There are times you really want a guy to regret not choosing you. Why? Here’s Veronica’s story. Veronica was in a relationship with Robert for seven long years. She was secure, happy and apart from the usual fights, everything was perfect. Then it happened one day and she didn’t see it coming. He called it quits saying that he had fallen for someone else.
It is a big blow to your heart when someone you thought about having a future with leaves you for someone else. Veronica was distraught, broken and love quickly turned into hatred for Robert. She really wanted him to regret his decision. She wanted an answer to the question: How to make a guy regret turning you down?
Aren’t we all familiar with a situation like this? At some point in your life haven’t you wanted him to regret not choosing you?
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How To Make Him Regret Rejecting You?
Instead of sitting in a corner and crying, you can take charge of your life and show him you are strong with or without him. As an added bonus, you will get to show him how happy you can be without him too. If you’ve been rejected by your partner and want him to regret his decision you need to approach the situation tactfully.
Do not get ready for a full-fledged war with him but sit back and sip the lemonade, things will fall into place. Sometimes it helps you gain clarity.
So how to make him regret not choosing you? How to make him realize the value of what he lost? How to make him realize your worth? The answer is simple, make him realize your worth by just being you. Have confidence and know that you will make the right man very happy one day.
In your heart, you know that he made a mistake not choosing you and he might come to that realization on his own but there are steps you can take to make him understand this sooner. So, how are you going to make him regret ignoring you? Read on.
Here are 8 ways to make him regret rejecting you.
8 Ways To Make Him Regret Not Choosing You?
You can make him regret his decision subtly and simply without going ballistic and making yourself seem crazy in front of him and others.
If you have to make him regret dumping you, you don’t have to be a scheming and angry woman spewing hateful words and badmouthing him to get his attention. Just be who you are and in no time he will start missing you and thinking about you.
Become the kind of girl that guys regret losing. That would be the best revenge on your guy.
1. Always keep your A-game on
If you want him to regret not choosing you, don’t let yourself go while you recover from your break-up. Looking good makes you feel good so remember to stay in shape, get dressed up and go out. But remember you are not doing this for him you are doing it for yourself.
Pull out that perfect black dress or those hep pair of jeans. Looking good will make you feel good and if there are “accidental encounters” with him when you are looking stunning, it’s just providence. He would regret not choosing you.
When in doubt about which colours to wear, red and black are always there to save the day. Wear your best outfits. He won’t be able to take his eyes off you and who knows, you might find the actual of your life in the process.
After a break-up, you might want to just stay home and binge-eat carbs and stay cosy in sweats. It is natural for women to gain weight after a break-up but do not fall into the trap.
Pull yourself together and always remember that working out will not only help you stay in shape but will also release endorphins that will make your mood better.
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2. Get your stories straight
Whenever you run into your ex, the first thing he will ask you is how you are doing. Don’t give him the satisfaction of knowing he still has an impact on your life. With the new free time that you have, do something you have always wanted to do. Invest this time in yourself.
Spend more time towards your professional goals, take on a hobby you have always wanted to try, or even reconnect with old friends. When asked, ‘how are you doing?’, many people are caught off guard after a break-up and don’t know what to say. Be confident in your answer and make him regret dumping you.
Make sure you spend your time wisely and have plenty of updates for him and others. You need to always keep your stories ready about how well you are doing without him and in the process, you will actually start doing better without him.
Don’t use the word “break up” in your conversation and let him know you have moved on.
He won’t be able to see through your lies if you genuinely feel bubbly, bright, and enthusiastic so take this time for yourself.
3. Play the psychology card
When you meet your ex, don’t talk about the break-up but rather a reminiscence about your most memorable dates or trips. This is a great way to make a guy regret turning you down.
Focus on the funny and weird things you both would do together and remind him of the honeymoon phase of your relationship. This will make him reminisce the past and he will remember the fond memories you both shared together.
This psychological trick will make him go down memory lane and remember how happy you both were together.
