Female masturbation is not as uncommon as people think it is. It is true that men talk about it more openly but women do it as well.
There’s no reason to be ashamed – women masturbating is healthy, and it can work wonders for your sex life. It is totally normal to crave an orgasm and let’s be honest, women know their bodies and needs better than any man.
It’s Not Just Men Who Enjoy Masturbation
Masturbation is not an act reserved exclusively for men. Men, women and everyone in between masturbates for pleasure and satisfaction. It is taboo even for men in our society, so it is sometimes unimaginable for women.
Women are considered, socially and commercially, as objects of desire. So it is hard to imagine that they can have sexual desires and take measures to address them. But they do. Sometimes even more than other genders.
In a society where most men are unaware of the existence of the clitoris, masturbation is sometimes way better than sex. It transcends to another level when toys come into play. Sometimes even after satisfying sex (for the man) and the women faking it, most women resort to masturbation while the man goes off to sleep.
So, you see, masturbation and female orgasm are more closely linked than most people would like to believe. For a closer glimpse into the secret world of women’s orgasm, let’s take you through the stories of 7 women who embraced masturbation:
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Soni’s story: Best form of sexual release
I didn’t have a boyfriend until my first year in post-graduation. Though I’m straight, I didn’t feel the need to have a man to satisfy me during my hormonal teen years. I discovered my clitoris in my early teens and ever since I’ve never felt dissatisfied. I and my body are enough.
The first time I had sex, it was with an inexperienced person. It was bad and tiring. It stopped me from getting intimate with anybody for a long time. But I never suffered from sexual frustration. Now, I knew female masturbation is the best form of sexual release.
Archana’s story: My fingers work like magic
I met my ex when I was barely a teenager and were together for a while. We went from romantic hand-holding to wild sex in a matter of months. I was a hormone-crazed teen who liked every sexual advance and didn’t have any sexual experience other than with my then-boyfriend.
However, once we broke up, I started rediscovering myself sexually. One-night stands, phone sex, BDSM, and of course, masturbation. The journey has been worthwhile and I learned that I could give myself a better orgasm than my ex ever did.
Be it phone sex or a glass of wine in the bathtub, my fingers work like magic and deliver every time. Unlike the way it was with my ex – he was usually done before I rose.
The best thing about masturbation is that there is no need to impress anyone else. You know what you want, what you need, and you do that for yourself. It’s the most intimate form of self-care!
Aditi’s story: I rode my pillow to orgasm every night
I’m a small-town girl and I’ve been saving myself for marriage. Sex is out of the question, I was even ashamed to touch myself. Nobody ever teaches you these things and I was not born in the age of Google. I can now confess that my side pillow was my first boyfriend. It’s embarrassing, but I’ve come to terms with it.
I would put it between my legs and ride it every night to satisfaction. I loved the feeling of pleasure. I would do it under a sheet, even during summer, as I was embarrassed about it. It was not until my husband Vikram went down on me that I started regretting what I missed during all that time.
Proma’s story: My girlfriend gave me the roadmap to orgasm
I hate dicks and even the idea of penetration. I knew I was a lesbian even before I knew which flavor of ice cream I liked most. An older cousin once told me that peeing after holding it in for a long time gives one the feeling of orgasm. I tried and it doesn’t.
Then I met Mita, she was a senior in my school. Something clicked when her fingers touched my clitoris. She almost drew me a roadmap to masturbation when she fingered me. That was the best orgasm of my life.
To date, I follow that very road map on my pleasure hunts. Mita opened my eyes to a whole new world, and although we are not together anymore, I’m still grateful to her for showing me this magical world.
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Nilima’s story: I shagged myself after sex
If you need something done right, you need to do it yourself. My experimental phase when I dated boys was thoroughly dissatisfying. All they wanted to do was the same old in-out routine. I couldn’t make them understand that my pleasure centers are not inside my vagina. I don’t think they really cared.
I didn’t know how to communicate this to them, and I refused to understand myself. I was unwilling to listen to my own body. But not for long.
After they were done I would go to the bathroom and shagged myself. The best feeling was when I would stand under the shower and finger myself. Nothing matched it until I embraced being a lesbian. A female orgasm for me can compare to nirvana.
Titir’s story: Orgasmed without touching myself
Did you know that girls don’t even need to touch themselves to have an orgasm? My masturbation sessions started with Mills&Boons. I remember getting all sweaty and worked up reading Mills&Boons in the hot afternoons during summer vacations.
Watching Raveena Tandon dancing to the tunes of “Tip Tip Barsa Pani” would get me worked up and wet. I didn’t actually touch myself, but I started getting orgasm even without it, early on. It’s a blessing that a woman’s orgasm doesn’t show; otherwise, it would have been a scandal.
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Piyali’s story: Orgasmic fantasies
I don’t know how others masturbate but I come for narratives. It’s not so much as the intercourse that gets me going but the events leading up to it. When I’m alone and want to masturbate, I ask myself: Who do you want tonight? It’s usually some fictional character or celebrity who arouses me.
I was ashamed to admit it initially, but now I embrace the truth. Female masturbation is normal, and it’s time it became socially acceptable. If the thought of a movie character gives me pleasurable feelings, then why stop the thought?
I would think of impossible situations where I meet them and they are drawn to me. I would imagine how they will kiss me, hold me, slam me up the wall and want me, just me. I usually fall asleep satisfied even before I get to the intercourse.
In that way, I don’t feel guilty about cheating on my boyfriend, even in my mind. I love my boyfriend very much, but sometimes he doesn’t understand my needs. As long as I have myself, I should be fine.
Female masturbation can open new doors and transport you to the zeniths of pleasure hitherto unknown. What’s more, it helps you understand your body better, which holds the key to a fulfilling and robust sex life. Particularly given that so many men are absolutely clueless about the female anatomy.