8 Signs Your Wife Disrespects You (And How To Deal With A Disrespectful Wife)

how to deal with a wife who disrespects you

Maintaining a healthy and prosperous relationship after marriage is usually not a cakewalk. Add to it a partner who does not respect you; then surely it is going to be very difficult to be happy in the relationship. If you are facing a situation in which your wife disrespects you daily, then you have come to the right place. We are going to help you get acquainted with the signs of disrespect from your wife’s side and how to deal with it suitably.

8 signs your wife disrespects you

In married life, your wife and you must respect each other equally. If you are the one who is getting disrespected and thinking that your wife will change eventually, then maybe you are wrong. Until and unless you know the signs of lost respect in the relationship, you will neither be able to help your wife improve nor will be able to salvage your relationship. Let us quickly go through the 8 signs of disrespect and later on move on to the ways to deal with a disrespectful wife.

1. Making fun of you is her favourite pastime

Whenever your wife meets her friends or family members and makes fun of you in your presence, it means she is not respecting you enough. If she does this sometimes, then it might be tolerated. However, if she gets into the habit of cracking jokes on how you look, how you speak, how you sleep, etc. in front of others, then it is a sign of disrespect. Such disrespect from your wife is also emotionally draining.

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2. She tends to complain a lot

No matter what you do, your wife does not seem to get satisfied or happy. It is as if nothing you do is good for her. She is always nagging you to become a better person and complaining about things that should not even matter in the first place. It is just her way of bothering you and disrespecting you as a person.

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3. Your wife fails to listen to you

Since she has lost respect for you, it is very much possible that she does not even have the courtesy to listen to you. Your wife will give excuses to avoid talking to you. On the other hand, if you do find her and want to share something important with her, she will remain distracted. What you do or say does not matter to her any more and she fails to give you attention. This is an absolute sign she disrespects you.

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4. She shuns her responsibilities

A disrespectful wife will not make any efforts to share the responsibilities of family life with you. Whenever you will try to approach her regarding her responsibilities, she will cook up some defence.

She might also shamelessly shun her duties because she hardly cares about your or anyone’s opinion now.

5. Your wife keeps secrets from you

After marriage, you both are supposed to know about each other’s lives completely. Both of you are expected to share not only your dreams but also your failures with each other. However, if your wife keeps secrets from you about her personal life and you get to know about them from someone else, do pay heed to this sign.

6. She blatantly flirts with others in front of you

The fact that she is married to you does not stop her from flirting or becoming romantic with others and that too right in front of you. This means that your feelings no longer matter to her any more and mind you, this is highly disrespectful in any relationship.

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7. She is no longer your support system

Your wife is expected to always stand by your side and act as your backbone in good as well as bad times. Even you are expected to do the same. However, if she does not support you or help you in times of need, then it means she is breaking the promise of together and forever.

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8. Your wife becomes physically distant from you

If you try to make any physical contact with your wife, then she will probably keep a distance from you and avoid you. This is because she disrespects you and does not care about your sexual desires and needs any more. She might even turn into a rude spouse when it comes to rejecting your sexual advances.

The moment you realise that your wife is no longer showing you the respect you deserve in the relationship, you must take appropriate action to save your marriage. At the right time, talk to your wife and try to know what the issues between the two of you are so that accordingly, you both can find a solution together.

5 ways to deal with a disrespectful wife

How to deal with a disrespectful wife? This is a question that has been on your mind. When you got married, you would have never thought that your wife would not show you respect, will become impolite and become a completely different person. It will be disappointing for you, but you can follow these 5 ways to deal with a disrespectful wife and lost love in the relationship.

1. Do not get offended

We know that this is not an easy tip to follow, because you are bound to get upset if your wife behaves rudely with you or disrespects you. But following this might help you overcome your anger and probably understand the reason behind such behaviour of your wife. By getting offended, you will just create more mess in your relationship. This is the first step to deal with a disrespectful wife.

2. Confront her at the right time

You must ensure that you select an appropriate time and place to talk to your wife about her behaviour. Ask her what is wrong and lend a helping hand to help her improve her rude behaviour towards you. Probably she has stressed or something and is not disrespecting you intentionally. So you have to talk to her and understand her viewpoint first. This is an effective way to deal with a disrespectful wife.

how to deal with a wife who disrespects you

Husband improving her rude behaviour Image source

3. Give her the necessary personal space and time

When you know that she is not interested in giving you attention and respect, then the best move on your part would be to leave her alone. Give her ample personal space and time, so that she can appreciate the importance that you have in her life and probably she will start respecting your opinions as well.

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4. Confide in a close friend/relative

You can reach a point in your relationship when the disrespect from your wife seems to be bugging you a lot and you are unable to find a solution to this whole scenario. What you can do in such a situation is confide in a close friend/relative whom you trust and who will give you safe and sound advice. Maybe talking to this friend/relative will give you a whole new perspective regarding how to deal with your disrespectful wife.

5. Always be ready to move on

What to do if your wife disrespects you? No doubt you will give all the chances you can to your wife to improve her behaviour towards you.

But just in case nothing works out, you have to be ready to let go of your wife. Remember, a disrespecting spouse is never going to make you happy and satisfied with your relationship. So always be ready to move on.

Respect and love are like two sides of the same coin. If these two are not forming the foundation of your relationship, then it cannot survive the test of time. So think about this carefully and take a decision wisely. There is no single solution to the question of how to deal with your wife when she disrespects you? We provided a few answers, it’s up to you to make a choice. All the best!

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Anoliefo Chukwuebuka
Anoliefo Chukwuebuka January 10, 2020 - 5:27 am

Is well I have moved on

Thomas December 7, 2019 - 5:49 pm

My wife of 30 years we love each other at times. Butstressed with each other here lately. She likes to pick things that could have no matter whatsoever. She disrespects me. When she feels like it.another lady has been interested in me for over 2 years. But she is kind and sweet to me she doesn’t stress me out at all. When she texts me she’s always asking how was my night and how am I doing. That’s the kind of person that I want to be with. What should I do.

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