15 Signs Your Ex Is Waiting For You To Come Back

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We get it. Your relationship status is “complicated” and your love life is a mess at this point. You are waiting for someone to come back but you aren’t sure if they want to re-enter your life. It’s been a while since your breakup. You are confused about the signs your ex is waiting for you or not. You don’t know what to do. Move on or wait. But before that, you need to ask yourself if you want them back in your life and vice versa. If your ex wants you back, they will do everything to let you know that. 

A breakup is complicated and painful enough to make you wish you got back together with them, but dealing with mixed signals is plain frustrating. Constantly thinking about them and wondering if they are missing you and waiting for you to come back can be excruciatingly painful. If you’re tired of being stuck in a limbo over whether to move on or wait, these classic signs that your ex still loves you will help give you some clarity. 

15 Clear Signs Your Ex Is Waiting For You

You are sitting in your living room, heartbroken and dealing with loneliness after a breakup. You are desperately wishing you could be with your ex. But you don’t know if they are waiting for you to get back together with them. You aren’t even sure if they want you back in the first place. Read the below signs to see signs your ex is waiting for you.

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1. Getting back in touch with you

If they text you after a gap of complete silence from their side, they are not just texting to check if you are doing okay after the breakup. They are missing you. It’s a clear sign your ex is waiting for you to change your decision about the breakup. 

If you are strong enough to get over them and don’t feel the same way as you did before, then you don’t have to wait for them to come back. You can let go of the past and start being happy. But if you truly feel they still love you and you still love them, then giving the relationship one more chance will give you more time to be sure about them.

2. When they want to hang out with you

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This is a definite sign that your ex is still not over you. Why would they want to hang out with you if they’ve moved on? Imagine you receive a text from your ex. It says they want to hang out with you, but you are confused if it’s one of the main signs your ex still wants to be with you. Before you agree to meet them, have some real clarity with yourself. Are you emotionally ready to see them again? If not, listen below are some replies to send them if you don’t wish to see them:

  • “Hey there. Good to hear from you. I don’t think it’s a good idea for us to meet. I am still processing whatever went done and I am not ready to meet you yet”
  • “Hello. I’ve moved on and I would appreciate if you would stop texting me”
  • “I am glad you’re doing well. But this isn’t the right time to meet. I am going through some personal things and I would like some space at the moment”

3. They ask if you guys can be friends again

“Just friends” with an ex? Well, that’s a complicated scenario because it’s been two months since the breakup. Then one day, randomly out of nowhere they express their desire to be friends with you. I always believe ex-lovers can’t be friends.

During the post-breakup friendship period, you either get back together with them or everything is ruined to pieces if you are not careful about the boundaries for being friends with an ex. This is one of the classic signs that your ex is not over you yet. That’s why they are secretly wanting to come back to your life. That’s why they 

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4. They give you a full update on their life

This is one of the classic signs your old partner wants to become your new partner. Let’s say you agree to meet them for a coffee. The conversation starts formally at first then swiftly flows in the other direction. They start talking about the changes in their life, both personal and professional. They share every minute detail of the goings on in their life. 

Maybe they got promoted at work or they got sick after the two of you broke up or got a new pet to keep their mind away from overthinking. But why should they tell you anything about their life, no matter how trivial or significant? Perhaps because they want to revive that lost connection. This is one of the signs your ex wants to be with you.

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5. Reminiscing the old times

There is a big difference between them still having feelings for you and waiting for you to come back. If your ex is digging up old memories where you both were madly in love with each other, it is a sure sign they want you back.

Here are some phrases they will say when your ex wants to come back:

  • “Remember the time we went to Hawaii? You got drunk on the first night and started dancing at the beach. I miss those days”
  • “Remember how we used to go on a long drive after work and get ice cream? Do you recall the name of that ice cream parlor?”
  • “Can you believe we were together for 4 years? Those 4 years were the happiest years of my life”

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6. Working on improving themselves

Are you noticing changes in your ex? Like when you two were together, they would make you wait and show up late for a dinner date. But now they are working on bettering themselves. They are suddenly trying to flatter you by being punctual.

