27 Signs He Finds You Irresistible & Is Attracted To You

Decode his actions to know how he feels about you without having to ask

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Updated On: July 13, 2024
Signs He Finds You Irresistible
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Marina went to her school reunion, where she met Tom, who had a crush on her 15 years ago. Now, she believed they had moved on. She was a successful TV anchor, while he had become an established corporate honcho, and looked dapper in his black suit. Marina spoke to him for a while, after which her friend, Paul, told her, “Have you noticed there are still signs he finds you irresistible?”

Marina couldn’t believe it. Paul said, “I will prove it. Let’s go to the terrace and he will follow because he hasn’t taken his eyes off you all night,” he said. Soon enough, Tom followed them to the terrace. Marina was beyond surprised. Paul smiled, “See, he is into you!” Can you relate to Marina’s experience? Is there a Tom in your life, who you suspect could be fascinated by you? To help you gain clarity, let’s delve into the signs he finds you irresistible.

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You may wonder what made Marina so appealing to Tom even after so many years. What makes a woman so intriguing to a man? Well, a beautiful woman isn’t necessarily one with physical features that attract a man. There are many inner qualities that men find irresistible in a woman, paving the way for emotional attraction. If you’ve been wondering how to make a guy crazy about you, focus on harnessing the following:

  1. Smile: A smile that reaches her eyes and comes on spontaneously
  2. Confidence: When a woman is not self-conscious and believes she looks really beautiful in whatever she wears, she becomes attractive to a man
  3. Communication skills: Men are drawn to intelligent women who are well-informed and capable of holding a conversation
  4. Sense of humor: A tasteful sense of humor in a woman is irresistible
  5. Personality: A distinct personality, passion, and self-worth are some other traits of an irresistible woman
  6. Mysterious: An element of mystery and intrigue can make a man gravitate toward a woman

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27 Signs He Finds You Irresistible

A Reddit user asked, “When I’ve just met a guy and I’m getting to know them, what are the subtle signs that they find me attractive or unattractive? What kind of questions could I ask to dig around and see if they like me in that way?” Don’t worry, you don’t have to ask him questions to dig around! If a guy digs you, there will be clear signs he likes you more than you think. To make sure you don’t miss out on them, here are some clear signs he is mesmerized by you and finds you irresistible:

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He looks you in the eyes

According to research, locking eyes with someone leads to the release of hormones associated with physical attraction/affection, specifically phenylethylamine and oxytocin. So, one of the good signs a guy is attracted to you is that you’ll experience eye contact attraction with him, which may give way to signs of sexual tension. What does that feel like, you ask? Well, pay attention to the way his eyes interact with yours and see if he does the following:

  • If you both are at a party talking to different people, he will eventually make eye contact
  • His gaze follows the eye-eye-chest pattern of movement (a much more intimate way of gazing)
  • He continues to stare at you even when you have caught him doing so multiple times — one of the most telling signs he really likes you

2. Paying compliments

What are the signs he finds you irresistible? A Reddit user wrote, “This is probably more for the awkward ones, but I have this bad tendency of glossing over the negatives of women I am into. So, if I am saying a lot of nice things about a girl, I’m probably either naive, interested, or both.”

If he compliments you often, it’s a sign you are attractive to him. The compliments won’t necessarily be limited to your clothes or physical appearance and could extend to your intelligence and quirks, small gestures, or just about anything.

3. An open body language

Signs he is mesmerized by you could be hidden in his body language. So, notice if,

  • He keeps his hands uncrossed and away from his torso
  • He removes objects between him and you
  • He keeps his forehead pointed toward you, instead of away

These are all signs he finds you irresistible. In a 2016 field study of 144-speed dates, postural expansiveness was rated as the most romantically appealing trait. For each unit of increased expansive body language signs, participants were 76% more likely to be picked out of all the other speed daters!

4. He shops for you

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Gift-giving is a love language

Do you often wonder, “Does he find me attractive?” As they say, actions speak louder than words. Even if he hasn’t expressed his interest in you in as many words, the way he feels about is bound to reflect in the way he conducts himself. If he is romantically interested in you, he will go above and beyond to make you smile.

For example, he may bring you little souvenirs from his tropical vacation. Or buy you small but thoughtful gifts that say, “I was thinking about you.” If a guy gives you gifts even when there is no special occasion, he’s trying to express his feelings through the love language of gift-giving. These small acts of generosity are among the signs he finds you irresistible.

