What is it that women really want from men in the bedroom? Dr Paras Shah, sexologist, tries to shed some light on this.
Whether IAS or IPS officers or businessmen or even doctors – once a couple gets married, the husband and wife both expect that they have to perform the best. If you do not have basic knowledge, how will you be able to do so? Most men think that once they get erections, they have to start having sex – they hardly know what foreplay is. In India people think that sex happens only at night, in the dark: around 40% of couples only have sex in the dark at night, they hardly see their faces or each other’s naked bodies in light – even after having 2 or 4 kids or even after having sex for many years. And because of this, there is no foreplay. Men are like a matchstick – they ignite quickly and they douse quickly too. And women are like iron – they take long to warm up and take time to cool off as well. But people don’t know this and so they don’t do foreplay. Foreplay is important for both – if the female has had no foreplay, she will not get lubricated, which leads to pain on penetration. She may not reach climax and because of this day by day her interest in sex decreases.