The pen is mightier than the sword and so are spoken words! A friend who runs a suicide prevention organization told me how about how they have but words to convince the person that lofe is better than death and that hope exists, only that they cannot see it then. Words have the power to change moods, transform attitudes, and open possibilities where you thought none existed. Use the power of words to brighten your marriage.
Marriages become dull and boring as time passes, romance fades, but we can use tools to add the zing back. Most of the time we start taking the partner for granted and do not express our love and care as we once did. Romancing with words is a nice way to bring the softness back in your marriage and get into the upward spiral once again. You compliment him, he feels happy and says something nice to you, you follow up with a soft touch or a gesture like cooking his favourite dish. He, in turn, showers more love because he feels loved and contented. Being a hopeless romantic never really loses it’s charm, remember all the world loves a lover! There are wonderful romantic things to say to your husband to make him feel appreciated and loved. He will feel wanted and he will make you feel like his queen!
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How To Express Your Love To Husband In Words
Bollywood and Hollywood sell you the dream of a ‘happily ever after’, but the truth is that most marriages turn loveless and sexless unless efforts are made to rekindle the spark. Think about it, your husband has probably done the wooing bit to get you to be into him, how about you take up that role now? The way to become more romantic involves a bit of flirting, a small dollop of kindness, some attention, and a mix of shared activities. Take this cue and take the onus of getting that much-needed romance back into your married life.
Take every opportunity to express how he makes you feel, use gentle words, and the right look. Normally it is the husband’s job to pamper, turn that around and see how easy it is for you to win him over with a little effort. Learn the art to say what he wants to hear, and couple it with the right tiny moves like snuggling into him, passing a quick wink (if you live in a joint family), or simply develop a code word which says you love him in the most innocent words. Prarthana had devised the line, ‘It is a little warmer today than normal’ to let her husband know that she is thinking of him in a room full of in-laws and kids.
Besides using similar code words, you could also consider gifting your husband a journal where you’ve documented all the things you love about him. Or maintaining a little personalized love book that you can read together from time to time to remind him of all ways in which he makes your heart skip a beat.
Let this article guide you on how to use the right romantic words to flirt with your husband and make him think of you more than he does!
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16 Romantic Things To Say To Your Husband
After marriage, romance often takes a backseat. The thrill of the chase is over, the person has been won over, signed sealed and delivered. And thus the focus moves onto other things, kids, parents, running a home, making money, planning a budget, preparing for the future, the couple has time for everything except each other. Take the charge and get romantic with your better half. The most effective way to do this is by saying romantic and sweet things to your husband to make him feel good about the relationship and himself as well.
Remember we all get irritated and annoyed with the spouse at some point or other but you must take care and not let what you say in anger ruin all the sweet nothings you have whispered and worked on through the day. Here are 16 things you can say to express your love to your spouse. It’s important to feel the romance even as you whisper these romantic things to your husband.
1. ‘I truly appreciate the things you do for me’
Most marriages fall into a negative cycle of complaints. ‘You take me for granted’. ‘You do not care about me’. ‘I have to nag you for you to listen to me’. ‘You are on your mobile 24/7’, are some of the common lines you throw at your husband, don’t you. We forget to appreciate the little things they do but only seem to point out the ones that bother us. Change the cycle!
Appreciate what he does do. If he keeps the phone aside yo give you his undivided attention, expresses your gratitude for it. When he gets you the grocery you asked for from his way home from work, let him know you appreciate it. If he sees your empty glass and offers to make you a drink, thank him. Extend him the same politeness and courtesies to him, that you do to your friends and extended family.
And add a little bit of flirtatiousness when you do so. That brush of hands, that suggestive look, that sexy curve of lips, bring it all in. Top it up with an initiative to spice things up in the bedroom to really drive home the message that you appreciate your man. Buying the sexy lingerie that he said would look good on you or ordering that scintillating red lipstick that makes him drool ought to do the trick. This will place him in the upward romance cycle as well as he does even more things to gain your appreciation. Whisper a naughty thing here and there as an icing to the cake!
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2. ‘You bring out the best in me’
If you think your husband is perfect for you, then you must express that. Let him know how he brings out the best in you. Nikita always felt that her husband complimented her personality, she was hot-headed he helped her calm down. She easily mistrusted people, he encouraged her to give people benefit of the doubt.
She sulked on small things while he always made her see the bigger picture. Your husband will be floored by this compliment. It is extremely romantic to know that your partner thinks you are making a positive difference in their personality. Nothing like having your wife tell you you are responsible for her best. Oh so romantic!! Here’s a story of a couple who said how their romance began after three years of having been married.
Your spouse will obviously be elated to know that he has had a major role to play in your growth.
3. ‘Marrying you was the best decision of my life’
There might be times when your man feels as if he is letting you down. You sense that he feels guilty for not being able to give you the life of your dreams or fulfil even your small desires. He may not be very vocal about this but learn to read the signs. Is he trying to avoid eye contact, not talk about deeper things? Spends less time with you? You should use this opportunity to make him feel good about what the two of you share.
