What is a sex-cation?
A sex-cation is a way out of the dreaded ‘seven-year itch’, or even before that. It need not be a whole week vacation to a fancy island. A sex-cation can be during the weekend, spending a night in a hotel in the same city as your family. The whole point of a sex-cation is to have the entire time dedicated to each other, interrupted by none.
Usually, in a marriage, with a job and kids in the next room, a couple can never have a full hour of uninterrupted sex. Reinventing sexual urges and executing them is what a sex-cation is all about. Sleeping in late and having middle-of-the-day sex is what it is all about. A vacation to solely clear out the dust settled on the erotic pedals of a couple.
Sex-cation is popular and crucial for these reasons.
Sex, sex and more sex
The whole concept is built around the prospect of more sex for the couple. The built-up of sexual energy that can happen over months and weeks of paused sex-life is to be released well during a sex-cation. Just the couple, with a place of their own, with no distant knocks on the door or no fear of being overheard by the family are some of the things a sex-cation offers.
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While a sex-cation is for couples to have sex in a more relaxed fashion and in a different place, it is also about connecting more than just sexually. It is to have a time bubble of their own, cut off from everything that occurs daily. Apart from revamping one’s sex life, a sex-cation is about being more intimate with each other; sharing things that kind of gets lost in the everyday shuffle. Like dancing naked, playing with each other (sexual and non-sexual way) is a great way to connect.
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To try anything
Is it all about missionary sex that lasts for a minute and a half? Sex-cation omits out that fully. Things that are too trite to be tried at home like total bondage chick or the Dominatrix with a cracking whip is what a sex vacation should be all about.
While planning a sex-cation, the anticipation of the upcoming vacation keeps one more rooted and livelier than most days. A vacation with the family is more of a business trip than a fun getaway. Travelling with just the partner and planning for it is half the fun in itself. Foreplay builds up long before the actual trip, knowing fully well, that there is passionate sex waiting at the very beginning of the trip. Hell, the whole trip is built on that. The feeling of upcoming “fun” is sure to make the tedious days bearable.
Sex-cation is like a second honeymoon. No family, no kids, with the couple alone ready to do the nasty. Most of it is spent lying indoors, ordering food, having “fun”, hydrating, hopping into the shower for a make-out, crawling back to bed – all the hormones are raging and the dopamine levels hit the right notes. There is no question of leaving the room for sightseeing like in a typical vacation. So when the couple leaves to go back to the monotony of life, they are highly energised. And all the sex and lying indoors is to leave the skin looking better than ever.