She caught your eye, you approached her, got her number, and texted her! Everything is going great until you realise that you’ve run out of topics to talk about! You want to keep her engaged, but don’t know what topics to broach. What questions should you ask a girl to get to know her better? Don’t worry, with the help of this article, you will have several conversation starters and enough fuel to keep the conversation going.
How hard is it to know a girl?
Not everyone is an open book. People, especially girls, like to stay on their guard until they know they can trust a person. They only open up once they know about the intentions of the other person. They take time to bond with a guy. It is therefore important for you to first establish trust by talking to her. Once she’s comfortable around you, she will slowly start opening up to you. When this happens, it gives you the opportunity to ask her deep questions over text to get to know her better. However, it is still wise to not assume that you know her completely.
There are several layers to a girl’s thoughts and she might not share all of them with you. Here are 22 questions that will help you get to know the girl of your dreams at a deeper level. These questions will also help you both bond; through serious conversation and lighter ones that might just make her smile in a way that lights up her eyes!
22 interesting questions to ask a girl to know her better
These 22 questions are sure to come to your rescue when you have nothing to talk about with your crush over text. Fair warning, these aren’t the typical questions boys are accustomed to asking girls to get to know them better.
Here are 22 questions that are out of the ordinary and will help you keep the conversation flowing smoothly. Make sure to ask her follow-up questions to keep her engaged!
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1. If you were stuck in a lift and had to listen to a song on repeat, which one would it be?
Now you might have asked her about her favourite song, but it may or may not be her go-to song. You can have many favourite songs but can you actually listen to them on repeat for hours? This question will make her reflect on that. Music can tell you a lot about a person and knowing about her music taste will definitely help you in getting to know her better.
2. What are the worst pick-up lines guys have used on you?
This will give you a clear idea about the kind of guys she likes and the kind of guys make her cringe. This will also add a touch of humour to the conversation. The worst pick up lines guys have used on her will help you get to know a girl better. They will give you an idea of how she needs to be addressed and the do’s and don’t’s you should follow. Also, girls love it when they can make fun of other guys in front of a guy friend, so that’s a plus for you.
3. I weirdly love the smell of petrol. Is there any unusual smell you like?
Now, this is an uncanny question that you wouldn’t normally ask a person! But by giving her your own example, you’re putting her in a comfort zone where she is free to talk about any weird habits she has. This may not seem like much but it’s actually a deep question. Only a girl who is completely comfortable around you will share her weird habits with you over text.
So, if she tells you, she knows she can be herself around you.
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4. What are three things that are always with you in your bag/wallet?
This is an interesting and deep question that will definitely help you in the long run. Her answer could be a hairpin, a lipstick, a photo of someone she cares about or a note she cherishes. These may seem like mundane objects but trust us, there is a more profound meaning behind them. These are a few of the essential things she cannot leave her house without! If you want to get to know a girl, this is a great place to start.
5. What is your recent weird obsession?
This is a random question to ask a girl but one that will make her think. She will be a bit surprised with the kind of questions you ask her over text, but will also kind of like them! These are questions no one would have asked her before and they might just intrigue her in a good way.
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6. Were there any instances where you were misunderstood?
This is one of the deep questions you can ask a girl over text. These memories come with emotional baggage so be prepared to hear her out, console her and give her suggestions if she’s looking for them. However, it is important to note that this is a question that you should ask her only if she has opened up to you to a certain level. Ensure that you have already been speaking to her for a considerable amount of time before asking her this. If this question is popped too early, it might be a deal-breaker.
7. If you had to invent your own dance move, what would it be?
This is a fun question that will get her all creative, especially if she’s into dancing. She will use her imagination to come up with either a funny or a really graceful move. Be sure you compliment both! You could try out the move with her the next time you meet. This could be a cute private moment that you both share.
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8. What places do you like to go to when you want to be alone?
You can really get to know a girl by the kind of place that gives her comfort. She could be the kind of girl who likes to go to a secluded place and drown her sorrows or someone who prefers to mingle with a crowd and forget about what’s bothering her. Knowing her preferences will certainly give you an insight into the kind of person she is.
9. If you had a time machine, what incident of your life would you like to revisit?
This is a genius way to have her tell you her fondest memory that she would like to relive or her most embarrassing moment that she would like to change! Either way, it will be a memory that has had a great impact on her. You will get to know a lot about her from this answer.
