15 Signs That Say A Girl Only Wants Attention, Not You

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Consider this scenario: You meet a girl and you both hit it off and sparks are flying. In the beginning, she keeps doing things to get your attention. You do not pay much attention to this and might even find it cute.

But over time, her behaviour becomes desperate and intense. You start doubting her feeling towards you. It seems you are just there in her life to satisfy her ego and you do not matter to her and she is simply being selfish. If this is a situation that you are facing in your love life, then you are the victim of attention seeking girlfriend and the article below will help you identify some signs.

Who Really Is An Attention Seeker?

Simply put, an attention seeker is a person who only wants attention from all the people around him/her. He/she probably feels empty and disappointed if they are unable to be at the center of attention of others. For gaining the attention of others, an attention seeker is quite skilled in managing and manipulating people and will go to extreme lengths to ensure everyone is paying attention to them. Socially too, the person can adapt very easily and you will find them modifying their personality based on their surroundings.

When you are dating an attention-seeking girl, you will notice that she will have the power to draw you towards her and keep you by her side, but will never really give you the respect and value that you deserve. She will ensure that you give 100 per cent to the relationship and might even make you believe that you both can have a bright future together. But in the end, she genuinely has no interest in being in a relationship with you. She wants you around just to validate her and boost her ego. You might find yourself constantly trying to solve her problems and never getting the chance to share any of your own. You will feel like you are her therapist, parent, boyfriend and best friend all wrapped into one.

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15 Signs A Girl Only Wants Your Attention And NOT You

An attention seeker is so addicted to the attention that he/she can adopt any means to seek the validation and approval of others. If you want to avoid being duped by attention seeking girlfriend, then look out for these 15 signs which will help you identify an attention seeker in no time.

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1. An attention seeker thrives on compliments

A girl seeking only attention from you will work on her appearance more than usual and you will find herself constantly trying to look sexy just to get praise from you and the others around her. While most people invest in their appearance, you will notice that she gets irritated when you don’t acknowledge the slightest change in her hair or nails. At the same time, she will almost never compliment you. She will also unnecessarily make negative remarks about how she looks so that you can compliment her instead. She lives on compliments.

2. Bragging is like her favorite hobby

She will exaggerate her achievements and good qualities. She will persistently brag about herself, her life, her job, her family, etc., not to put you down, but just to show you her importance and value. She feels the need to be superior to the people around her, so showing off is one way to do so. You will feel as if you are just a standby lover, not really someone who is appreciated at all.

A man dating an attention-seeker confided in us that he constantly felt inadequate because his girlfriend claimed she could do everything better than him. She was constantly talking about what an excellent cook she is when he would make something for her or bring her food from elsewhere. She would always find faults in the way he did things and would contrast these with how perfectly she handles all tasks and situations. She even bragged about being a much better driver than him despite the fact that she had been in several minor accidents and struggled to follow basic traffic laws!

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3. She loves creating a scene

Her world comes crumbling down if she has to face even a small problem like a fight with her friend or a bad day at work. She loves creating a scene out of nothing and tells everyone about it. In this way, she keeps getting the attention she wants and you keep being there for her because of genuine interest and concern. Chances are she will blow every situation out of proportion and dramatize all aspects of her encounters.

4. An attention seeker is highly active on social media

You will notice that most of the time, the girl will be active on various social media websites like Twitter, Facebook, Instagram etc., and will keep uploading pictures and quotes on her profiles. She does so because she wants people to be in constant touch with her and keep giving her the attention she needs. She will be addicted to online chatting, social media and the internet. While everyone enjoys having a social presence, you will find her obsessing about her likes and followers.

She will probably not reply to your text messages or call you back. But she will reply to you or tag you on social media posts. This is an absolute sign your girl is an attention seeker.

5. She can easily make you and others feel jealous

If she feels that you are losing interest in her then she will try to win back your attention by making you feel jealous. She will flirt with your friends, talk to other guys in front of you and might even act unnecessarily close with your guy friends. Also, she can make others jealous by flaunting you in front of her friends. She will become too cosy with you in front of her friends to the point that they feel uncomfortable and bad. This is a sign she only wants attention.

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6. She is never really there for you

She expects you to be there for her at all times. But when you will need her, she will always be busy and will give you some lame excuse. She will never give you clear answers to any of the questions you ask, especially if the questions are related to commitment and your future together and will always cook up some story to keep you by her side. She is probably commitment phobic.

7. An attention seeker opens up very fast

After she meets you and thinks you are the guy she wants attention from, she will become way too comfortable with you. She will start sharing her feelings and thoughts with you and behave with you like you are an old acquaintance. She will make sure you know that she is interested in you, albeit for her selfish reasons.

If a girl becomes overtly friendly with you in a short period then you must be careful, because she might just be an attention seeker.

We know of someone who shared her entire family and medical history on the very first date!

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8. An attention seeker lacks maturity

At first, she might seem like a mature adult to you. But eventually, you will see that she is like a child who constantly needs approval and attention from you. If you fail to do what she wants then she will throw tantrums and irritate you. She will not feel secure about herself and you will have to continuously validate her.