5. He looks for excuses to touch you

How to tell if a guy is into you, you wonder? Well, romantic feelings give way to a need for physical proximity and contact. The need for personal space diminishes and you want to feel as connected to the other person as possible. This innate desire may translate into the following signs he’s attracted to you:

  • Touches your back/neck/shoulder
  • Instinctively reaches for/tries to hold your hand
  • Gives you lingering hugs — one of the clearest signs he really likes you

These touches don’t necessarily reflect signs of lust in a man. On the contrary, you feel comfortable and at ease with his proximity to you.

“It’s nice to have a crush on someone. It feels like you’re alive, you know?”

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6. He makes an effort to dress up for you

What does it mean when a guy says he is excited to meet you? It means he’s smitten! And that excitement will show… in the way he smells and the amount of gel in his hair. If he goes the extra mile to appear well-groomed and well-dressed, it’s one of the signs he finds you attractive.

Life coach Joie Bose says, “When a guy is in the company of a woman he is secretly attracted to, he will touch his hair often for support and reassurance. To see if it’s in place. This is the way his vulnerability comes out in front of someone he likes. This is among the sure-shot involuntary signs of attraction. In front of his friends, he wouldn’t care two hoots about how his hair looks.”

7. He wants to spend time

A Reddit user says, “This can be read pretty wrongly, but I tend not to invite women to do something with me (movie, trivia night, etc.) unless I am into her or I have established a friendship with her already.”So, when a guy looks for excuses to spend more time with you, it’s one of the signs he’s attracted to you.

Spending time is not just about cozy dates and movies. When a guy is intrigued by you, he makes an effort to accompany you anywhere, from the grocery store to the pharmacy. When every minute spent with you is precious to him, it’s one of the biggest signs he finds you attractive.

8. He has no ego with you

Wondering how to tell if a guy is attracted to you? He has no ego when he is with you. He could be very successful or popular, but when with you, he just wants to be your man. He would happily go out of his way to do things for you and not keep score. This is a clear indicator of emotional attraction.

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Signs He Finds You Irresistible

9. He gets jealous

Are you wondering, “Is he attracted to me?” His possessiveness is one of the signs he sees you as someone special. If a guy takes an inordinate amount of interest in your romantic life, he definitely doesn’t want you to be with anyone else. Keep an eye out for the following behaviors if you’re on the lookout for signs a guy finds you attractive:

  • He behaves like a jealous partner when other men try to approach you
  • He becomes a nervous wreck when you give other men undivided attention
  • He views your romantic interests as competition — one of the most obvious signs he really likes you

10. He puts up with your whims

Wondering how to tell if a guy is into you? Here is a cue you cannot misread: he always indulges your spontaneous side and does so with a smile. Whether it’s going to a nightclub on a weekday or fulfilling your late-night ice cream cravings, he just can’t seem to say no to you. Putting up with your whims is one of the signs he finds you irresistible and is drawn to you.

11. He doesn’t dwell on your imperfections

Maybe you had a bad day or messed up majorly at work but he’s always there to remind you of how amazing you are. When a man is intensely attracted to a woman, he doesn’t care if her skin is breaking out or if she has put on some weight. For him, you’re still a woman to admire, no matter what. Your success makes him happy and when you fail, he reminds you that failures don’t define you. These are all signs he sees you as someone special.

12. His facial expressions give it away

Talking about how to know a man is in love, Joie says, “The expressions of love for men are typically more physical. If you find someone’s gaze resting on your lips even for a brief moment, he is interested in you. And he will want to imagine how it will be to kiss you. That will definitely take him away from the present moment, and the moment reality strikes, he will take a deep breath. He had forgotten to breathe for a second when he was thinking of you.”

If you’re wondering how a guy feels about you, start paying attention to his facial expression. If he has a dreamy look in his eye or if his face lights up whenever he is near you, it’s one of the signs he’s attracted to you.

13. He genuinely listens to you

Does he find me attractive, you wonder? Relationship counselor Pooja Priyamvada says, “Holding space for someone means letting them process and express their feelings, remaining there to support them without any judgment or unasked-for suggestion.” So, he’s a keeper if he holds space for you in the following ways:

  • When you share your vulnerabilities, he listens without criticism/judgment
  • He nods along and even asks follow-up questions
  • He tries to understand where you’re coming from

Being a good listener is one of the most telling signs he finds you attractive.

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14. He shares everything with you

Wondering how to tell if a guy is attracted to you, one of our readers wrote to us and asked, “A guy I’ve befriended at work keeps calling me just to chat. Does it mean he’s interested? Why does he insist on talking to me about everything under the sun? Also, he looks into my eyes when he speaks to me. And that intense eye contact is making me mad! Do we have an emotional connection?”