Tell him, that marrying him was one of the best decisions of your life. We go a story of a woman who spoke of how her husband said ‘I love you to her’ through the grocery bills, read it here. Reassuring him that you sincerely love him will go a long way in making your relationship with him stronger. This is the sweetest thing you can tell your husband. Tell him you pick love over materialism anytime!
4. ‘I love the way you carry yourself’
From being well-groomed to being well dressed, if there is anything about your husband that impresses you and makes him irresistible then you must let him know. Compliment him on the perfume he picked to the colours that look good on him. Touch his biceps and tell him how strong they are. You will see his confidence rising.
Ask his help in shopping, tell him you need his consult in picking out clothes that flatter your body type. If you’re browsing clothes online on a lazy Sunday afternoon, ask him to weigh in on the options you’ve shortlisted because you love his sense of style. Appreciating his sense of style and choice is a sure winner, your husband will fall head over heels in love with you.
5. ‘Would you like to go out on a date with me?’
That you are married does not mean that you both stop dating each other and forget about the fun times you had in the past. You should make it a point to keep the fire burning by asking your husband out on a date, and we are sure that he will not be able to resist the offer. Choose a romantic restaurant and have a wonderful date. Remember to wear his special perfume on that date night!
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6. ‘My friends/colleagues find you hot as well as adorable’
Men loved being complimented by other women, tell him the specifically the compliments they paid him. ‘They said you go the extra mile to make them comfortable when at our home’, ‘They find you very handsome’. ‘They think you are very informed about what is happening in the world’. Remember to pass him the compliments he receives, we often ignore them. It will boost his self-confidence and he will, in turn, take care to be even better. He would find these sweet especially coming from his wife!
Thus, you can conveniently stroke your husband’s ego by sharing with him what others genuinely think about him.
7. ‘You know the ideal way to make me smile’
Perhaps you are lucky enough to find a husband who is witty and can make you laugh! Perhaps he can laugh at his own silliness and mistakes thus lightening the atmosphere? Let him know how cool that is. And please know it is not easy to find a man who can make you smile and laugh! A healthy sense of humour is the hardest to find and goes a long way in making your relationship romantic.
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8. ‘I always look forward to meeting you’
This is the most romantic thing to say to your husband. By saying this to your man, you are clearly trying to tell him that you miss him when he is not around and you are always eager to meet him after a hectic day at the office or some other commitment. This particular statement also shows that you cannot imagine spending your life without him and that your days end and start with him. This is the most romantic thing to tell your husband.
9. ‘You make me feel protected at all times’
Men have this genetic need to be the providers and protectors. They feel empowered when they can do so and if and when you feel safe in his presence you must make it a point to express that. It is your way of asserting his importance in your life and it will always work.
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10. ‘When you touch me, I feel like you cherish me’
Does your husband’s touch feel special to you? Whenever he touches you, does it make your heart race? If your answer to these questions is yes, then do let him know. The romantic things you say to him also make him want you more in bed which will end in a happy intense relationship in the bedroom.
11. ‘As well as a good husband, you are a good son and a dad’
Appreciate him in the other roles as well. Did he take his parents to the doctors? Or does he help the kids with their tuition? Did he fix a machine that broke down? Is he taking care of the insurance for the entire family? Has he taken the work of filing returns on himself? Let him know that you know all the extra work he takes up and that him fulfilling his responsibilities is one of the reasons you are so much in love with him. Tell him that he is a complete man. Do not forget to compliment him on his roles. Tell him that you took the quiz about his being a good househusband and he fared very well!
12. ‘I cannot forget the fun we had last night’
If the physical intimacy between the two of you is amazing and you both can express your sexual desires appropriately, it is a sign of a healthy relationship. Make sure you tell him that he is mindful of your pleasures and that makes you feel even more loved.
Plus, you must tell your husband that you really had fun last night and you look forward to other such encounters in the future.
13. ‘You have grown as a person, which is why I adore you more’
Workplace challenges, the rat race, struggling to make ends meet are some of the issues most modern households go through. There is more stress on the couple today than ever. Acknowledge how he has dealt with the rising pressure and come out an achiever. Has he taken up any course to better his skills? Is he taking charge of his health? Make sure you notice the little things he does and make it a point to acknowledge it. These are heart touching love messages for your husband.
14. ‘Spending time with you is something that I treasure’
You both must be having activities that you all do together, like exercising, cooking, vacationing, shopping, etc. Let him know how fun things are when the two of you do it together. I knew a couple who made wine together and then drank it however awful it tasted. you can even binge-watch your favourite shows together and then discuss them. Discuss the characters and their actions and let him know how invigorating it makes you feel.
15. ‘I am ready to grow old with you’
This statement reveals your commitment to the relationship and reassures your husband that you are ready to spend your whole life with him. Growing old does not scare you, as long as you have him by your side.
16. ‘I wholeheartedly love you’
Tell him that he is your mirror and you love what your mirror reflects. Saying you love him in different words is the simplest way to express your feelings towards your husband. You can even keep these post-it notes in his office bag to surprise him. At least, keep repeating this statement to let him know that he is your soul mate and there is no other person who could have been your Mr Right.
We know it is not always easy to convey your feelings of love through words. However, if you follow these 16 romantic things to say to your husband, then we are sure that your marriage will be beautiful, full of romance, and as happy as you want it to be!