Gone are the days when the gender binary was a thing people unanimously believed in. Today, society is starting to learn to accept fluidity as the norm when it comes to not just who we are but who and how we love. And, as more and more people step up to acknowledge their gender and sexual identity, newer terms and categories defining the changes are constantly introduced to people’s repertoire.
For the uninitiated, queer or otherwise, this ever-growing collection of words can get a bit scary. But fret not, baby queers and new allies, for I will attempt to give you a small crash course on the various types of sexualities out there.
15 Types Of Sexualities And Their Meanings Simplified
The queers of the world have taught us that love is love is love. No matter who you are, who you love, and how you choose to show that love – there is a place for you in this world. But while however and whoever you love is valid, you still may want to know all sexualities and meanings. After all, even though labels don’t matter, they do help you seek out others who feel what you feel. So, without further ado, here’s a list and the meanings of 15 different types of sexualities out there.
Allosexuals are people who experience sexual attraction and engage in sexual activities. This term normalizes the existence of asexual people i.e., people who feel an aversion towards sex or may just not feel any sexual attraction at all.
Asexuality, as mentioned before, is a term that refers to people who do not feel sexual attraction or are just kinda disgusted by the concept of sex in general. While usually turned off by the idea of sex in general, asexual people can experience romantic feelings/attraction towards other people.
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Aromantic people just don’t get romance. They don’t feel romantic feelings towards people of any gender or sexuality. While an aromantic person may also be asexual (or feel no urge to have sex), an aro person isn’t necessarily disgusted by sex. While they don’t experience romantic feelings, they may feel physically and sexually attracted to people of their preferred genders and sexuality.
Androsexual people are ones who are attracted to men, males, or people who exhibit masculine tendencies. The category doesn’t limit itself using skewed ideas of assigned gender, sex, and/or anatomy and broadly refers to attraction experienced towards any man, male, or masculine person.
Gynesexual people are sexually and/or romantically attracted to femininity, females, and women. Again, this term does not limit itself by gender, sex, or anatomy. It is an inclusive term meant to include all forms of attraction that one may experience towards any feminine person, female, and/or woman.
Often referred to as straightness, heterosexuality includes those people who are romantically and sexually attracted to people who, according to the archaic gender binary definitions, belong to the “opposite” gender. So, that would mean a “man” getting attracted to a “woman” and vice versa.
This is another one of those archaic terms that includes people who are attracted to and engage in erotic activities with people of their own (or similar) gender. Homosexuals are often further divided into two categories, i.e., gay and lesbian, depending on their gender identity.
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Bisexual or bi people are ones who feel attracted to more than one gender, including their own. The attraction is not just sexual, though, and includes romantic and emotional attraction too. However, the romantic and emotional connection may not always be there even when there is sexual attraction.
Bicurious people are ones who are still exploring and not quite sure if they’re bisexual. So, they may be open to dating or sleeping with people of their own and other genders, at least until they’ve confirmed their orientation.
Biromantic people are romantically, but not sexually, attracted to not just people of their own gender but ones with other gender identities. A biromantic person won’t necessarily also feel sexually attracted to people of different genders (including their own) but a person can of course be biromantic and bisexual at the same time.
Pan means all and, thus, pansexual people are attracted to all people. It doesn’t matter what gender, sex, or orientation of the person is. Pans can get romantically and sexually attracted to everyone.
Demisexuality falls on the ace – or asexual – spectrum. This means that, while demisexuals don’t always show complete aversion to sex, they do exhibit certain asexual tendencies.
Demisexuals can get sexually attracted to people but they usually need an emotional or romantic connection to be established first. Once that condition is met, demisexuals can enjoy sex as usual but may not engage in sex as much as a non-demisexual would.
Like demisexuals, demiromantic people also need certain conditions met before they feel any romantic feelings towards a person. Usually this means that they need an emotional connection to be established first before they feel any kind of lovey-dovey feelings towards anyone.
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Graysexual people are again ones on the asexual spectrum while not being fully asexual. They do feel sexual attraction and they do desire sex now and then but they tend not to get horny as often as people who are not graysexual do.
Greyromantic people are on the aromantic spectrum but aren’t fully aromantic. This means that they do get romantic feelings towards people but not as much as most others. They exist in the grey section between romantic and aromantic.
This one was a new term even for me. Cupiosexuality apparently includes aces (or asexual people) who, while they don’t feel any sexual attraction, want to still have sex and engage in similar physical activities.
While this article just lists 15 types of sexualities, know that there are many, many more out there. Considering how many sexualities are there 2021, it may get hard to find who you are right away. But even if you do relate to all sexualities and meanings listed here or none at all, know that your feelings and your existence are valid. Don’t let the world or some random article on the internet tell you otherwise.