he sees you with him.
19. He doesn’t play games with you
You know what they say: Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. That’s what happens when someone resorts to games and dirty tricks in relationships. If a guy is actually in love with you, he will be straightforward with you. He won’t make you jump through hoops and baskets to understand whether he loves you or not.
He will leave clear signs that he likes you, and he will make the necessary effort and ask you out. He will do everything to include you in his life and will be honest if he doesn’t have the time to answer your calls or texts.
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20. He understands your love language
Some people love receiving hugs, and some hate it. Some find it endearing when their partner gives them gifts, while some prefer words of affirmation instead. All this is just to say that everyone has a different love language and if you truly care about your partner, you make an effort to learn what it is. So, if you find a guy speaking your love language often, and intentionally, it is one of the hidden signs that a man is falling in love with you.
Men pay attention to your love language when they want to make you feel content and comfortable. Whether your love language is acts of service, words of affirmation, or physical touch, if he’s speaking it, he’s trying to send a message that he cares about you.
21. He can be himself around you
When we love someone, we tend to be completely comfortable around them. So, if your partner is not afraid to be himself around you, it’s a pretty good sign that he’s starting to fall in love with you.
If he’s truly in love with you, he will not hesitate before dipping his fries into ice cream. He knows he can be himself around you without worrying about you judging him.
22. He starts to be more present
When a man really falls in love with you, he will start paying more attention to you. He will be more present with you and his focus will be completely on you. You’ll get out-of-the-blue kisses, you’ll find him giving you all his attention even if you’re just telling a joke. All these are signs he’s falling for you.
An increase in his presence means an upgrade in your relationship. Men don’t usually invest in people unless they’re interested in them. So, if he starts to be more present with you without you having to pester him about it, it’s because he sees a future with you.
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23. He gets a little jealous
We saved the trump card for the last — he starts to get jealous. If you need to be absolutely sure about his feelings for you, try to bring out his jealous side and see what happens.
Does he get jealous just because some other man wants to spend time with you? Does he get jealous every time you talk to your ex? Jealousy can be a great tool in your arsenal if you don’t know how to tell if someone loves you but is hiding it. So, use this tool (but just once) and be doubly sure whether he likes you or not.
- Whether you see physical signs a man is in love with you, or you can only catch some subtle hints, if you can tick off multiple signs from this list, then you can reach the conclusion that he does have a romantic inclination toward you
- It can be a little hard to tell when a man falls in love, but if you pay attention to the way he expresses care for you, you’ll know
- Guys who are falling for you would prioritize you, enjoy the things that you do, love spending time with you, love your quirks, include you in their future plans, and speak your love language
The purpose of this blog is to help you identify the signs he secretly loves you. So, when you spot even a few of these, communicate with him so you both can take the next step in your relationship.
A word of caution though: Don’t take these signs to be the ultimate proof of his love for you. You can’t confirm your suspicions without proper communication. After spotting the hidden signs a man is falling in love with you, talk to him and find out if it’s true.
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