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9. She never lets you have ‘me-time’

An attention seeking girlfriend will always want you by her side. If you decide to spend time on your own then she will get upset very easily. If you make plans with your friends, then she will either manipulate you to cancel the plan or force you to take her with you. She wants to be the center of your world so she will never let you have me-time.

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10. An attention seeker argues a lot

Without any concrete reason, she will start fighting with others or with you. It is just her way of seeking attention and establishing her superiority over others/you. At the end of the argument or fight, she will twist the conversations in such a way that all the blame will be on you and she will steer clear of any blame.

11. Flirting just comes naturally to her

Not a day goes by without her flirting with another guy. It is like a daily routine for her. Even if she is in a relationship with you, she will not shy away from making advances at another guy. Flirting comes naturally to her. This is because attention from one guy is not enough to fill the void in her and she wants several men to be interested in her at all times.

12. She pretends to be nice

A girl thriving on attention pretends to be nice and kind-hearted because she knows this is how she will be able to get the validation from others. So she is extremely good and goes out of the way to help people, just so that they approve of her. But internally, she might not be that kind-hearted at all. Instead, she likes to see everyone dance to her tunes and is controlling in nature.

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13. An attention seeker seems to know everyone

It seems that people all over the world are her friends. She has so many contacts and acquaintances that you fail to keep up and remember them. Her social media profiles have lengthy friend lists and even if she has not met someone in person, she will behave as if she knows them very well.

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14. She likes hanging out in public places

Instead of going out with you for a peaceful and quiet date, she will make plans to go to a nightclub or the hottest place in town. Why? Because she wants to be seen and wants to get attention, so she will prefer public places where other guys might also notice her. This is an absolute sign she is an attention seeker.

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15. Her friends are copies of her

Most of the time, the friends she hangs out with are just like her. They also exhibit the same attention-seeking signs, because of which she might not let you meet her friends as well. Very rarely will you find good friends around her and even if she has maintained a good relationship with her friends, you will find that they are unable to influence her behavior or talk any sense into her.

Attention seeking girls are unable to build strong and normal relationships with others because it does not give them the ‘celebrity feel’ or any sense of stimulation. So if you are hoping to create a long-lasting, exclusive relationship with someone, then do not fall into the trap of an attention seeker.

How to handle an attention seeking girl?

A couple of suggestions for those who have fallen for attention-seeking girls would be the following: Deal with the entire situation with a lot of patience, self-assurance and self-security, be strong enough to set boundaries in your relationship and do not let it go if she crosses those boundaries, talk to her honestly and let her know that such a behaviour will not be tolerated by you, and finally back off from the relationship. Do not allow her to use and hurt you. If there is no hope for the relationship then you must have the courage to break up with such a girl.

Types of attention seekers you meet in the dating world

Attention seekers usually get into relationships to make sure that there is someone constantly by their side to praise them and put them on a pedestal. Here are the types of attention seekers that you may find in the dating world.

Merrymaking attention seeker

When you will hang out with this kind of attention seeker, he/she will seem adventurous and fun to you. The merrymaker will instil life and enjoyment in any place or situation whatsoever. But when in a relationship, such merrymaking attention seekers tend to frustrate their partners with their boisterous and loud behaviour.

While initially you may enjoy their willingness for impromptu plans or adventures, you will soon find it hard to keep them entertained and will feel exhausted and drained of all energy after meeting them.

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Over sexualised attention seeker

He/she will seem irresistible to you because of his/her physical appearance and way of speaking. You will feel as if you are lucky to be in a relationship with such a sexy person. However, you might end up being jealous and angry most of the time due to his/her flirtatious behaviour.

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Argumentative attention seeker

This kind loves to dominate others by using his/her debating skills. Partners of argumentative attention seekers generally feel annoyed and drained due to their aggressive ways.

When in a relationship, attention seekers dominate their partners, do not care about how their partners feel regarding their attention-seeking attitude and they want attention from not only their partners but others as well. So if you meet a girl and feel that she wants your attention but has a boyfriend, then do not be shocked because this is how attention seeking girls usually behave. Better keep your distance from such a girl, because attention-seeking is deeply ingrained in the minds of such people.

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1 comment

Vishnu May 9, 2019 - 5:00 pm

dont upset…..its a true fact. ur sife have no interest in u. because if she respect you she will never make any tiny things to hurt you….im working in a company and thers is a married women who work with me….serously her husbend treat her like a queen,he call her every hour,he brings her what she wants and it will be expensive things…but she ingnore him like a stranger,.she wont talk with him more than 2 minites,but she act like she loving him….and the other side she care about a person who working in my company..she remember his all personal informations like birth day,etc….she care him like he is her man…she calls him everytime for no reason….i saw it this sitiuvation every day bro…..so let me say this…ur wife have no intrest in you it means she didnt like you….also she loose her intrest in you…she think that you never will be her taste….so all you have to do is just try to know her emotions and make her satisfy….all the best

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