Affair and Cheating

He didn’t even reply to my message after we made love but I didn’t cry

She gave in to temptation and had sex with him... And then he stopped talking to her
Sad woman with umbrella

(As told to Tripti Sharan)

“Hello?”

I panicked but gathered my wits. He owed me this.

“Hello, it’s me.” An awkward silence ensued.

“Hey listen, I’m in a meeting!” The harsh hollowness in his voice resonated with rejection, much like the silence that was greeting me these days.

“I know you don’t want to talk to me.”

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  1. Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. Even that concept is outdated now. In today’s androgynous world where gender lines are blurred, the bottom line is taking responsibility for one’s actions. It’s all a matter of choice and free will, and looking for anything beyond is like looking for integrity in the gutter. As for karma, jarma is a choice we make in the here and the now. Karma is nothing but the power of intent. Good intent creates the good, bad intent creates a resultant backlash.

  2. Sometimes the whole connection is karmic. It is meant to cause pain and make one learn difficult Life lessons. Why was she so carried away by a man she barely knew? In her trusting naivete wouldn’t she hurt her own situation? The fact is that there exist both men and women who are users… It is best to establish a solid basis for trust before moving on to the next step.
    Don’t Women also lust? Why then do they feel used once the sex is over and the inevitable parting has happened? Food for thought. The man definitely didn’t show the courage of letting her down gently. His taunts imply that he was a psychologically damaged creature who lived the conquest and then used silence and cruelty to end it. One cannot expect anything from such pathological cowards.
    Adultery generally ends in grief. I think the woman protagonist surprised herself by her bold and impulsive actions and sought justification saying that she felt genuine emotion while he didn’t – a classic defensive response in order to protect her own mental image. Could this affair have gone further and ended in a different way? Except for the man creating an unfair and abrupt end to the affair instead of being more mature and kind, there is no other plausible finish. It’s just time to let it go and move on, and be grateful that the illusory drama has ended. Therein lies the lesson.

    1. The story doesn’t imply that it wasn’t mutual. Rather admits about it being so but does it give the guy the right to behave like that. And the story is not about being used but of being unfair. Its the ending that was cruel and haunting. He could have given his side of story but he chose to stay silent leaving his behavior open to interpretation and suspicious. If only men were more courageous! But courage is what they use at only one place. Courtesy, dignity and respect is what we expect even from the enemy and is just as crucial as trust!

  3. I can understand the Used and wasted feeling that eats up every moment.
    one way I say its good it ended with one incident rather than taking nasty turns causing prolonged troubles.

    Needless to say..you are very brave.
    Hope a sense of caution gets into every person who reads this article.

    May you regain strength to move ahead in life.

  4. Shocking, seems to be a case of being cheated, and the girl has had a horrid experience. One thing appreciable is the courage with which the girl has conveyed her experience. Definitely the boy has tricked the girl, into this situation, and has behaved like a wild animal after the physical contact. My prayers, that the girl, do not over think, on this accident, and not blame herself, at all. This only puts emphasis on the point, that lot of caution, is to be exercised, and not fall victim, to the mind games, that come into play, when a person, tries to make the Physical Contact. Do pick up yourself, young one, and work towards an excellent and better position in life. Best Wishes and God Bless You.

  5. Reading this, I can relate to some matters where he said something about your performance not being up to the mark, Well let me be very clear here “He was the one lacking and not you, he couldn’t arouse you enough for you to give him his pleasure. He was selfish and took what he wanted. Indian women aren’t taught to seek pleasure which is highly incorrect and a crime. We aren’t brazen or sluts to crave physical fulfilling. Trust me, there are better men out there. Also never ever give in to a man’ s desire. Your body is your own, have SEX with a guy only when you feel and are comfortable. Someone told me this “Taunts, blames, name keeping hurled on to you is never about you or your character, it is about the one hurling it”. Most of all “LOVE YOURSELF” before expecting anyone else to do so. God bless you & may you meet a better person.

  6. Very sad tale. “He” is altogether like so many males and such an egoist, totally uncaring the damage he’s doing and not seeing anything but satiation and conquest that’s self affiming for him while completing undermining her. A very difficult confession but hopefully a chance for growtth and autonomy as well. 👍🏼👌🏽

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