We all oohed and aahed when Ranbir Kapoor romanced older Aishwarya Rai in Ae Dil Hai Mushkil. But what does it take to date an older woman?
Get your basics straight
Make your partner feel that you are with her, not just for the thrill of the age difference. Make her believe that you love her for being her. Ensure that she should not feel that you are in a relationship with her for her age.
Respect her values
You should always remember that she might not be a person of your generation, so she might not have the same tastes and preferences as yours. Don’t get cranky if she refuses any of your wild plans.
Don’t pretend to be someone you are not
Don’t fake experiences because you may get caught. There is no shame in being truthful about yourself. Your inexperience may make you learn from her.
A little compliment now and then can go a long way in making her feel special. Never miss a chance to make her think that she’s beautiful. But be genuine with it. False compliments will only make her wary of your intentions.
Don’t try to impose your lifestyle on her
You are young, and you may enjoy clubbing and hang out with friends pretty often. But she might not like doing all those, for which you should not try to impose your habits upon her.
Be respectful of her past
You should not be judgmental about her past experiences. Her past has made her what she is today – the woman you fell in love with. There is no point in being disrespectful towards what you can’t change.
Don’t be jealous of her success
The chances are that she might be more successful in her career than you. But it should not make you feel green-eyed. In fact, you may even pick up some valuable points about life.
Value her constraints
She might have past and present commitments. Like she might have her child to look after or have some family responsibility. So you should not expect her to give all her time to you but must give her the space she needs.
Make her a part of your social life
You should be not ashamed to take her out with your friends and let her gel with them. This way, you will not feel as if you are being caught between two worlds.
Be charming always
Don’t let your charm go for which she has chosen you. Be exciting and be appealing to her.
Nowadays, relationships which don’t follow conventional boundaries are no longer seen as a taboo. So don’t shy away from your relationship with an older woman. Be free.