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How Long Should You Wait To Introduce Your Girlfriend To Your Child?

Lois Lane November 28, 2020
Lois Lane November 28, 2020
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Table of Contents

  • When Should You Introduce Your Girlfriend To Your Child?
    • 1. Making sure of your child’s wellbeing
    • 2. Are you facing legal trouble?
    • 3. Is there a purpose to the introduction?
    • 4. Get some feedback
    • 5. Consult your ex
  • FAQs

Dating is hard – top that with dating when you have kids. Children are quite susceptible to mood swings if their parents are unhappy. If a parent is unhappy, especially with a relationship, it trickles down and affects a child quite badly. That’s why, it’s really important to keep your children and your relationship separate – at least to begin with. So how long should one actually wait to introduce their girlfriend to their child?

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This is a common question most dads face, and even though there’s no correct answer to this, there are definitely a few ground rules that can be followed on how long to wait to introduce a girlfriend to your child.

When Should You Introduce Your Girlfriend To Your Child?

There is no fixed time frame or hard and fast rule as to when your child and girlfriend can meet. But all we can say is make sure it is at a time when the child is prepared or receptive to the idea that you have a partner apart from their mother.

These are the things you should keep in mind.

1. Making sure of your child’s wellbeing

A child’s psychology is prone to being moulded by how a parent thinks – so make sure that when you’re ready to introduce your girlfriend to your child, you do it delicately, keeping the child’s interests at heart.

Is your child old enough to know that you are dating someone? Are you dating someone who will be in your life for a long time? These are questions to ponder on before you introduce your girlfriend to your child.

2. Are you facing legal trouble?

Sometimes, when parents are divorced or separated, and going through legal custody issues, a child is already facing enough trauma of being divided in terms of his or her home, things and the family.

It’s important to keep things as easy for the child as possible, so if you are in the middle of custody or other legal issues, then it’s best to clear that out before you introduce another new angle of your personal life to your child. Make sure you only give your child the amount he can handle.

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3. Is there a purpose to the introduction?

Do you think that your girlfriend or partner is someone who’s here to stay? If the answer is yes, then your child definitely has the right to know. Sometimes, dads might just casually date other people, to let off steam or just as a rebound, without wanting a relationship.

If that’s the case, then it’s better to hold off on introducing your child to someone new each time you casually have something with someone.

However, if you feel that you’re in a long-term relationship with someone who’s here to stay, then you should definitely tell your children they’ll be seeing more of her around. It’s also important for you to understand how comfortable your girlfriend is to your kids – if she’s not, then maybe she’s not someone you can be with for the sake of your children.

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4. Get some feedback

Sometimes, it may be healthy to wait out a bit and gather some feedback from close friends and family, and even your kids, before you introduce your kids to someone special.

Why don’t you sit down and have a talk with your kids as to how they would feel about you being with someone new in your life? Gauge their reaction.

If you feel that your kids are ready for it, then go with your gut – but make sure they feel comfortable every step of the way because you don’t want them to end up resenting you.

5. Consult your ex

This could be especially tricky in a few situations if you’re not on good terms with your ex. However, if you’re on good terms with your ex-partner, then it would also be great to consult them on when it’s a good time to introduce your children to someone new in your life.

You never know, your partner could also help by talking to your kids and letting them know that their role in your lives, and vice versa, doesn’t change.

If your girlfriend gels with your children then that is the happiest outcome of your meeting. But before you set up one be cautious and look into our tips first.

FAQs

1. I’ve been in the middle of a legal battle with my ex for a few years now – how will I know for sure when it’s time to introduce my kids to a new girlfriend?


Sometimes, kids can be receptive to what’s happening – if they pick up on bad vibes, they may end up turning bitter and not sharing their personal lives with you. This could cause bad communication among you and them within the family and spell out disaster in the long run – so wait it out and don’t rush into introducing them to someone new. So even though it’s been some time, patience is key.

2. I haven’t told my kids about my girlfriend, but they’ve seen her sleepover. Will this be an issue?


It’s not exactly wise to have sleepovers with your partner without telling your kids – especially if you have multiple partners and not a single one. You might be causing a rift in your kids’ heads by not talking to them about your personal life – this will lead them to not share things with you in the long run. So talk to them, and don’t invite people to stay over unless you’re sure.

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