“How to get a man to chase you?” my friend asked. We were having a relaxed girl gang vacay and the evening chat veered to this topic. If a woman had her way she would get a man to chase her forever but most often she isn’t that good at understanding a man’s psyche.
So vacations of this kind are great places to pick up tricks and tips of understanding the chasing game. Women want men to chase them over phone calls, over texts and over conversations. They would pretend to ignore men most of the time but they love this chasing business in their heart of hearts. It gives them an idea of how serious is the guy about her and how he is not ready to give up easily.
If a lady is thinking of how to get a guy to be after her then this is what she should be reading.
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15 Ways To Get A Man To Chase You
You read it right. Every woman wants to be tracked; to be made exclusive and wanted. And no, there is nothing vain or ridiculous about it. It’s innate. Deep inside, we all know how much we enjoy the adrenaline rush of being pursued. It’s the same way for a man too.
He wants to win his ladylove by hook or by crook. The fact that he would follow you to the end of the world is a testimony to his desire and love for you.
But there’s the catch. Women, you should play hard to get only when you know that it’s worth it. Your feelings must be real. You must want to be in a relationship with him. Otherwise, you would be doing something vain and evil at the same time because you will be leading on to boost your ego. That is obnoxious.
So, how to make a man fall hard for you and all the worthy reasons why you should make him chase you? Let’s find out.
1. Be a woman of substance
If you have studied male psychology, you should know: Men love physical beauty, but they value a strong, competent, and independent woman more. If you want the best of men to fall for you, then you have to become the best version of yourself.
Work hard, party harder, love your life, be kind; and watch him crave to be a part of your life. There are things that women do that annoy men. You should avoid doing that to make yourself irresistible.
2. Never judge a man by his looks
Also, by his gifts. He might be the modern Mr Darcy and might shower gifts like Christian Grey, but don’t fall for it. Look beyond his charm and wealth. Note his efforts.
Is he trying to squeeze in some time from his crazy work schedule? Does he remember that little piece of personal info that you shared? If yes, then you are one lucky lady.
If you come across a woman that is easily pleased by expensive gifts and physical appearance, the man you are trying to attract may not think that you are worth his time and efforts. However, this does not mean that being attracted to someone for the way they look isn’t natural, of course it is! But, it is just as important to look past their outer glamour and examine their personality.
If you are considering committing to someone long-term, we highly recommend that you seek dating and premarital counselling to make sure you and your partner are compatible. This will help in the long run.
3. Try keeping your emotions in check
At some point in the chase, you might be tempted to give in easily (especially when he is being adorable and convincing). What can you do? With every passing day, you’re getting older. This is where you need to control your emotions.
In a few dates, he might have swept you off your feet and taken you to paradise. But wouldn’t it be wiser to know him intimately before committing to a relationship? The wait is always worth it! Your aim is to get a man to chase you and commit. Stick to it.
4. Make him chase you, not ‘use’ you
Women, for all of their wit, can be pretty delusional at times. They think that all men want sex (seriously?). And if they give him what he wants, he’ll go mad for them. Wrong. If you’ve studied male psychology, then you should know – men go after women who can offer them more than just her body.
They are looking for warmth, comfort, security and companionship much like women are. However, sexual compatibility is important too so make sure you enjoy the act as much as him.
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5. Stop chasing him if you want him to chase you
Somewhere between having a romantic dinner to having a late-night talk, you have started chasing him. You’re the one who is constantly texting and wanting to know about him. You nudge him for the meeting. You push him to think – What about the woman I thought was happy in her life? You become attainable, and they drop the chase.
If you want him to make you his priority and get the man to chase you then stop doing that. If you want him to chase you through texting for instance then follow the texting rulebook.
6. Always keep some sense of mystery
As much as you love the stories about each other, it’s still good to hold some information back. Men love solving women who seem like a mystery to them. That’s when they get the thrill of chasing. Don’t be a journal; be a mystery.
If you keep dropping every information about you in your conversations then by the end of every conversation he is bored to death. But keep things unsaid and let him find out. See how he falls for you.
7. Make him pine for you
Hold back on the meetings and text messaging. Tell him you’re busy or out of town. Going Miss Invisible on him is a good old trick to check if he’s missing you or not. Make him worry about losing you and go have got your game in place.
8. Make him feel you care too
He is doing all the talking while you’re too busy with your cell phone. You fail to listen to him. You don’t compliment him. You are insensitive to his feelings.
There is a huge possibility that you’re making it a ‘playing hard’ game without any regard for him. Men love the chase as long they see that their efforts are reciprocated. If you want him for good, then ‘show’ it.
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9. Become a treat to his eyes
The visual impression is a powerful tool to get inside a man’s mind. Whether you are stunning or average, looks-wise, always take care to dress your presentable best. It’s basic dating etiquette. When you look good and smell good, you become irresistible to him.
He fantasises about having you around all the time. And it’s quite natural that he will be on his toes to meet you in every subsequent date.
10. Throw in a bit of competition
At the core of a man’s instinct is game. He can sniff it out in a heartbeat. Drop hints that he isn’t the only one chasing you. A little bit of healthy competition will level up the challenge for him. If he cares, he will up his game to win you.
Just let him know that there are some other people who are interested and sit back. This is a the best way to get a guy to chase you.
11. Try flirting
We know who the pursuer is and who is pursued. But a little flirting will ensure that your man is interested. Your flirtation will only spice up the game.
Flirting is also an art and if you do it rightly the guy could chase you forever till you say yes.
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12. Give him space
It’s very crucial to know how to maintain the exact amount of space in the initial stages of wooing a man. Make sure you lead separate lives while dating each other. Keep your texts short and sexy. Talk with him, but avoid being clingy.
Maintaining space in any relationship is crucial. If you want a guy to chase you then keeping a healthy distance is all the more important.
13. If you want him to chase you seduce him subtly
After a few dates, he must have complimented you on some aspect of your beauty. Accentuate it, and use it as a weapon to seduce him. For example, if he likes you, the colour red, then pick the most tantalising red outfits and watch him lust over you.
Seduction is an art and you must do it subtly to make him chase you.
14. Boost him and encourage him
There might come the point where he might start having self-doubts or lose confidence. He might be going through a tough time in life as well. Try being there for him, and lift him. He will appreciate the shoulder and come to admire you.
15. Don’t be afraid to walk out
Love and relationship aside, always put your self-respect and worth first. If you see that he is not that much into you and is playing you around, walk out on him. You deserve better.
So, we hope that these little tricks and tips will help you find your mystery man someday. Just a small piece of advice – don’t make him chase for long!