Note: This letter has been written after a keen observation of real people associated with the author.
Dearest Concerned Society and Dear Wife of My Darling Lover,
I am the one – yes – that whore/slut/bitch – whatever you may call me. No, no – do not hesitate. It is absolutely fine by me. I am accustomed to being called names. When I was born, I was called a ‘burden’ because I was not a son. (Well, hello! The chromosomes did not listen to me so I am sorry!). When I was growing up and was not as fair complexioned as my other cousins, I was called ‘a bigger burden’ (kaun karega is kaali se shaadi!). Later, I decided to study Arts, out of choice – and I was suddenly not ‘bright enough’. So, I live in a society so naïve, living in its own world of clichés, that does not have the comprehension to understand/accept such basic things! Trust me, I do not expect that society will accept something as twisted as a love affair.
Can infidelity be justified?
He’s old enough
Now, coming down to you – dear wife of my beloved lover! If you think that you are so perfect and so is your marriage, well what is your husband doing with me in the first place?
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I respect the institution of marriage very much but I respect love more!
I understand that having an affair with a married man is not ‘ethically or morally right’, but is this right that the entire society, including you – blame only me? You accuse me of trapping and misguiding your husband. What is he, two years old?
A. He is older than me (by several years).
B. He is married, mature and with you from the past so many years.
If despite all this, he was drawn towards me and I did not resist, how come when it comes down to the verdict of the great ethical society or you – it is only me who is wrong? Doesn’t a relationship involve two people? And, by the way, you would be surprised to find out that it was your husband who initiated this. I was attracted to him for sure but had resisted as much as I could.
He told me stories that he was forced into this marriage with you and that you two did not have a very amazing bond (which you keep claiming!). He even lied to me. I had no clue that yours was a love marriage. This fact does not bother me much now; it did when I found out. However, what I intend to say is, stop holding me up in front of all as the sole villain. Your dear husband is no victim. He is as much in love with me and as much responsible for this complicated state of situations.
I love him and I love him like crazy and not because I am great. It is because he loves me back! So, if you cannot take a stand for yourself and your marriage, walk out of it or do whatever. Understand why it is not working out and work on it! I anyway do not understand the massive hue and cry on relationships in this country. Isn’t it an organic thing – sometimes marriages work, sometimes they don’t? Why can’t we accept these things naturally and let go of the propaganda behind all this?
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What is sadder is that this society finds ways of cursing women in all situations alike. Nobody would want to discuss why and what happened. They get only one thing – character assassination of the whore who stole some bechari biwi’s innocent patidev! It is disgusting!
As a society, we really need to let others be and concentrate on our lives. Loyalty is great, love is greater and life is short. Let us live and let others live. When a celebrity walks out of a decades-old marriage to marry someone way younger or older – we accept that quite easily.
Names like Brangelina and Saifeena are given by millions of fans of these star couples. Why does it become so difficult when similar things happen with people we know a little better?
Not giving a damn!