So a hot guy helped you carry the groceries to the car and you managed to take his number. Feels like a major victory? Well, no doubt it is. But hold your horses it is just the beginning. Because now that you have his number, the next big step is to reach out.
At that stage, the ‘what to text him?’ dilemma is bound to weigh on your mind. Trust us when we say that the first text is like creating a virtual first impression. And needless to say, the first impression is often a lasting one, if not permanent. That’s why a lot of us feel nervous about initiating contact.
Your first text will determine the nature of your relationship with this guy. So typing a ‘Hey’ and waiting for him to ask ‘Who is this?’ is a big NO! So, what should you text to a guy you just met? We bring you seven pro tips to up your texting game:
1. Start With Humor
You don’t have to be a great comedian or someone with a killer sense of humor to impress a guy. But by using whatever humorous tricks you have up your sleeve, you can tickle him at the right places and increase your chances of getting a quick reply.
‘Going shopping again. Want to help Mr. Gymnast?’
‘Would you like a thank you through a text or should I treat you at Starbucks?’
2. Make Plans That are Too Firm to Deny
Shy girls waiting for the man’s approval is oh-so-last-generation. This is 2020 and girl, trust us when we say, men today like their women bold and blunt. They too want to be pursued, made a move on, and asked out for a date. So don’t be shy and throw a firm plan through your first text that is too good to say no to.
“I saw this place that makes amazing salads and it instantly reminded me of you. I’d like to share a meal with you there. How is tomorrow at 7 pm?”
3. Use Praise to Get Him to Respond
So the guy you have your heart set on might have something worth praising about (that’s why you have fallen for him, right?). Use that quality, incident, or skill to meet him again. Tell him you are interested in that ‘thing’ and would like to learn or acquire the same from him. While you’re at it, throw a few compliments in the mix.
“Your physique inspired me to join the gym. Would you like to train me?”
“Next time I would like to be able to carry my grocery bags. Would you like to help me become a fitter version of myself?”
4. Ask Him to Accompany You
If going all bold is not your cup of tea, we have another smart idea that works with guys (mostly). Be the damsel in distress and ask him to be your knight in shining armor.
How? Make a plan (a supposed plan) and tell him you have no one to go with. Be wise while you plan and take into consideration what he would probably like (so the chances of him turning you down are next to none). Tell him you need company, and if he is a gentleman, we are sure he won’t let you down.
“Have movie tickets for two but no one to go with. Interested?”
“Had booked a camping trip this weekend but my best friend has fallen sick. Would you like to go with?”
5. Use a pick-up line
And let’s break the norm, not only women but men too can be swayed by pick-up lines. They too like someone hitting on them in style rather than just waiting for them to take the first move. So, ladies, it’s time for you to sharpen your skills and woo the man with your witty one-liners.
And as always we are here to help you out with a few ideas:
“Roses are red, bananas are yellow, want to go out with me, nice fellow?”
“Hey, I’m pretty and you’re cute. Together we’d be Pretty Cute”
“I have had a really bad day and it always makes me feel better to see a stunning smile. So, would you smile for me?”
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6. Be Direct
So nothing from the above suggestions look appealing? Why not stop beating around the bush all together and be direct and open about your interest in him. So without thinking too much, type the first thing that comes to your mind and make things crystal clear.
“You see… I am not the kind of girl who waits for a message.”
“Haven’t stopped thinking about you since the time we met”
7. Get to know him better
It is better to start with knowing the guy better rather than outrageously hitting on him. So here are few starting phrases that would help you know where he stands in the boyfriend-material list or not.
“Is helping others your hobby or am I special?”
“What else do you do apart from helping women at the grocery store?”
“Doesn’t your girl mind you helping another woman?”
The last question is a great way to make him spill beans on his current relationship status.
Hope these suggestions help you create a great first text-impression on the guy. We suggest texting him on the same day (or night) that you have met rather than playing the waiting game and hoping he will make the first move. Chances are the longer you wait, the fainter your memory will get in his mind. So if you are the one who likes him, just give it a try. Who knows he may be more awed with your guts than your looks?
NO! this is 21st century and we have come way beyond ‘I am a girl so I can’t make the first move’. We all our humans and feelings are natural so whosoever likes the other person first, makes the first move. And if the guy thinks you are a ‘slut’ for approaching him first, then my friend, block him from all the possible places you can, including your heart.
There can be two reasons for this, first – he might be too busy and skipped a reply. Second – he is not interested in you. In order to know which one applies, we suggest you text him again, if the reply comes, it was the former reason and if it doesn’t, you know where you stand.
Chances are he might fall into the category ‘Beauty to see but of no use’, if that is the case, you better friendzone him in the best possible way before things start to get too serious for him.