Men are often very confused and constantly grappling with the ideas and theories around what women want during sex. However, it does not have to be that complicated. Women are just as unique as anybody else and their sexual needs also vary from person to person.
If as a man, you are trying to figure out what she wants from you sexually, a little communication can go a long way. Read the room well, understand her body and how it moves and simply, ask! While it is not that difficult to know what she expects in bed, we give you a little cheat sheet anyway.
7 Things Women Want Men Knew About What They Love During Sex
In most relationships the main cause of friction is sex. While it may be the be all and end all in the early days, soon little fissures start showing causing minor rifts and mini sulk sessions. Good sex is about understand what both people involved really want from that experience.
While male sexuality is an established fact and a birthright in our societies, females are supposed to have none or minimal sexuality. This is in fact a gross negligence, which makes marital rape and abuse a matter to be shoved under the carpet.
Women wish their mates could be more understanding, receptive and attentive to a woman’s needs.In such a case, men are left wonder what they could have done wrong. Here are some tips to remember when and what can really make your woman’s sexuality sing. Here is a list of what women wish men knew about them sexually!
1. Women need a bit of a headstart to engage in the mood
I just made love to my wife, but she barely has been talking to me since then – what did I do wrong cried my 45-year-old boss!
Youth is a crazy thing, and we do enjoy the corner quickies and tabletop sex. As we grow older and have kids, dinners and absconding maids that occupy our mind space, we need to be given fair warning that you are in the frisky mood. Yes there is a lot that women want during sex but a warning before sex will be appreciated too.
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It could be as innocuous as a longing look, a note of sweet nothing stuck to the fridge door, or a bunch of roses just like that! Men have to start thinking beyond their own needs and start thinking about things women love during sex.
2. Women like to dress up
Women are acutely aware of their body image and self esteem, so if they think they are smelling of garlic from their cooking for dinner or feel gauche in their clothes it is bound to make them reticent. What women want during sex is to feel like they are wanted and feel a little badass about it.
We love the trips to the salon, the waxing in the right erogenous zones, a new purchase, a movie night and a long drive in a new dress. Most men love their women with nothing at all, but it’s important to understand that our sexuality is linked to how good we feel in our clothes and accessories. Women also love being prepared for sex and dressing up for the same. New lingerie makes them just as happy as it makes you.
3. Male chauvinists are a big turn off
Women’s MCP upbringing has been the cause of many unhappy relationships. Men need to be schooled in the refined behavioral standards towards women. Men don’t realize that they are being bullies and therefore must cultivate awareness.
Whether it’s the lover or the hubby, if you are being a chauvinist you might as well strangle our sensitive sexuality. Note the clitoris is a tiny little bud, when compared to the hunk of your penis! So if you have been inconsiderate or downright nasty she won’t respond to your sexual overtures. Our sexuality is not a switch that can be turned on, whenever it pleases you.
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4. Porn is good, so is talking dirty
Getting excited visually is not a male domain anymore. Women are just as liable to enjoy the occasional sexual stimulation that porn offers, so also with loose sexually coloured talk that men reserve for the boys and stag get-togethers.
Porn and watching porn is a delicate subject for most women, and yet it can add the much-needed spice to a boring night. Choose the subject carefully, as there are many tasteful and aesthetically appealing movies that can spur our sexual impetus.
I knew a couple that would spend the whole weekend exchanging dirty talk and ending in bed in a heap of giggles. A glass of wine always helps. A sexual woman is a blend of the goddess and the whore.
5. We appreciate other women just as much as you do
What women wish men knew is that women are just as keenly aware of beauty in other women. Psychologists claim that it is because both the male and female infant is first and foremost ‘in love’ with its mother.
My husband used to appreciate the fact that I loved to point out the good ones especially while in the traffic. I’d say, “Look at that rear,” and he would smile. Women are the better sex to ogle at, and our appreciation just adds to the feeling of confidence in ourselves and in our partners. It enhances our sexuality to see things of beauty.
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6. Gentle is good – so is the rough ones
Men must be able to sense what kind of energy and passion can make sex more gratifying. It’s like tuning a musical instrument. You don’t need to be a clairvoyant, just ask!
Most romantic women prefer the gentle hands of a powerful man. Rough sexuality could also be a source of intense pleasure and women savour the afterglow while rewinding a subtle or passionate encounter.
7. Talk is really great
Women love to talk, they also love to listen, which is probably why we indulge in so much gossip. When your significant other talks to his lover, a woman is more often on cloud 9, so get your act together and hone your pillow talk. What women want during sex is lots and lots of pillow talk.
Not enough can be said about conversation. All women love chatting. You can turn on a woman’s sexuality in the most reticent ones with good wholesome conversation. Not small talk, mind you! You need to have done your research and figure out what interests your woman, – from fairy tales to magical realism, economics to astronomy, politics to Kamasutra. I’ve found even talking about food piques a good woman’s interest not to mention what cooking a good meal can do! It’s all about caring, nurturing, and even reading to her at bedtime – works all the time.