Remember to talk about the positive memories and not the reasons why you both broke up. He might show signs that he regrets hurting you.
4. Make him jealous
This may seem like you are hitting him below the belt, but sometimes you need to be petty in order to feel better. If you have found someone to make him jealous with that’s great, if not you can always talk about how you are hopeful and ready to enter a serious relationship.
In your conversation with him, you can casually slip in this person you met or are dating. He will start by asking you more questions about him. You can tell him where it’s going and whether you want to stick to just dating or be in a relationship.
Just the mere mention of another guy’s name will make him start asking questions because we all know old habits die hard. He would regret not choosing you and will get jealous of your new partner.
Thinking about another guy in your life will make him regret losing you and he will want you back.
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5. Show him you’re fine
No matter how heartbroken you are, you need to show him you are fine and have come to terms with the breakup. Behave as nothing major happened and soon you will begin to feel this way too. Time heals all wounds.
As an added bonus, this will also remove the initial awkwardness between you guys and he might even soon start racking his brain thinking about how you handled this so well.
He might even start feeling insecure and doubting how serious you were about him.
He will feel jealous that his effect over you is wearing off and he will start putting in efforts to enter your life again in some capacity. Just start pushing him into the friend zone and don’t forget how he treated you.
6. Let him know what you’re up to
Keep yourself busy doing the things you love. You can even try out new things and enjoy your single life. Try exploring new hobbies and interests and this might even make you discover new things about yourself.
These things will help enhance your personality and you will see a better and happier version of yourself.
If he gets to know about what you are up to without him through some common friends then it’s not really your fault, so make sure you let everyone know what you are up to.
Social media could also be a great tool. Don’t be surprised if he starts stalking you on social media when he sees posts of the ‘new and improved’ you. He might even rethink the breakup.
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7. Have loads of fun
Just because he left you for someone else, doesn’t mean your whole world has shattered and your world has come to an end.
In fact, this is the time to finally dye your hair that weird shade or take that crazy trip you never imagined you would. Have fun with your friends and family, the kind which you couldn’t have because you were so absorbed in the relationship. Spend time with your inner circle. It will comfort you too.
8. Love yourself
This phase is all about self-love. When someone rejects you, you feel that you are not worthy of love and acceptance and start to doubt your own self worth. Don’t let this be a blow to your ego and remember that other people do not define your worth, only you do.
People who don’t love themselves enough think that they aren’t worthy of anyone’s love which is completely untrue. Love yourself and know that the right man will come along and appreciate all that you have to offer.
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Once you start loving yourself, you will know your worth and that’s when people will also know your worth too. You will feel more confident about yourself and your entire outlook related to life will change. When he sees the new you, he will get weak in his knees and come after you because confidence is the most attractive thing!
At times when men begin to regret their decision to break up with you, they come back to you and apologize and beg you to give them another chance. He will tell you that he made a mistake and has realized that you are the one for him.
Before you make any decisions in the heat of the moment, remember all the red flags that led to your break up and how he was quick to leave you for someone else. Make sure he is not a commitment-phobe.
Ask yourself if you really want to get back with him. The call is yours. You need to decide whether it is worth going through all that pain again. Know your worth.
Be confident, a happy woman, a go-getter and become the kind of woman a guy would regret losing. Do not sit and sulk over the fact that he dumped you. Ensure you are in a great mood and he finds it astonishing how you have got on with your life.
Once a person is away from you they might get a perspective of what they are missing. A guy could be flooded with happy memories and all the good things about you. Do not sulk or try to be clingy after a breakup, a guy could then realise his mistake in dumping you.
Ghosting is the worst thing a guy can do to a woman. Like he vanishes without a trace, when he comes back and tries to make contact with you, behave he has got erased from your memory. Tell him you feel he doesn’t exist anymore. He will regret ghosting you.
A man might start missing you the moment he is away from you or it could take him some months. After dumping you he might want to enjoy his freedom, or he could start dating someone else. But within no time he would miss all the good things that you brought to his life – love, care, affection.