‘For me, personally, I would always try to find ways to spend more time with the girls I liked. I had a crush on a girl I worked with once, so I would find jobs to do that were in her area of the store so we could talk. Unfortunately, this has also led to following one or two girls around all night like a lost puppy. Most of them didn’t appreciate that much. The last one married me. This was from one of the Reddit posts.
Are you getting mixed signals from a guy? One day you feel he is really into you and the next, he seems to be almost avoiding the space you are in. One day he cannot stop laughing at every little comment or joke you make and the next, he steals his gaze and looks the other way? The person who said that it is difficult to read women didn’t know anything about men! Fret not, even if he doesn’t say it loud, there are male body language signs of attraction that you can read and be sure of what is really going on in his heart and head. Reading men’s body language of attraction is not easy but we give you 18 signs that you can look for in his body language and know if he likes you secretly.
18 Male Body Language Signs Of Attraction
Men are pros at hiding their feelings. They will not let you know how they feel until they are sure of it themselves. Women, naturally gifted with the sixth sense, can pick up the cues but can still not really be sure. To unravel the feelings code for men, you need to first know the right places to look at. The signs that he secretly likes you are hidden in his body language. And we wish you a happy and fun-filled reading!
Women tend to focus on what the guy says rather than how he behaves, and that is where the catch is. Studying men’s body language will reveal signs of attraction, even if he doesn’t speak a word to you directly. The subconscious body movement, the body language, is a storehouse of subtle signs which can accurately convey whether he is attracted to you or not. Read on for the 18 body language signs will answer many of your questions.
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1. He will make eye contact
How can you tell whether a guy likes you juts by his eyes? You can! Most men are not great at expressing in words, but their eyes, they give things away. So what are the signs? Are his pupils dilated, that’s a sign? Are his eyes lingering on you, for that little extra second? Then he probably cannot help looking at you and it is a sign of attraction. Men have a tendency to look into the eyes of the woman they like. If he makes eye contact with you throughout your conversation, it means that he is interested and wants to know more about you.
If his eyes quickly go to your lips and back to your eyes, it is not just the conversation he is interested in. This is a sure sign of attraction of his body language. Glances at your lips are signs that he is secretly attracted to you.
2. He will shyly pull away from eye contact when caught
Some men are shy and cannot express their emotions easily. They might show a second’s courage to make eye contact and then quickly pull away because of either fear or shyness or maybe respect. When you talk to him, if he shyly looks down and gives a slight smile, he is interested in you but just doesn’t know how to continue that eye conversation. But you will definitely feel the warm pleasant aura around him which will tell your gut that he is secretly attracted to you but is unable to express it.
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3. You make him smile
No matter how bad your joke is, he will smile. You can say something as mundane as you cannot wait for the weather to tun better and he will smile and agree with you. He will try and make you comfortable by agreeing with you if not with his words, then his smile. We usually have a tendency to smile at things that make us happy and in this case, that thing/person is you. In fact, you can use this opportunity to compliment his smile and make him blush, there you have given him a cue of yours like this too! There is a different type of smile for friends and a different type of smile for someone one is interested in. You are smart enough to know what type is his regarding you.
4. He will go out of his way to give you attention
‘I pay attention to you at the expense of others. You have my focus.‘
If you see him having a chat with his friends and he leaves them just to talk to you, he is trying to show you who he would rather like to spend his time with. Guys don’t notice little things and rarely speak about them. Has he noticed how you have tied your hair against the other day when you had left it open? Has he noticed that you like chocolate chip more than plain chocolate? If he is noticing these little things about you, there’s a very good chance he likes you. You will sense this extra attention coming from him. If you know how to read men’s body language of attraction then you will know why this man is giving you more attention.
5. He will take a deep breath
She wrote to us, ‘When he first sees me and starts talking to me, he takes a lot of deep breaths. It slowly goes away after we start talking more. He does this every time we’re together.’
Body language signs are often subconscious, giving away what is in your heart. If he lets out a few deep breaths when you pass by, it is one of those subconscious signs telling you that you take his breath away. Maybe he finds it hard to breathe around you and when he remembers he takes a deeper breath? This is a sign he secretly likes you and by unconsciously taking deep breaths proves that. At times if you are looking good or different from normal (something which he might like), he will take a deep breath to let it sink what he just saw. He might not compliment you, but that deep breath says it all.
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6. He fixes his hair
Men have a tendency to subconsciously fix their hair when they see a girl they like. All of a sudden they seem to get conscious about their looks. They want to make an impression in front of the girl and they start it by fixing their hair. Another reason for fixing their hair could be because they want to get your attention and they do it by appearing to fix their hair so that you look at them. This body language is a sure sign that he secretly likes you.
7. He touches his face a lot
‘I am outgoing, even flirty with girls I have no interest in, I am nervous and introverted towards the ones I am attracted to.’
