We were lying together on a mattress. She was moving her hands through my hair and my hands were inside her t-shirt. I was feeling her body while we were aggressively making out. Slowly we moved to biting our ears and I slipped in my hand inside her panties. She was wet. And then she stood up and asked me to stop. We were taking things very fast, she said. After that we kissed some more but didn’t make love. I dropped her off on the main road and waved her goodbye when she sat in the autorickshaw. That’s what I did when she said no.
No amount of foreplay will make her have sex with you if she’s already made up her mind not to sleep with you.
She might be on her menses. The last time she had a one-night stand she felt miserable. She only makes love when she’s in a relationship. Maybe she doesn’t trust you enough to open her legs. It’s not important why she refuses, but the fact that she says no is to be accepted and respected.
Related reading: No means NO! Why men can’t take ‘NO’ in bed
If a woman has made up her mind to sleep with you, she will let you know. Either by actions or by words, she will let you now. Just because the two of you are watching a movie in a dark room with locked doors it doesn’t mean that she wants it. Assuming what a woman wants is subtly trying to control her. That isn’t what caring men do. If she really wants it, it will happen. Then you won’t have to think about knowing what she wants.
The time I’ve spent with women has made me understand that what they want in a man is a caring nature. The way I show care is by giving space to a woman and trusting her decisions for herself and the relationship that we have.