Hi, Dr Avani!
I am a 34-year-old woman and have been married for past 5 years. I have been thinking about my problem and wasn’t sure if it can be resolved or maybe I need to end my marriage and move on. My husband is a very nice guy and I have no issues with him with respect to his nature or anything else… apart from one thing. Our sex life is not very good. Specially in my case I don’t feel passionate about making love with him. It’s been there since the beginning. In the initial years I thought it’s due to my broken relationship with my ex with whom I had a extremely passionate relationship, but things didn’t work out with him. I was broken but I had to move on. I met my husband and got married after a few months of knowing him. My husband is such a nice guy that any girl may want him… But when it comes to me getting intimate or physical with him I don’t find my self very comfortable or wanting to do it. When he touches me I feel like a stranger is touching me and may be that’s why I never initiate sex. I don’t want to break this marriage but also want to fulfill my needs. I feel like having sex but never tell him. Don’t know what stops me. When we do it, it’s not passionate but very monotonous. I need help. I do ask myself why I feel this way. Is it because I am not over my ex or is it because I don’t love my husband or is it something else altogether? Please help me.