There’s a good chance they want to fix the broken relationship with you. They will show you they can become a better person. It could be any kind of change. Physical appearance or any annoying habit, but when they work on changing the things you didn’t like about them, it is clear your ex still has feelings for you.

7. They accept their mistake that led to the breakup

The blame game. We have all played it time and time again. “You did this. You are the reason why we fell apart. You are the cause of all the pain” and whatnot. On the flip side, when suddenly the “you” becomes “I” and they take responsibility for their actions and the breakup itself, it is one of the most obvious signs your ex wants to change the relationship status again. 

They will go over details that led to you two breaking up. It is the best thing that can happen to you if you are also waiting to get back together with them. They will come up with solutions and ways which could have prevented it. They are talking about the things that went wrong, it means they are empathizing and figuring out what they could have done to save the relationship.  

8. They flirt with you

The primary intention behind flirting with someone is to impress and attract that person. They will show you how badly they want to be noticed by you. It starts with looking in the eye, then it graduates to flirting. When they start flirting with you on a regular basis, then it’s safe to say that they are becoming interested in you again.

It’s getting steamy and you finally let them pave their way to seduction. Why would an ex flirt with you when things ended long ago? It’s because they needed time and wanted to figure things out. Now that they know it’s you they want, they will try to reveal their true feelings by flirting with you. Here are some signs your ex’s attention is on you again and that they are trying to flirt with you:

  • They make frequent eye contact with you 
  • They mirror your body language 
  • They lean and angle their body toward you 
  • They touch you in a non-sexually way 
  • They will laugh at all your jokes

9. They become more docile and compliant

They used to argue on a daily basis when the two of you were together. Now, they’ve stopped with their little arguments over minor issues and tend to agree more with you and accept everything you say. They’ve gained real clarity of the entire situation and offer their unique insight about what went wrong.

They are more docile while explaining these things instead of fuming in anger. This is one of the confusing signs your ex is testing you and wants to see if you will take them back. But you don’t know why they are being so agreeable all of a sudden and whether this behavior will continue should you give them a second chance.  

10. They bump into you frequently

After four years of being together, your ex obviously knows which place you love to dine at and which pizzeria they would find you stuffing your mouth with cheese. So, they frequently visit these places at times when you are most likely to be hanging out there and then act surprised upon seeing you as if the run-in was purely accidental.

If their own life was happening and they didn’t want you back, they would avoid going to the places they would find you no matter what. If you are bumping into them quite often, then it’s definitely not a coincidence. It is a definite sign that your ex wants to be more than just friends.

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11. They confess they miss you

This is one of the biggest signs your ex is waiting for you. They start sending you miss you messages. Words have power, and then admitting they miss you is no less than them wanting you back in their life. Is your ex talking about how they miss watching TV series with you or going to the mall with you? They will even let your mutual friends or your ex’s friends know that they aren’t doing well without you. 

They could also be saying this because they feel bad about the breakup. If they drunk dial you and confess they miss you, then they don’t have the guts to be honest with you in a sober state. Now that is sort of a red flag that is best not ignored because you are too caught up in this spate of emotions. 

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12. They let you know they are single

They tell you they are single and breaking up with you was the worst thing they ever did. Here are some other things they will do to let you know that they want to fix things:

  • Their social media posts will be gloomy
  • They unblock you from everywhere but you don’t know why they unblocked you
  • They post sad songs, love quotes and let your mutual friends know they are missing you
  • Your ex’s friends approach you and tell you they are miserable without you
  • Your ex is still struggling to accept the breakup
  • Their drunk texts are becoming more frequent 

Nobody goes through a happy breakup, but if it has been a while and they still find a way to let you in on their life details directly or indirectly, they aren’t over you yet. They still think about you and cannot cope with your absence.  

