“If this were a different time, a different place, I would take you to bed with me and make love to you for days.”
― Anne Stuart, Black Ice
What are the signs he enjoys making love to you? If you’ve wondered that often during or after your intimate moments with your partner, know that you’re not alone. We have received many queries from women wanting to know this very thing: whether their man is making love or just using them for sex. Also, they want to make sure that the man enjoys making love to them, just as much as they do.
Making love can be the most beautiful experience we can have while connecting with another person we feel extremely attached to. If you are in love, you want the sex too to be driven by that all-consuming romance. You want to lose yourself in your partner, you want your partner to lose himself in you. The act of mere sex, which is normally without much emotional connection, when compared to making love can be as different as chalk and cheese.
Women today want to experience intense, passionate lovemaking sessions and explore their sexuality with the person they have given their hearts to. That becomes easier when you know whether what you have with your partner is love or lust? Does he make love to you or just answers to bodily lust? Though there is nothing wrong with a little lust in life, sex becomes a hundred times more pleasurable and satisfying when it is driven by passionate love.
We have for you the most common signs that indicate that your man loves to make love to you, and looks forward to it.
15 Signs He Enjoys Making Love To You
A lot of women deal with this, whether they are married, dating or in an extramarital relationship. For instance, even when you see the signs a guy is really turned on by you, it can be hard to decipher whether it is because he loves making love to you or driven by his carnal urges.
Owing to that, you may feel that you are missing out on the emotional aspect of this very physical act and feel a lingering sense of mild dissatisfaction. ‘Is my partner using me just for sex? Is what we have just a physical affair?’ Interestingly, these thoughts and the need for reassurance that the act of sex is stemming from a place of love are more predominant among women.
Women, willy-nilly give in more and somehow get used to expecting less, especially between the sheets. If she sees signs the kiss meant something to him, she may even make peace with not getting her shares of pleasure in the bedroom. But it is important to know how your partner behaves with you in bed is also a way of knowing what you mean to him outside of it.
If all his actions are about getting you in the bed till the next time you see or speak to him, then it is obvious he is into the relationship just for sex! But if he is involved with his heart, mind and body and thinks about your needs too, he’s making love with you and not just having sex.
Here are 15 signs to know if he enjoys making love to you for sure:
1. It shows in his eyes
The way he looks at you says a lot about how he feels about you. While having sex if he takes a short break just to look into your eyes with love and passion, he is into you and wants to capture the moment with you. When a guy looks at you while kissing, it’s his way of conveying he loves you without saying it.
You can feel his love for you in his eyes, and you will know that he is completely immersed in this act and enjoying making love to you. When a man locks his eyes into yours in the act of making love, it is a way of him reading your responses so that he can bring you even more pleasure. Be assured he is with you because of love.
If he tries to avoid eye contact, there could be two possibilities: he could either be feeling shy or awkward or it could be a sign he may have sex with you but doesn’t love you anymore. See if he pauses just to have a glimpse of you in between, showing that he loves you but is feeling shy.
2. He will smother you with kisses
How to tell he loves you by his kiss? Well, just think back to your first kiss and how it made you feel. Those butterflies in the stomach multiply when you kiss the person you love. When he wants you, all of you, you and he both will relive that heady feeling over and over every time your lips lock.
He will kiss you all over your body over and over again. He will smother you with kisses and that is a way of showing that he cannot get enough of you. In the act of kissing, his desire for you becomes more obvious than anything. The way he kisses you will make you feel the intensity of his love for you. These are all signs the kiss meant something to him.
Men who are with you just for sex would simply get down to business and get it done with.
3. He will be a giver
One of the ways he shows he loves you without saying it is when he prioritizes your desires and pleasure in bed. He will arouse you and make you moan. He will indulge in foreplay and arouse your sensitive nerves, he will stimulate your erogenous zones.
He will go down on you and ask you what you would enjoy. He will ask you whether he is going too fast or too slow. It will be as much about you as it is about him. His moans and involvement will tell you about how much he enjoys being with you and in your arms.
4. You both will have a lot to talk about
Making love isn’t just about sex. There are deep and meaningful conversations post the session. And in those intimate conversations, he will bear his soul to you, his fears and strengths, his dreams and desires, his past traumas and how he healed.
Many hidden issues do come out during these conversations and go a long way in making the relationship stronger and even more beautiful. Some of them could be about you too. He will tell you things that he may have not told anyone before. The depth of these conversations will show how much you mean to him. He is not just fulfilling a physical need, but you are a part that makes him whole.
These are all signs he enjoys making love to you. If you see these in your relationship, breathe easy. Your man is besotted with you.
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5. He will build up the passion
He will indulge in more foreplay to warm you up and make you feel that he is truly enjoying making love to every part of your body. You man will ask about your sex fantasies and dreams. He will take the time to get you fully aroused, either by slow kissing or playing with your erogenous zones.
One of the unmistakable signs a guy is really turned on by you is that he will make sure you are as ready as him for the final act and want it as much too. He will not rush anything. When a man enjoys making love to a woman, he relishes every moment of the act and doesn’t fixate on his orgasm alone.
Do remember that every time you have sex it need not be long and elaborate, sometimes he may be in the mood for a quickie, and sometimes you can be too. But what separates lovemaking from sex is that even these quick sessions don’t feel hollow.
6. He will take your name
If you’re looking for signs he loves you when making love, pay attention to what he says during the act. Notice his words when he is in throes of passion. If he calls your name often, it is his way of showing that it is YOU, all over!