Men are usually not too forthcoming when it comes to expressing emotions. If he can sit and chat with you for hours about his personal life, future plans, his friends, their girlfriends, his family, and even his exes, these are signs a guy finds you attractive. When a man is intensely attracted to a woman, he can be his real self around her. He doesn’t even have to think about using the ‘right’ words.

“When you fall for someone’s personality, everything about them becomes beautiful.”


15. He values your opinion

To be able to assess a man’s true feelings for you, you may have to introspect a little. So, take some time to reflect on the following,

  • Does he ask for your opinion if there is an issue at his workplace?
  • If you suggest some movies/songs to him, does he make it a point to check them out?
  • If needs advice regarding family matters, does he rely on you?

If yes, your opinion matters to him and he thinks you are intelligent/experienced enough to guide him. One of the qualities men find irresistible is individuality. Passionate beliefs and independence in a relationship make a woman memorable to a man. So, if he encourages you to voice your opinions, it is because he values them. And it’s one of the more subtle signs that he is crazy about you.

16. He craves your attention

When a guy finds you irresistible, he will not miss any opportunity to catch your attention and be seen by you. For instance,

  • He would make sure he carries himself in a way that leaves a lasting impression on your mind
  • He might start talking a little louder or try to laugh noticeably
  • He would want you to see him in his comfort zone

These behaviors carry within them the signs he finds you beautiful and wants you to notice him.

17. He doesn’t touch his phone

If he feels good with you, you will have his undivided attention, and slowly but surely, you’ll stop wondering, “Is he attracted to me?” One of the signs he finds you irresistible you may notice is that he puts his phone on silent and keeps it facedown when he is around you. After all, social media becomes an unnecessary distraction when a guy is with someone he is truly invested in.

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18. He knows you too well

Here’s how to know a man is in love with you — he would know all your quirks and cute habits, be it the fact that you only take sugar with your coffee on a rough day, or that you secretly enjoy eating burritos in the Taco Bell parking lot after work. And he doesn’t need to ask you about these things. He’s just picked up on them because he cares about you.

So, when he suddenly drops by and brings you those macaroons you’ve been craving for a week or asks you to drive the car because he knows that driving calms you down, it’s not because he’s a special angel who knows it all. It’s because he’s made the effort to really see you — one of the obvious signs he’s attracted to you. Well, maybe that does make him an angel…

19. His friends know all about you

When a guy shows you off to his friends, know that he’s obsessed with you! Be it office dinners or parties hosted by his family, he always makes it a point to invite you. When a guy tells his buddies about you, it is probably because:

  • He wants their approval
  • He hopes that you’ll become an integral part of his life and is doing the groundwork to integrate you in
  • He enjoys watching you fit seamlessly into his inner circle
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20. He keeps the conversation going

While he may hold back on sending romantic texts, the good morning and goodnight messages he sends you are his way of letting you know you’re on his mind. And it’s one of the signs that he is crazy about you. Besides, if he has caught feelings for you, you may notice that he makes an extra effort to keep the conversation with you going, gives you cute nicknames, or writes long texts. And if all of this has led you to wonder, “Is he into me?”, the answer is “yes”. Here are some more signs he finds you irresistible:

  • He texts first and responds immediately to your messages
  • He uses a lot of cheesy emojis
  • He finds ways to revive a conversation that seems to be dying down
  • He texts you when he’s drunk/out with his friends

21. He mirrors you

Research shows that this act of mirroring body language is seen most often between romantic partners. If he mirrors your body language and won’t stop with his subtle flirting, it’s one of the signs he wants to make you his girlfriend. This doesn’t just end at absorbing vocabulary or your gesticulations. If you mention having read a book, he may read it too just to find common ground with you.

22. Laughs at your jokes (even the bad ones)

One of the signs he finds you irresistible is that everything you say or do strikes a chord with him. And so, you may notice that he laughs heartily at all your jokes, even the bad ones. No, this is not because he feels like he has to or because he’s trying to score brownie points. It’s about the connection you share in that moment. That laughter is a sign he genuinely enjoys your company, your sense of humor, and the fact that you’re not afraid to be a little silly around him.

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23. He acts a little nervous around you

As you may have caught on by now, the answer to the question, “Is he attracted to me?”, lies in the guy’s demeanor and behavior around you. So, if you notice that despite being a suave and put-together person, he is stumbling over his words or fidgeting nervously when you’re around, it could be because his feelings for you are making him nervous. This is also one of the signs of sexual tension that he may be trying to hide.

