There are obvious flirting signs from women that men often tend to miss these days. Gone are the days when taking a turn around the room would catch the gentleman’s eye and urge him to reserve you for the next dance. Gone are the days that a cursory glance at his direction would have him swiftly make his way over to you. Indeed, gone are the days, when a flush of colour on your cheeks would give a man a reason to hope.
Ladies, we know in this day and age, a woman making the first move is not only the new normal but also a welcome break, away from the traditions that made courting a one-sided art. But when you muster up the courage to approach the gentleman, you do expect him to pick up on the subtle hints and at least meet you half way. But most often these days men can’t latch on to the flirting signs from women.
5 Obvious Flirting Signs Guys Miss
Here you were thinking he will ask you why you look different today (it will be too much to expect him to notice the new hairdo) and he is busy arguing the season’s best scorer in the league with his friends!
In my experience, most of the men I have met are incredibly fast on picking up hints when you are not even dropping them; and yet proceed at a glacial pace when you are trying your best to make him understand that your intention in meeting him was not just to get the DVD of that movie he has been talking about. Yes, there are flirting signs men don’t decode.
To the ladies who have never been in this situation, I bid you farewell here promising that the rest of the article will not make much sense to you. To my fellow mourners, here are some of the obvious flirting signs that men miss – just to make the blows less painful as you keep identifying with them, I shall go from the more obvious signs that men miss to the more subtle ones.
1. Why are you complimenting him?
Complimenting anyone is a nice gesture. Doing it in front of everyone is even more gracious.
But gents, if a girl has been laughing at your jokes throughout the evening when all you got from the others are unsure polite smiles, she has a vested interest in you. She was probably even laughing at your lame jokes.
If she is complimenting you on your sense of humour then it’s one of the obvious flirting signs that you are missing.
When you compliment a man, he takes it just like that – a compliment. Something he will hold on to, with pride. Something that will give him a push when he needs it. But the thing he completely leaves out of the equation is – you. YOU gave him the compliment, because…
YOU want him to know you like him. I can assure you he has not thought this far. The minute you said, you admired how he stood up to his boss, he went off on a hypothetical in his mind, where he replayed the scene and pictured himself saying things he wish he had said to his boss – maybe next time. And in the process he has missed the female flirting wave that hit him. So he just failed to latch on to the fact that you are flirting with him, you are interested in him and that is why you are complimenting him. (Gosh! God help him.)
2. Is he unable to understand your “likes” on social media?
You liked his profile picture. Dropped a comment even, with two emoticons. A few minutes later you refreshed your feed. He has liked your comment. Along with the 5 other comments below yours.
Nothing screams “I like you too”.
While social media has become an inherent part of our lives and is here to stay, let us not forget the pleasure of getting to know someone without the virtual screen. It used to be wonderful to peel off the different layers of his personality than to go through his Wall. If he likes you already, then an appreciation from you will encourage him to make a move. But if he has no clue that you are interested, that “like” is all you are getting at the moment. If he is unable to decode the obvious flirting signs from you then you have to make things a bit more obvious.
If you like him , text him. It will save you a fruitless, time-consuming analysis of a situation that does not exist. Maybe he will get the drift then.
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3. Did he not notice that you are looking gorgeous?
That doesn’t sound right – why should you dress up for him? You should dress up for no one but yourself. He may or may not see the change in you. Why put so much effort into in and roll the dice when he may not even notice?
Ladies, if you are dressing up, do it right – do it for yourself and let impressing the guy with your costume be an inevitability of the effort. Don’t thicken the brow because he likes it that way, but because you do. Oscar Wilde said, “A man’s face is his autobiography. A woman’s face is her work of fiction.” So be it. If he can keep his autobiography, wouldn’t you want to write your own fiction?
Dress up in clothes that “you” like and clothes that make you feel comfortable and of course, hope that he would notice that you look gorgeous. Umm…don’t expect that he would pick up the flirting signs from you just because you look stunning, but chances are his eyes would register that you are flipping your shiny hair often.
4. Why are you teasing him?
Teasing is nice. When playfully done. But don’t throw the poor chap overboard with it.
Now, I don’t know about you, but I have witnessed a friend of mine tell the man who was on the brink of professing his love to her, that he should date her best friend – just to see his reaction. He was flabbergasted, thought she has been leading him, had absolutely no interest in him and was heartbroken. He stopped pursuing her. Years later, they met again, she told him this was her way of teasing him because she liked him so much – they were able to get together and have been married now for two years.
She was lucky. They were lucky. You might not get the same Act Two in life. So tease him as much as you like, but don’t push him out the door with his bags in tow. Making him jealous is a good way of teasing him but be sure that you stay within the boundaries. If you don’t he would decode your flirting signs as interest in others and not in him. So beware!
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5. Is he getting your sarcasm?
This is my personal favourite. I have saved it for the last. Partly because if keyed in at the correct measure this can work wonders for your courtship; but turn it up two notches more and you are dangerously close to being rude and insensitive.
And I speak from experience.
It took a guy 6 years to understand that I liked him – because all those years the more I liked him, the more sarcastic I got with him.
Now don’t get me wrong. I like good slapstick humour from time to time. Everyone does.
The dry wit. The caustic remarks. But make sure to look out for the opportune moment and not throw a flurry of insults his way. If he is intelligent, he will stick around for a while longer to know your intentions, but overdoing the sarcasm won’t exactly give him the signal to drop everything and sweep you off your feet. He will obviously not get the flirting signs you are throwing his way.
Women flirt when they are interested in a man. Most often men find the flirting signs confusing and often mistake those as mixed signals. But it’s not all that hard to understand that a lady is interested in you if you keep your eyes and ears open to her laughter at your lame jokes, to the flipping of her hair, to her fidgeting when she sits opposite to you at a restaurant and to her attempts to make you jealous. You surely won’t miss the obvious signs that she is interested in you.