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13. Pretending they need help with something

When your ex has run out of reasons to talk to you, they ask for your help with something. Be it your opinion on something work-related or any suggestion regarding their personal life. It is one of the excuses to talk to you and be close to you. Once you see these patterns in your ex’s behavior, take some time to introspect about how you feel about getting back together. If you don’t think reconciling is the right thing for you, then let them know you feel uncomfortable and want some space

14. They want to introduce you to their new partner

This is a very wicked move but also a subtle sign they are trying to make you jealous. It is not required for you to meet their current partner but they insist you guys catch up. And they get touchy-feely with their partner in front of you. They are trying silly attempts to make you jealous. They tell you all about their relationship status and how they met their new companion in detail. All these are classic signs your ex is trying to make you feel jealous. 

15. They come to your rescue every chance they get

This is one of the main signs you can be sure that your ex is testing you and your love. They come to your rescue every chance they get and try to be the hero of the scene. You text them about a problem you are having. They immediately offer to help and come up with ways to solve it.

It’s not just one help. It’s about how many times they offer to help you. If they are willing to be your knight in shining armor every time you are stuck in a situation, they definitely want you back in their life. If you don’t want their help, then there are clever ways to turn down an ex that you can use and get away from them.

Do You Want Your Ex Back?

Before you decide to give your ex another chance, ponder upon the things that transpired between you two leading to the breakup. Ask yourself these questions:

  • Have you rectified the mistakes that caused the breakup?
  • Have they apologized for their part?
  • Have the two of you improved your communication skills?
  • Is this the right thing to do when they caused you so much hurt and pain?
  • Have they promised to compromise and put in equal effort?
  • Do you still love them? 

If they show signs they still truly love you and are desperate to get back with you, maybe giving them a second chance isn’t such a bad idea. It’s only natural to wonder if your ex will eventually come back or not. When they come back, say yes to giving the relationship another chance only if you are sure about them. Make sure you take your time out to reflect on whether or not their presence again in your life will lead to a happy future together.  

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How To Know If Your Ex Still Misses You 

Irrespective of how ugly the breakup was, you end up missing your ex because the two of you shared happy memories together. You loved them once and they loved you back. Listed below are some signs that will let you know your ex’s true feelings and whether they miss you or not: 

  • They haven’t taken down your pictures from their social media yet 
  • They talk to your mutual friends and try to find out about your love life
  • They haven’t returned your belongings yet 
  • They haven’t dated anyone yet
  • Their drunk texts are always about relationship issues and how you can fix them as a couple
  • They cry to you and tell it to your face that they miss you 

How Long Should You Wait For Your Ex To Come Back

Nobody moves on from a breakup overnight. We all take our time and heal from it first. Then, we decide whether or not we want them back. So, how long should you wait for them? Here are your answers:

  • You can wait for them for the first 2 months just to see if they miss you and try to find out if you are doing well
  • You can wait for them but don’t make this the center of your universe 
  • You will have to move on if you have started obsessing over them 
  • If you see them with someone else, then you have no other choice but to stop waiting for them 

Key Pointers

  • When your ex says they want to be friends with you, it’s one of the signs they still have feelings for you
  • They want you to come back when they accept their faults and take responsibility for the breakup
  • Don’t put your life on hold and wait for them to come back. Move on if things are getting overwhelming and you feel like you are stuck

If both of you have had an on/off relationship, then you know it in your bones that they will eventually return. If you don’t wish to get back together, then let them know so instead of leading them on. If you want them back, then meet them up and sort things out. Have a fresh start and grow together in the relationship. 


1. Is it worth waiting for your ex to come back?

It depends on how the relationship ended. If it was an ugly breakup where they cheated on you or tried to harm your sanity, then waiting for them should never be an option. They are not worthy of your love. If that’s not the case and you think they are your once-in-a-lifetime kind of love, then it is worth waiting for your ex to come back. 

2. How long should I wait to get back with my ex?

Take your time to reflect on what happened. Take a decision only when you are absolutely ready to give your relationship another chance. Unhealed wounds and unresolved problems will only give rise to more hurt and more problems.

3. Should you contact your ex?

I believe drunk dialing should never be an option, because it makes the other person feel like shit. Why can’t someone you loved for so many years call you when they aren’t intoxicated? Why does one need alcohol in their blood to make them miss you? If you are sure about wanting them back, then contacting your ex with a conscious mind might turn out to be a good thing. 

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