Women and happiness
If you are going through a particularly rough patch in your life, you will realise what it feels like to look at other people and wonder how they all look so happy and sorted in life. The people around you seem to have a satisfying job, are happy with their family lives and they seem to go through days like they are always lit up by the sun. I know what you are thinking. You find those kind of people annoying. But you really don’t, do you? Instead you are left wondering how you always seem to fall just short of happiness even though you work so much harder for it than the people around you. But don’t worry. You are not the only one who feels this way.
Though perhaps rather than looking at the side where the grass seems greener, it is time you look within and find out exactly where you might be going wrong. Believe it or not, our choices in life affect our happiness a lot. Yes, luck comes into play too but it is our habits and decisions that opens up certain doors while close the others. So, in case you are now wondering what exactly it is that regular women like you do to stay happy and satisfied with life, here is a list of some answers to that question. Women who are happy in life:
1. Put themselves first
Society will tell you how it is important for women to put others first. But while caring for your loved ones is important, you must remember to always put yourself first. If someone is making you unhappy, cut them out. If people are being rude, call them out. If something is bothering, speak up instead of choosing to stay silent. Silence, in this case, is not golden. Women who stand up for themselves first are the ones who get standing ovations in this world. So remember to have your back, no matter what.
2. Choose their dreams
A lot of people will ask you to put your family and related responsibilities before your dreams. But, truth is, in most cases you do not need to kill one off to sustain the other. Caring after your family is as important as choosing to follow your dream and not giving up. If you give up on your long-cherished dreams for someone, you will inherently despise them for it later. Isn’t it better to take the harder decision now than trying to struggle through bitterness later?
3. Select partners who respect them
Many will choose to stay on in a dead or abusive relationship just because it’s familiar and the outside world is scary. Others will choose to settle for jerks because they do not know they deserve more. Remember, you deserve love that is wholesome and not manipulative and draining. Do not put yourself through the pain of dating someone who does not respect you. “You accept the love you think you deserve” so remember that, no matter who you are, you at least deserve basic human decency.
4. Are kind to people
This might be the hardest of them all. When the world is beating you down, it is really hard to offer people flowers and warmth. But you still must do it. Help a stranger carry their groceries. Volunteer. Feed the local strays. Be kind, always be kind. Even if the world does not repay you with the same warmth, you will know that you did a good deed. That, even for a second in a stranger’s life, you mattered. And that is the answer to all of humanity’s questions of purpose.
5. Probably have a dog
Jokes apart, you would be surprised how much having someone’s unconditional love and trust in you can ground you. It gives you purpose and a sense of peace to know that, no matter what, there is at least someone who will always be by your side. It will make you want to live up to the trust they place on you and become a better person.
To be fair, there is a high chance that these women also stuff their faces with biryani at least thrice every week to cope. So, don’t worry. You are doing great. And remember, no matter how late the train, it will chug into the station one day. And you will finally be home.