Maybe he’s fidgeting with his drink or adjusting his collar a bit too often. Or perhaps he’s rambling on about random stuff, like how he once accidentally wore mismatched socks to a job interview. Classic nervous guy move. The next time you notice him acting a little nervous around you, don’t write it off as him being awkward. Take it as a sign that he’s genuinely interested and just a tad nervous because, hey, you’re pretty darn irresistible.

24. He remembers the little things

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He remembers the little things like how you like your coffee

All right, let’s talk about the magic of remembering the little things. You know those tiny details you mention in passing, like your favorite ice cream flavor or the fact that you’re low-key obsessed with succulents? Well, when a guy remembers those tidbits without you having to remind him, it’s one of the clearest signs he finds you irresistible.

It shows that he is not just listening to you but also actively storing away those little nuggets of information like precious gems. And when he busts them out later, it’s like he’s saying, “Hey, I remember that thing you said, and I think it’s pretty awesome.”

25. He initiates deep conversations

Talking about the weather is fine and all, but if he’s diving into discussions about your hopes, dreams, and fears, he’s not just making small talk. He wants to connect on a deeper level. One minute you’re chatting about the latest Netflix binge, and suddenly, he hits you with a question like, “What’s your biggest fear in life?” Whoa, right? But instead of feeling caught off guard, you find yourself opening up, sharing your hopes, dreams, and maybe even a few insecurities.

When a guy initiates these deep chats, it shows he’s not afraid to go there with you. He’s willing to be vulnerable, to share his own fears and aspirations, and to create a real connection that goes beyond the superficial. This is one of the surefire signs he really likes you.

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26. He’s always up for making plans with you

How to know a man is in love with you, you ask? Picture this: You casually mention this new brunch spot you’ve been dying to try, and before you can even finish your sentence, he says, “When should we go?” Or maybe you’re itching for a spontaneous road trip, and he’s already packing snacks and picking out tunes.

It’s not just about saying yes to hanging out; it’s about his enthusiasm. He’s not just going through the motions; he’s genuinely excited to spend time with you, no matter what you’re doing. And it’s not just about convenience, either. Sure, it’s easy to say yes when you’re suggesting something he enjoys, but even when it’s not his cup of tea, he’s still down to give it a shot because he values your time together. And that, my friend, is one of the most endearing signs that he sees you as someone special.

27. You just feel it

You know that feeling in your gut when something just clicks? Yeah, that’s what we’re talking about here. The inexplicable magnetism that draws you to someone, and you can’t quite put your finger on why. It’s as if you just get each other without having to say a word. You finish each other’s sentences, laugh at the same stupid jokes, and find yourselves lost in conversation for hours on end. The signs he finds you irresistible and has already established a rapport with you.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. What makes a woman irresistible and magnetic?

The word irresistible means you’re too tempting to be withstood. For starters, a smile, confidence, and passion are some of the things that make a woman irresistible. Also, honesty/authenticity makes a woman charming. And, a cute personality makes a woman unforgettable to a man.

2. Is he into me?

If a guy keeps accidentally touching you, wants to spend all his time with you, and looks for reasons to talk to you, these are signs a guy thinks about you. Also, when a man says he appreciates you, it’s one of the signs he finds you beautiful from the inside.

3. What does it mean when a guy asks when he can see you?

If he feels a spark with you, he may show it in subtle signs a guy finds you irresistible. If he takes an interest in your life, establishes physical contact, and gives you thoughtful gifts, he probably feels something for you.

Key Pointers

  • If a man looks for excuses to be in your vicinity, he finds you desirable
  • A confident man may hold eye contact and a shy man may avoid eye-locking if he likes you
  • Observe the little things (like him giving you thoughtful gifts) to gauge his interest
  • “I could talk to you for hours” is synonymous with “I find you fascinating”
  • If you don’t pretend to be someone else, you’re most definitely a catch
  • Depth and layers to personality are what make a woman irresistible to a man

Finally, it is one thing for a man to be drawn to you and quite another for him to want to build a strong genuine connection with you. You will be able to tell the difference when his attention and his efforts to make an impression on you feel a lot more than just signs of lust in a man. That said, just because you notice the signs he finds you irresistible, don’t start planning your happily-ever-after with him. Communicate, talk, and figure out if you’re both on the same page before you let your heart take a leap.

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