You are the one that is giving him this pleasure and whispering your name during the act just heightens that pleasure for him by making him feel more connected to you. Hearing your name during such intimate moments can be etched in the memory forever.
Remember to speak out his name too and make him feel special.
7. He wants more of you
Men are, usually, done once they reach the climax. Normally, men are inclined to go off to sleep after they are done. It is important to remember that most probably it is the man who has done the most heavy- lifting and he may be genuinely tired.
Even so, when a man is emotionally invested and connected to you, he will take the time to show you how much he has enjoyed being with you before he does that. Even after he reaches his climax, he will pull you into him and shower you with affection. He will find ways to show you how happy he is with you even if for a few minutes. These are all signs he enjoys making love to you.
Another crucial aspect to keep an eye out for is whether he helps you climax? Remember men who care about their women pay attention to exploring and learning about female sexual anatomy. That’s important.
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8. He will stay over
This is for couples who are not yet married or living together. If a man just goes his way after sex, it can make a woman feel very low about themselves. Karen’s boyfriend that this tendency to just get dressed and leave after sex, on one pretext or the other.
She confided in her best friend, “It seems as if when he is done with what he wanted, he can’t even be in the same space that I am. It is almost humiliating.” And, then, she would start wondering if all he wanted from her was to satisfy his physical urge.
If he cares about you, he will stay over cause he knows how going away feels. Maybe the two of you can cook together or simply sip on wine and chat. Or perhaps even watch a show together. Or hug tightly and then sleep.
9. He gets emotional at times
These intimate moments are the time when many men share and express their deep-seated emotions, it is when their softer sides come out. All the complaints you may have about him being non-expressive can be quenched during lovemaking.
One of the tell-tale signs he loves you when making love is that intimacy will be as important for him as the act itself. He may get emotional, in fact even over-emotional, during these moments with you. Do not freak out if you see the side of his eyes brimming or an altogether different bare-all kind of expression in his eyes!
His eyes and words will reflect all that he feels, maybe he will hide in your bosom and feel safe, maybe he will hug you closely to show that you will be safe with him.
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10. He shows his craving for you
He won’t care whether he comes across as desperate. He loves you, loves the act that the two of you share and he will not hesitate to show how much he craves you, both physically and emotionally. He can take the risk of being too available and vulnerable.
He may book a staycation in a five-star resort or do up his place in beautiful lights and aroma candles just to make you feel loved and cherished. Your partner may serve you wine and canapes to show you how much he was looking forward to being with you.
Don’t be surprised if he buys a special satin bedspread or a silk robe for you to make lovemaking more special. These are signs a guy is really turned on by you and also emotionally connected to you.
11. He will try to experiment
When a man is confident of the woman he loves and sure about where he stands with her, he may ask her about her fantasies and offer to explore them with her. He will go to lengths to understand how to make her orgasm, in fact, have multiple orgasms and work toward that.
Among the clear signs he enjoys making love to you is his drive to satisfy you in bed, over and over. He may even experiment with sex toys or bondage. This is his way of telling you that he wants the lovemaking between the two to be even richer and more fulfilling. Men want to experiment only when they enjoy making love with a particular person.
12. He will call you after
One of the signs that he has loved being with you and really enjoyed the lovemaking session is when he makes plans to meet you again, maybe for a coffee or a meal. Just to hang out in a park or with your friends. If he calls you and talks about it, it means that you made a lasting impression on him and he can’t stop thinking about you.
He loves you and enjoys being intimate with you. Check out how his voice sounds while talking about it, is it affectionate? Your answer to whether or not he enjoys making love to you lies there.
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13. He will look happy and content
After having sex, once you both lie in bed next to each other, there will be a glow and a smile on his face. He won’t just turn to his side to go off to sleep, which can be very annoying. He will look at you lovingly which is in a way saying that you are the person for him.
Some men just hold hands after the act, some go and make a cup of tea for their woman. If your lovemaking session had a special relevance – say it was your first time together – he may even get a small gift to let you know how much being with meant to him.
14. He will make breakfast for you
When a man feels a deep emotional connection to a woman, he loves to make her happy. It’s his way of showing he loves you without saying it. And most men know that it is the little things that bring women true joy. For instance, a thoughtful gesture like breakfast in bed after a night of passionate lovemaking is something that one just can’t go wrong with.
So, your man may try it. Check whether he has made your tea and coffee just the way you like it. Or if despite his limited culinary skills, he’s tried to make the perfect spread of poached eggs with sausages, bacon and toast.
To make breakfast for you, he may have ordered your favorite sausages and bacon ahead of time or got the blueberries that you love having. He actually did his online grocery shopping keeping your faves in mind. How cute is that!
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15. He says it – every time without fail
When a man loves what he has shared with you he will find ways to express it. He will message more, maybe send you a morning greeting, he may send you flowers, he may also buy you little things to make you feel special.
Every little gesture is his way of telling you he loves you without saying it. You have to read the signs, that’s all. And if you are lucky enough to have one of those few men who express in words, then you can be sure to be smothered by his expression of love.
When you become physically intimate with the person you love, it is not just the body that is raw and naked. Two people when in love open themselves to each other’s weaknesses and vulnerabilities. Respect his and be honest with yours and enjoy this beautiful union of not just two bodies but two souls. Experiencing this is in itself one of the biggest signs he enjoys making love to you and you to him.