You like her, got her number, and texted her. Everything is going great, until you realise that you’ve run out of topics to talk about! You want to keep her engaged, but you feel like there is nothing left. What questions should you ask a girl to get to know her better and get a fair idea on how far can this go? Don’t worry, you can never run out of topics to talk about. Read this article to know more.
How hard is it to know a girl?
We all know that girls are not open books. They take time to bond with a guy and will not give out information all that easily. It is therefore important for you to first talk to her little by little over texts and get to know her. Once she adds you in her comfort zone, she will slowly start opening up to you. Do you think you know her enough? You can never be too sure about that when it comes to a girl.
There are several layers to a girl’s thoughts and secrets and you can never know all about her. Here are 22 questions that will help you in knowing stuff about the girl you like in a more fun and creative way that will help you both bond like you both have never before.
22 interesting questions to ask a girl to know her better
These 22 questions come to your rescue when you have nothing to talk about with your crush over text. Alert! These are not those typical get-to-know questions that all boys ask their girl. These are deep questions so that you can get to know a girl as much as possible by asking things others wouldn’t even think about asking.
Here are 22 questions with a brief description so that you get to know how they will help you in understanding your girl. Remember not to just stick to the questions. Ask her follow-up questions to keep her in the flow. It will show her how interested you are in knowing about her.
1. If you were stuck in the lift and had to listen to a song on repeat, which one would it be?
Now you might have asked her about her favourite song, but it may or may not be her go-to song. There is always one particular song that is your go-to and you might not easily share it with anyone. This question will trick her into mentioning her go-to song. Once she tells you, ask her more about the song, she will go deeper into telling you why the song is so close to her heart.
2. What are the most irritating one-liners that guys have said to you?
Now this is actually for you. It will give you a clear idea about what kind of guys the girl likes and what kind of guys make her cringe. The worst pick up lines used on her can actually give an idea of how she needs to be addressed. You will get a hint of the shoulds and shouldn’ts you need to follow when she is around. Also, girls love it when they can make fun of other guys in front of a guy friend, so that is a plus for you.
3. I weirdly love the smell of petrol. Is there any such smell you like?
Now this is a question you won’t normally ask a person. By giving your own example, you are putting her in a comfort zone so that she too can talk about her weird habits or the weird smells that she likes. Just hope that the smell of fart isn’t one of those smells she likes.
4. What’s in your pocket right now?
It could be simply nothing or a photograph or a hairpin that represents some fond memory of hers. Sometimes you think that you have nothing in your pockets and find an old note that gives you joy. You could be the one to give her a feeling like this. Who knows? Keep your fingers crossed.
5. What is your recent weird obsession?
Such a question will make her think a bit. She will be a bit surprised with the kind of questions you ask her over text, but will kind of like them, because they are questions no one might have asked her before, not even her best friend.
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6. Were there any instances where you were misunderstood?
This is one of those deep questions to ask a girl. There are always memories that come with emotional baggage. Be prepared to give her suggestions and console her, because she might need it. This could be the first step towards opening up to you, emotionally.
7. If you had to invent your own move, what would it be?
This will be a time to get all creative. She would use her imaginative skills and talk about some funny or weird move and you both will be able to laugh it off over text. You both could mimic that move when you next meet.
8. Which are the places you like to go to when you want to be alone?
She might be the kind of girl who likes to go to a secluded place and drown her sorrows or someone who prefers to be with the crowd and act like nothing has happened. Isn’t this question a good way to get to know a girl by knowing what kind of a girl she is inside?
9. If you were in a time machine, which time in your life would you want to go back to?
It could be one of her fondest memory that she wants to relive or her most embarrassing memory that she want to change. Either way, it will be a memory that has had a great impact on her.
10. What is the most insane reason any of your friends have left you for?
Girls love bitching about their ex-friends. It is something that they can’t get over. She will tell you some weird or completely shocking story about her ex-friend and seeing all the drama. Get ready to be shocked.
11. What is the weirdest thing about your family?
No family is perfect. You always have weird traditions or relatives that will either creep you out or make you laugh your heart out. She will be more open in sharing these weird facts about her family and you will be able to see her level of excitement over texts.
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12. If you ever won a beauty pageant/best actress award, what would your speech be?
Almost every girl has imagined herself winning either of these awards. She will feel nostalgic and go back to the times when she had such fantasies. She could tell you about it or make up a funny speech mimicking her favourite actress.
13. What is the dumbest thing you’ve done in the past 24 hours?
Now she will think a bit, remember all the weird things she did and tell you about the one that embarrassed her the most. The idea is to get to know as much as you can and even things like this can surprise you.
14. Pineapple on pizza or not?
This is a typical question but not one of those typical questions to ask a girl you like. But who cares? Give it a shot and surprise yourself. She could have the same weird food habits as yours. Who knows!
15. Do you think we are happy from within? If not, then why?
Another deep question that is philosophical in nature. You both could talk about life in general and have some mature conversations. It’s one of those times when you two can go beyond just joking around and pulling each other’s leg.
16. What is one TV series that you discovered on your own?
“Netflix and chill” is the mantra of the 21st century. There could be some less popular TV series that she could have just discovered and really liked a lot. You too can go ahead and see how good it is.
17. If there were a zombie invasion, what would you do?
It’s time to be creative. Bring out your creative juices and prepare for a zombie attack over text. Use role playing and humour. A girl always likes a guy who makes her laugh.
18. What is the weirdest dream you have ever had?
It could be literally anything. My best friend once had an animated dream with candy popping tears. If you want to get to know a girl, see the kind of things that go on in her head.
19. What do you wish people stopped asking you?
Now, at every stage of our lives, there are these typical questions that everyone keeps asking you. The questions could be like: Why are you so thin? Why are you so fat? (never ask a girl that), What does your name mean, etc. There comes a point when you are sick and tired of being asked the same thing over and over again. Be sure that you don’t ask her one of those repetitive ones.
20. If you had to trade lives with someone for a day, who would it be?
At some point in our lives, we have always imagined ourselves living the life of another person for a day. You could get an interesting answer that would only take you closer to getting to know as much as you can about her.
21. What is the thing you are most passionate about?
If you haven’t asked her this question yet, then what are you waiting for? If you want to get to know about a girl, ask her about the things she is most passionate about. Get to know what drives her and gives her the chills. And FYI, hobbies and passion are not the same thing.
22. What is something that other people think to be weird but you don’t?
You tend to bond faster with someone by knowing their weird habits or not so typical things. You could be having some similar fetishes that other people find weird. Who knows, you both could like the same weird stuff. And if you do, she’s your girl.
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Always remember, the idea is to get to know the girl in a way that others don’t. That is how you will stand out in comparison to her close friends or other suitors. Don’t freak out thinking that she will start judging you if you ask her such questions out of nowhere. Girls like people who take a keen interest in them and surprise them by thinking out of the box. Be that guy and don’t forget to ask her follow-up questions so that you keep her in the flow. She will appreciate your interest in her and will remember you when she sees something weird or dumb around her again.