While talking to you, you might notice him touching his cheeks and chin a lot. Some men get conscious and nervous while talking and thus tend to touch their faces a lot. It is because they start to feel their skin stretching when they are nervous. It’s also a way of grooming himself to make sure he doesn’t have anything on his face or on his lips. It’s the equivalent of you touching your hair to make sure it looks good. This is a secret body language sign of attraction that you need to latch on to immediately.
8. He will make himself noticeable
You both could be involved with different groups of friends or maybe in different departments. He will find a way to make you notice him. He might start talking a little louder or laugh noticeably. It is because he wants you to notice him even when he is not talking to you. He wants you to see him when he is in his comfort zone.
9. He will look at your lips
There are some things that men cannot hide, even if they think they are pros at it. While talking to you, he will look at your face and most importantly, your lips. He will stare at them for a split second, or maybe longer, depending on the intensity of his feelings for you. If he looks at your lips, you are not just a friend or a colleague to him, he is attracted to you. Here are some signs to read if your colleague is interested in you.
10. His feet will point towards you
A study says that we subconsciously point our feet towards the direction we want them to go. Notice him when he is in a group or even alone. In which direction do his feet point? If they are directed towards you, then he is planning on coming to you or thinking about it in his head. It is a good heads-up for you because you already know where his feet are heading. This is his body language sign that he likes you immensely.
11. He will lean in
While having a one-on-one chat with you, he will lean in. His body signals that he wants to be close to you and he is also checking if you are okay with it. Do you feel the spark? Is there any chemistry between the two of you. If he’s physically leaning in your direction, even from a considerable distance, he’s probably sending you vibes and waiting for how you react to them. This is a body language sign that he is secretly attracted to you.
12. He will fix his clothes
He is not sure that you like him yet he will leave no stone unturned to impress you. He will fix his clothes and make sure that his shirt is tucked in. He might also nervously play with his buttons or cufflinks. He may adjust his tie, pull his socks up, pull his shirt or t-shirt down. It is because he doesn’t exactly know how to behave when you are around. Perhaps he will check about your favourite colour, try and wear more of that. He will also wear the scent he thinks you like. His ears will always be listening in to your preferences and his action will show that to you. When he sits, he will sit tall, not slouch in.
13. He raises his eyebrows
Again, raising eyebrows is one of those men’s body language signs that appear subconsciously. They tend to raise their eyebrows when they see something that attracts them or something that they like. This explains why they raise their eyebrows when they see a hot girl passing by. Does he raise his eyebrows when he sees you too? It means he finds you irresistible.
14. His lips part a bit
While seeing you or talking to you, he could go into a trance or start imagining things (that includes the two of you) as a result his lips will part a bit. It usually happens when you lose control and start getting submissive to the person you like. This is the same case that is happening here, he is becoming submissive to you. If you are reading men’s body language of attraction then this is a dead giveaway. Parting lips is also a warm and welcoming expression that normally draws the other person in. Think about it.
15. There will be many ‘accidental touches’
Your hands didn’t brush against each other accidentally, but because it was engineered. These accidents are planned by him. It may be because he wants to hold your hand but can’t or because he wants you to feel the attraction he is feeling towards you, but he doesn’t know how to make that happen. Whatever the reason may be, the bottom line is that he is attracted to you. A basic hug will be prolonged even for a split second more. Remember touching your shoulder or lower back is also a sure shot of him being attracted to you more than he would ever admit.
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16. He will let you see him checking you out
There is a term called ‘visual voyaging’ where he will look around and check you out till he stops at one particular part of you that he adores the most. You catch him checking you out and smile to yourself thinking that you caught him. He got caught because he wanted you to notice that he is checking you out. It is his way of letting you know his feelings through his actions.
17. His nostrils flare
Now, this part is the most unromantic and unsexy part of his body language but truth be told, his nostrils will flare when he sees you. It is because he will want to seem open and inviting in front of you. Most guys don’t even realize this, but this is indeed one important body language sign that indicates his affection for you.
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18. He will not touch his phone
Another way of knowing whether he likes you or not is by observing how often does he touch his phone in your presence. You will have his full attention if he turns his phone silent and keeps it upside down unless he is expecting an important call. This is his way of letting you know that you are very important to him and he doesn’t treat you lightly by responding to messages or taking phone calls when you are with him. If he really likes you, he will want to know more about you rather than what his phone has to say. He will prioritise you over his phone (at least for now).
He makes you feel special and these body language signs have made it clear that he likes you. If you also like him, then go ahead and let him know. If you are not sure, go with the flow and see how it goes.
If you don’t feel anything for him, don’t freak out. Let him know and he will understand, but make sure you say it through verbal communication and not body language signs, because he may not be able to pick up the signs. Think it through and go ahead with it.