Once I discussed my crush on a beautiful colleague with a friend in the office.
“She is so beautiful but I am not sure if she will be interesting to talk to.”
“What?” my friend sounded aghast, “You don’t have to play KBC with her in bed, dude!”
More often than not, men seek beauty or hotness in their ladies, while ladies look for protection and security in their partners. This could be rooted in our social stereotypical gender rules and roles that we seriously need to look at again and challenge.
Both men and women are attracted to each other. However, admitting sexual desires labels one gender super studs, and the other, super sluts.
I was furiously switching channels the last weekend and I tumbled upon two films, Haseena Maan Jayegi and Aarzoo, in which Sanjay Dutt and Akshay Kumar plant a forced kiss on their heroines, Pooja Batra and Madhuri Dixit respectively and no one seems to have a problem with that. The idea of machismo in ‘70s and ‘80s, especially in Hindi films, was pretty warped; stalk women, make sleazy comments and gestures and come across as a rough and tough hero. My sister faced such characters every day during her school and college life. She was so harassed that she even wanted to commit suicide. And to my utter shock and disbelief, I saw these characters being celebrated on the big screen every week, shamelessly adding to the rape culture of the country.