Romantic things men love that have nothing to do with sex

Anney Sam
couple travelling in a car

It’s not just sex for him, you know

Most women think that all men want vis-à-vis a woman is to get into her pants. Many men object to that vehemently and say that they do appreciate the finer things about a woman’s company and do not even think about sex. I have taken only those activities that are romantic and don’t involve sex among people in a relationship or are married. It is fair to grant it to men that everything is not about sex, because even they are humans and therefore are intellectual, logical, dignified and well-mannered, as much as a woman, maybe. In fact I do believe in the matter of sex the woman has and needs much more sex, and does not show as much restraint as a man does. Here are some light observations of what a man likes in a woman and does not necessarily mean ending up in bed.

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Feeding them their food with your hands

I have found this with wives of IT software engineer husbands. Especially when they are working round the clock and cannot take a break because a deadline is fast approaching. Their wives take to hand feeding their beloved husbands and it is so heartwarming to see this exchange. The grateful husband seems like an infant.

Sitting with them to watch a football match

Many husbands love to spend their spare time watching their favourite sport. And for cricket in India many women are even more passionate about the game than their spouses. If a girlfriend or wife makes an effort to sit through a sport at the grounds or even in front of the TV, the man feels it is a romantic gesture and will even go the extent of paying in kind, liking taking her out for a spin or a meal after the game.

Learning to change the car tyre

An independent woman is a great attraction for many men. If she can change a flat tyre all by herself without the help of a man, they tend to look at her as a diva, and the shared effort seems very romantic. Many men proudly proclaim to their friends that the wife can and does fix the spare tyre in case of a flat on the road.

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Cooking for him

The mere act of cooking his favourite foods can make him feel thoroughly loved and can make it a very romantic gesture. Especially when this is a rare gesture that happens once in a while.

Playing monopoly with the entire family

Most families I know have a session of paying Life or Monopoly or carroms once or twice a month just to chill and enjoy leisure time. This is a romantic gesture that a woman can initiate and make Dad the main guy in the game. Let him be the referee, the judge and let him feel like God.


Organic gardens are probably the best thing to romantically incline your mate, digging in the soil, planting new life, repotting the soil in older posts, composting, vermiculture and watching your plants thrive into lush green plants and flower. It’s also a great joy to let him pluck the first fruits; name a particular fruit in his honour.

Going on long rides with you

This is the most highly rated activity for romance. Letting the winds graze your hair and face, on the way to your favourite forest, or lake or mountain, is probably the best way to make a day romantic and filled with well being and joy.

Getting a tel maalish

A lovely head massage is truly a thing of pleasure to any man. Learn how to give a good head and neck massage and provide this service on a lazy Sunday morning. It’s truly romantic and doesn’t mean he will expect a happy ending.

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Being ready to receive any romantic gesture

Your willingness to accept a romantic act is in itself a source of pleasure to your man. That does not mean he will read any sexual intent in it. The fact that you aren’t distant, cold or offhand about his flying kiss is very romantic to him. It kind of validates his role in your life.

On being praised

The most happily romantic move is to acknowledge his worth in your life. This praise on any aspect of his personality, values or behaviour increases his self-esteem and therefore his love for you. Always remember, a warm rub of his back and shoulders makes any man feel safe and secure and know it’s such a romantic move on your part.

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Saloni Maheshwari
Saloni Maheshwari July 23, 2018 - 1:49 pm

The theory goes that men aren’t supposed to like romance. But more and more of them are coming out of their shell to admit that, yes, they want to be wooed from time to time, too. The type and nature of the gesture is more important than the size!

Manjari Thakur
Manjari Thakur July 5, 2018 - 3:47 pm

Okay. Now this is heartwarming. As they say, happiness lies in the little things. Any human, irrespective of their gender, would be a happy person, if one learns to enjoy these happy moments.

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