10. What is the most insane reason for one of your friends to pick a fight with you?
Nothing forges bonds like bitching sessions about ex-friends. Or even telling funny and crazy stories about your current ones. This question is bound to have you both texting for hours exchanging stories. Get ready to be shocked by some insane drama or laugh your pants off at a hilarious story.
11. What is the weirdest thing about your family?
No family is perfect. You always have weird traditions or relatives that will either creep you out or make you laugh your heart out. This is one of the best questions you can ask a girl over text. Her excitement while telling you about her childhood memories or stories about family gatherings, will be palpable. You will also know her family dynamics and that tells you a lot about a girl.
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12. If you ever won a beauty pageant/best actress award, what would your speech be?
Almost everyone imagines themselves winning one of these awards. This question will probably make her nostalgic about her childhood when she indulged in these fantasies. You will find some really hilarious answers to this question.
13. What is the dumbest thing you’ve done in the past 24 hours?
This is a lighthearted question and a great conversation starter! The idea is to get to know as much as you can and use the information you get to continue the conversation or to use as reference points in the future.
14. Pineapple on pizza or not?
This is honestly a question that takes of guts to ask because you have to live with the answer. If you think this is a deal-breaker or maker, go ahead and ask this question. If you both love or hate pineapple on pizza, it’s a match made in heaven. Needless to say, you can collectively hate on the other group of people and bond.
15. Do you think we are happy from within? If not, then why?
This is another one of those deep questions that you can ask a girl. This question is quite subjective and philosophical in nature. Her answer to this will let you know a lot about her perspective on life and happiness. This will give you an opportunity to have a mature conversation that lets you go beyond the usual banter. A profound question like this will really allow you to get to know a girl better.
16. What is one TV series that you discovered on your own?
“Netflix and chill” is the mantra of the 21st century. There could be some less popular TV series that she could have just discovered and liked a lot. This will teach you about her tastes in movies and TV shows. This is an important compatibility checker for you. You can watch the show she recommends and judge her taste for yourself.
17. If there was a zombie apocalypse, what would you do?
Girls love a guy who can make them laugh. This question will tell you if your girl likes to be the hero of the hour or the damsel in distress! Put on your thinking cap and prepare for a zombie attack over text. You can role-play and be her partner in crime or her protector. Time to let your imagination run wild and have a good laugh!
18. What is the weirdest dream you have ever had?
This is one of the fun questions to ask a girl. Her answer could be literally anything from an animated candy wonderland to dreams about the apocalypse. You can share your weird dreams with her too. This will give you loads to talk about and laugh over.
19. What is the one question you wish people stopped asking you?
There are a few typical questions that everyone keeps asking you and you’re tired of answering. The questions are very generic ones like why she’s so thin or fat or what her name means, or when she plans to get married etc. There comes a point in everyone’s life when they get sick of being asked the same thing over and over again. Make sure you exclude this question from your list of “questions to ask a girl”.
20. If you had to trade lives with someone for a day, who would it be?
At some point in our lives, we have always imagined ourselves living the life of another person for a day. She will probably give you the name of someone who inspires her to the core. You could get an interesting answer which will help you get to know her better.
21. What is the one thing you’re most passionate about?
If you haven’t already asked her this, what are you waiting for? If you want to get to know about a girl, ask her about the things she’s passionate about, what inspires her to the core, and what her driving forces are! You can get to know if she cares about the environment, animals, social causes, or making her career. This will give you a great acumen of the kind of person she is. Also, if you share passions, you can talk about them for days on end!
22. What is something that others find weird but you don’t?
You tend to bond faster with someone by knowing their weird habits. If you’re lucky, you might share the same type of weird habits. If this is the case, you have found your match!
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Always remember, the intention is to get to know the girl in a way that no one does. These aren’t just questions to ask a girl, but your ticket to stand out in a crowd. Girls like people who take a keen interest in them and surprise them by thinking out of the box. Be out of the ordinary so she remembers you. Don’t forget to ask her follow-up questions so that you keep the conversation flowing and easy-going. She will appreciate your interest in her and you will immediately come to her mind when she sees something that reminds you of a conversation you both had.