Affair and Cheating

Dear wife of my lover, this is why I don’t feel guilty for breaking up your house

Why should society and the wronged wife always blame 'the other woman'? Surely relationships are much more fluid now
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Note: This letter has been written after keen observation of real people associated with the author.

Dearest Concerned Society and Dear Wife of My Darling Lover,

Hi!

I am the one – yes – that whore/slut/bitch – whatever you may call me. No, no – do not hesitate. It is absolutely fine by me. I am accustomed to being called names. When I was born, I was called a ‘burden’ because I was not a son. (Well, hello! The chromosomes did not listen to me so I am sorry!). When I was growing up and was not as fair complexioned as my other cousins, I was called ‘a bigger burden’ (kaun karega is kaali se shaadi!). Later, I decided to study Arts, out of choice – and I was suddenly not ‘bright enough’. So, I live in a society so naïve, living in its own world of clichés, that does not have the comprehension to understand/accept such basic things! Trust me, I do not expect that society will accept something as twisted as a love affair.

Can infidelity be justified?

He’s old enough

Now, coming down to you – dear wife of my beloved lover! If you think that you are so perfect and so is your marriage, well what is your husband doing with me in the first place?

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 I respect the institution of marriage very much but I respect love more!

I understand that having an affair with a married man is not ‘ethically or morally right’, but is this right that the entire society, including you – blame only me? You accuse me of trapping and misguiding your husband. What is he, two years old?

A. He is older than me (by several years).
B. He is married, mature and with you from the past so many years.

If despite all this, he was drawn towards me and I did not resist, how come when it comes down to the verdict of the greatly ethical society or you – it is only me who is wrong? Doesn’t a relationship involve two people? And, by the way, you would be surprised to find out that it was your husband who initiated this. I was attracted to him for sure, but had resisted as much as I could.

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He told me stories that he was forced into this marriage with you and that you two did not have a very amazing bond (which you keep claiming!). He even lied to me. I had no clue that yours was a love marriage. This fact does not bother me much now; it did when I found out. However, what I intend to say is, stop holding me up in front of all as the solo villain. Your dear husband is no victim. He is as much in love with me and as much responsible for this complicated state of situations.

It’s natural

I love him and I love him like crazy and not because I am great. It is because he loves me back! So, if you cannot take a stand for yourself and your marriage, walk out of it or do whatever. Understand why it is not working out and work on it! I anyway do not understand the massive hue and cry on relationships in this country. Isn’t it an organic thing – sometimes marriages work, sometimes they don’t? Why can’t we accept these things naturally and let go of the propaganda behind all this?

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‘society finds a way to curse women about this’ Image Source

What is sadder is that this society finds ways of cursing women in all situations alike. Nobody would want to discuss why and what happened. They get only one thing – character assassination of the whore who stole some bechari biwi’s innocent patidev! It is disgusting!

As a society, we really need to let others be and concentrate on our lives. Loyalty is great, love is greater and life is short. Let us live and let others live. When a celebrity walks out of a decades old marriage to marry someone way younger or older – we accept that quite easily.

Names like Branjelina and Saifeena are given by millions of fans of these star couples. Why does it become so difficult when similar things happen with people we know a little better?

Not giving a damn!

Yours sincerely,
Somebody’s Mistress

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16 Comments

  1. It’s fine that you are into a relationship with a married man.. but presenting yourself in this way is not ok … Defending yourself is your prerogative .. but accusing her is not ok . Life is all about experiences owing to our own decisions. Some reactions are obvious .. as are hers and tomorrow if he returns to her realising some older moments then you would be more hurt. …

  2. It’s not just the other woman’s fault at all the guy is equally blamed, plus mostly it depends on the husband and wife’s relationship, if somehow it’s loosen up then there are chances husband’s look out for a new catch. Now a days it seems to be in trend but I personally hate it.
    Well to the other woman I just can say it’s a wrong move knowing a guy is married and still to continue getting closer to him, that totally will end up upsetting each one of you , better stay away and live with dignity,if today you will be doing it with someone surely tomorrow it will happen with you, it hurts badly so walk out of such relationship gracefully.

    1. Hats off to you Ma’am for realising the actual problem in this case. I am amazed how easy and natural extra marital affair has become nowadays. More I read these cases, luckier I feel to be single. If relationships now are so volatile, I am way better and happy being single.

  3. To whomsoever it may concern,ie; the bloody hell who wrote and posted this ,marriage is not just love or love making only ,yes it is an institution where most of the kids like you and me were nurtured and which enabled you to come up with shit like this ,you don’t feel guilty because you were not taught values my dear ,no woman accepts adultery in her relationship ,and wives can’t just walk out like whores after everything is done BCOZ THEY ARE NOT JUST BODIES AND MINDS but mother of your lover’s kids ,daughters,daughter in laws,sisters ,sister in laws .Wives just don’t blame you ,men are equally wrong but don’t justify and chastice the shit you do in the name of love ,acquire knowledge understand what love is –
    A FAITHFUL PROUD WOMAN

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