Saying “I love you” to someone and not hearing it back can be a huge blow to anyone. When we are in such a situation, the first thing that comes into mind is the situation Carrie and Big’s situation in the series Sex and the City. It is one of the most heart-breaking circumstances you can go through. But, fret not, it is not the end of the world; well, at least not yet. Here are 8 ways to deal with saying “I love you” and not hearing it back :
8 Ways To Deal With Saying ‘I Love You’ And Not Hearing It Back
First of all, you’re human. You are allowed to have emotions and express them. It is completely normal to feel shattered when you tell someone you love them and all you get is a look of confused emotions.
1. Sink back into your normal schedule
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2. Be honest with yourself
The truth is that you love this person. This is a fact that is not going to change, at least not so soon. Learn to accept the fact that you loved this person and could have been a great partner to them. You could have given them all the happiness in the world. But the truth is that they don’t feel the same way about you. You need to accept this fact and move on. Don’t suppress your feelings. Instead, embrace them. This is the only way you can get over this person and move on with your life.
3. Don’t chase after him/her
They have already told you they don’t feel the same way. So, although it may seem tempting, there is no use going after this person and expecting them to change their mind. If there were any such feelings, you would have got your answer then itself. Going after that person will only drive them further away from you and ruin the friendship/bond that you two shared before. Don’t get blinded by your emotions and lose an important person in your life. Stalking even comes in the category of a criminal offence.
4. Stop obsessing over it
Accept the fact that it is over and there’s nothing between the two of you other than friendship. This is better than obsessing over the possibilities of having an alternate ending.
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5. Acknowledge that they are still a big part of your life
6. Ask yourself why hearing it back was so important
Maybe you thought that the person feels the same and you couldn’t wait to get it out of your system. Or maybe you wanted a reality check or a confirmation from that person. There can be many reasons why you said, “I love you”. You could have wanted to hear it back to get validation. Take some time to introspect and identify the reasons why you wanted to hear it back. If you already knew that they don’t feel the same way and just wanted a confirmation, this is it. But ask yourself, will your life stop because of not hearing it back? Know your self-worth. You know that you can do better than this.
7. Think about the other person’s situation
8. Indulge in self-love
In situations like these, you need to know your self-worth. Don’t lose your self-respect over someone. Indulge in self-love. Don’t be alone. Hang out with your best friends and enjoy every bit of your life. Go on that solo trip you always wanted to take. Your life doesn’t stop here. There are so many more people to meet and who knows which one turns out to be your perfect match. You can’t expect someone else to love you if you don’t love yourself.
Love yourself and the world will love you.