When it comes to dating, we all like to narrow down our preferences to certain characteristics and traits that we like to see in people. Being picky is good, trust us. When it comes to women, the checklist is even longer. There are many types of men women hate dating when they are casually exploring.
At some of these, they will swipe left without even a second thought. There are men that women adore crazily and those they simply can’t stand. To know more about the types of men women hate dating, you really need to understand what a woman’s expectations are from a partner and in a relationship.
4 Types Of Men That Women Would Never Date
I love guys. I cheer for them, I understand them and I really can’t wait to have a man in my life. (If I am coming off as a despo, truth be told, I am doing it for heightened effect.) In a nutshell, I am so on your team, and this is why it troubles me when a good fellow doesn’t understand why he has been dumped by a woman who was into him not a long while ago.
That’s why I’m here to give you a cheat sheet that will help you date online successfully or just understand the types of men women hate dating. I will tell you why many of you might have been doled out ‘that’ treatment by women. If you think that you belong even remotely to the following categories, you can understand what the problem may be:
1. The anti-hygiene man
Hygiene is important to most of us, more so to women. The point is, it is not enough that you shower every day. There are guys who don’t clip their nails and have dirt or worse – ‘boogers’ – stuck there. The others have dirt at other places! Women hate dating a guy that chooses not to take care of himself.
I once dated a fantastic guy, really witty and caring, but he had a dirt line at the back of the neck. I decided to ignore it at first, but even months after when it grew stronger, I bid adieu. While not many women expect their men to be metrosexual, most of them want one to be clean.
2. The ‘I know everything’ guy
While knowledge and intelligence are likable qualities, Mr ‘know-it-all’ is likely to fall from grace sooner or later. A woman loves being with a man who is well-read, confident in his knowledge and has a unique perspective of things. It is always fabulous to fall in love with someone’s mind. However, there is a fine line there.
Being too snobbish, too glib or too aware of your intelligence can come off as signs of arrogance. Women hate dating a man who knows and wants to constantly be the smartest man in the room. It is a big turn-off.
I recently dated a guy from a pedigreed institution, with good looks and the gift of the gab. By the end of the first date, I got to know that he had daunting knowledge about the coffee brews, method of preparations and whatnot. On the second date, I knew that he was better equipped than the director of the movie we were watching about camera angles and storyboards.
The third day enlightened me on how Mr E Sreedharan (India’s metro man) should have consulted the man I was dating on laying out the route, the beams, and scheduling work on the underground line.
On the fourth date, just as I was biting into a cheesy, juicy, perfectly cooked pizza, I was enlightened on how pizzas in India suck and why should one go to Sicily to enjoy a pizza slice. Not only that, by the end of the date I had lessons on my car’s registration plate and why my spectacles could lead to nerve issues.
I said my goodbyes before he went on to give me lessons on breathing. You get the drift…right?
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3. The ‘lover boy’
A while back, I met a fantastic guy at a friend’s place. He followed me on social media and soon we were exchanging messages. I was enchanted. He was quite a catch and my heart fluttered when he said ‘Juhi’ But in just a couple of hours, he went from addressing me as ‘Juhi’ to ‘Love’ and sending hearts.
My texting anxiety kicked in instantly. I did not know how to respond to his overdramatic love signs. Now I really have a high opinion of myself, but come on, I am not that naive to fall for ‘Love’ and ‘heart eyes’ in a few hours. Clearly, one of the types of men that women hate are the ones who are too juvenile and immature.
A girl wants to be loved yes but we are smart enough to not fall for these corny things so quickly. So guys, if you are really interested in a girl, please, please don’t come on too strong.
4. The ‘nose picker’
Nope, I am not making this up. It is a true story. So true that I can give the coordinates and even a scanned copy of the bill to prove the point. He seemed great at first but soon I realized that he had zero dating etiquette.
I met the guy at a book club. He was sweet, responsive and a good listener. Every bit a gentleman. On top of it, he was working with the UN (my dream organization) and was visiting his parents in India. We bonded over the books we both were reading at the time, international bureaucracy and how he babysits his friend’s daughter once a week.
I had to pinch myself to make sure that I was not dreaming when he subtly hinted that a long-distance relationship is worth it with the right person. I mean is a guy who is not intimidated by long-distance relationship problems even real?
We decided to meet for a proper dinner date the next night. He was considerate enough to pick a place close to my house so I didn’t have to drive much after a long working day.
The date started off nicely, and we soon placed our orders. Right then, when I was talking about my vacation plans, I saw his right index finger reach out to his nose and do the unthinkable. Among the types of men women hate are the ones that are unaware and improper.
I decided to ignore it, but it happened again, I decided to ignore it again but it happened yet again. I just couldn’t control it anymore. The next time he was about to reach for ‘it’, I interjected. “Don’t pick your nose,” I tried to say as nicely as possible.
The food came, the poor guy tried striking up and sustaining the conversation but my interest was all lost. I felt a wee bit guilty, and as a way to atone myself I footed the bill, but the dinner left a bad aftertaste in my mind and mouth.
The lesson: clean your boogie before the date. If you must do it during the date, then excuse yourself and head to a restroom. Never under any circumstance think that the person in front of you will feel the same sense of achievement as you do when you pick your nose. Trust me, women are not that empathetic yet!
I hope sharing my experiences will be helpful. Men and women are not that different; so next time when you send out feelers to a girl, put yourself in her position for a second and then act. Cheerio.