Wooing is an art and not all men are artists. The age old battle of the sexes rages on because not many men know how to talk to women and charm them. Even at a time when seeking a date is as easy as swiping right, men falter and how!
Perhaps that’s why they say men are from Mars and women from Pluto…oops, Venus! (Well, given the communication gap that often arises between the two sexes, they may as well be from planets at two ends of the spectrum!).
Long story short, there are very few men who know exactly how to talk to women and impress them, what not to say that will annoy them and how to make them fall for them with just the right words and deeds.
Some elements are certain in the way the love game is played: It’s not cheesy lines, borrowed quotes, wrong gifts or put-on humor that will win a woman. If you want to learn how to talk to women and leave them lusting after you, you need to develop some other qualities. Read on…
How To Talk To Women And Impress Them
It may sound like a surprise but in the tough, competitive world of romance, knowing how to talk to women is more important than being well-dressed or flashing your impressive credit card and career details.
Of course, wealth, class and well-groomed appearances are definitely great assets to possess but everything comes to naught if she does not enjoy your company. So guys, words are all you have, at least in the first phase, when you have to talk to a beautiful woman! So load up on some conversation starters and learn some tips before you make your next move:
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1. Know what to convey to her
When you get a chance to talk to a woman you have just met, you need to know how to steer the conversation in a way that catches her interest. After all, you can hope for things to progress only if she wants to continue!
It is all about having a normal conversation while squeezing in hot topics, stories, subjects that are creating a buzz. Your demeanor should be that of someone who knows how to interact with a woman and not some nervous college kid.
2. Conversation starters are important
If you know how to start a conversation with a woman, it’s half the battle won. The first five or 10 minutes are important. Do not, we repeat, do not make it all about yourself.
If she is a stranger to you, naturally you will begin by asking about her and picking on points from her introduction to take it forward. Show genuine interest in what she has to say and gently prompt her to chat more.
3. Stop trying too hard
To master the art of how to talk to women, the key rule can be described in two words: Stop Trying. The books and self-help articles may say women like men with swag, polish, sense of humor or some such.
But these things have to come from within. Don’t try too hard to impress, you can show her how wonderful you are without shoving your qualities in her face.
4. Listen, just listen well
This sounds easy but most men falter when it comes to listening. When you want to talk to women to love you, remember NOT talk about yourself too much. Pay attention to what she says.
Ask questions. If she is in a field you have no clue about, tell her honestly, ‘I don’t know anything about data science, what is exactly your profile’. When she talks, do not interject. Just listen.
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5. Avoid subjects you disagree on
So the first hurdle has been crossed and she said yes to coffee. Great! Now that the conversation will become more intimate, be careful what you talk to women.
Unless you establish a connection, do not jump into controversial subjects like politics or religion or anything that she may feel strongly about. Whether is asking the right first date questions or making polite small talk, the key is to keep it light and easy until you know each other well.
6. Do not talk dirty
Remember this as a golden rule. Memorize it and read it before you begin a conversation. Never ever crack sex jokes or bawdy one-liners thinking they make you look cool. They don’t.
Locker room talk is best left to be indulged in with your male buddies (though women find even that disgusting). Don’t drop the ‘f’ bomb too often in the chat, it’s a put-off. And we aren’t being old-fashioned here.
7. Know when to back off
Knowing how to talk to women is also about knowing when to stop chatting. This is where you have to develop some sensitivity to gestures and body language.
Getting to know her does not mean you ask too many personal questions. If she is uncomfortable speaking about something, back off. Do not probe and do not violate her personal space.
8. Send interesting text messages
How to talk to women in text requires a different skill set. Avoid texting her until you have something interesting to share. And if you don’t have a talking point, try forwarding something truly funny or chat-worthy that can evoke a response.
Texting can be very addictive. But do not blow it by sending silly good morning messages. Always stop the chat at the right time to avoid the risk of boring her into bolting. This will also leave something to carry forward the conversation the next day.
9. Be polite and well-mannered
Etiquettes never go out of fashion. Saying thank you, excuse me, you’re welcome etc shows you as a well brought up, polished guy – a quality most girls appreciate.
It also shows that you know how to be considerate about others’ needs. Also, in a world where being brash and irreverent is in vogue, a bit of old-fashion charm always works well when you talk to women.
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10. Keep the mystery on
This is an age-old trick but always works. Even if you are a flirtatious man, when you talk to women, do not reveal all your cards at once. Keep some mystery on and let her guess things about you.
As mentioned in point 4, listen more and talk less. This will incite her curiosity about you and your life. Then you can open up, bit by bit. This will also keep her interest in you alive.
11. Be yourself
Often when they have to talk to women, men believe they have to come across as confident, charming, smart etc. In the process they try to be too nice, too police, too cocky or too reserved, coming across as fake.
Do not see attractive women as potential girlfriends. Try and consciously talk to women the way you would with a stranger or your male friends. Don’t try to do things ‘differently’ just because you feel the pressure to impress. That’s when you do not impress.
The bottom-line in learning how to talk to women is to be your authentic natural self. You cannot change your innate personality but never ever try and become someone else. Instead focus on your strengths and let that shine. Someone, someday will get impressed by what you are all about.